"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Gym Girl Pickups

Flint Stoner

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Ok so I'm working out at my college gym a week ago, I see the sexiest girl I've ever seen in my life, like I'm talking ridiculously hot... so hot I would assume I have no chance. I'm checking her out the entire time, and I'm sure she busted me more than once... I finish my workout and I leave.

Now yesterday same thing, I go to the gym and it's the same girl. So same deal I'm checking her out nonstop. But then when she's leaving, she looks around the room, stares at me, we make eye contact she gives a huge smile and leaves.

Normally I wouldn't make a big deal out of this, but this girl is literally a perfect 10, huge tits, amazing ass and she expressed some interest level, so I want some input from you guys. I was considering "accidentaly" bumping into her when we leave, offering her a drive home and then hitting her with some C&F and number close.


Has anyone ever had great success with a gym pickup?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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speakeasy

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If she smiled at you, then that's a good IOI. I'd say do a direct approach, don't do an accidental bumping.
 

Rocko

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i made a most asking about gym openers and some suggested that you go up to the machine she is using and ask to use it, then joke around (if you are smalller built) and say "Oh, let me adjust the weight way down, sometimes i dont know my own strength with these babies" or the one from anchorman "1001, 1002, 1003...did you hear me counting? i did over 1000 thats amazing!" She should laugh whether she knows where its from or not, its a great way to start up a conversation too
 

wheelin&dealin

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There's no complex mysterious plan for picking-up chicks at different places (e.g. gym, street, subway...) All you have to do is start a conversation. You may have to ask yourself this question first though.. "Are you capable of starting a conversation?"
 

Flint Stoner

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Thanks rocko, I'll giver a shot.

I was reading another post. I thought i had no chance because I'm more of a tall lean ripped guy vs the other huge guys at the gym. But I think some girls aren't down with overly muscular men.

I'll let you know how it goes if I see her there again.

Wheelin&dealin, I'm capable of starting a conversation, but the gym is a different atmosphere. I would get pissed off if girls came and tried to make mindless small talk while I'm in a set. I understand where you're coming from though.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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wheelin&dealin

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Flint Stoner said:
I thought i had no chance because I'm more of a tall lean ripped guy vs the other huge guys at the gym.
Wholly fock pal?? Are u serious with this line of thinking? Chicks don't give a sh*t if you're big and muscular.
 

nonchalant

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wheelin&dealin said:
Wholly fock pal?? Are u serious with this line of thinking? Chicks don't give a sh*t if you're big and muscular.

yeah they just want a decent face, someone who dresses well and is not a fatass. any muscle tone is a plus but not necessary.
 

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Woa, you need to calm down, cuz you're only letting your approach anxiety keep building up. And the longer you wait to approach her, the harder it will get. That's why they call it the 3-second rule, if you let the initial moment pass - it will only get way harder later as you keep psyching yourself up and out...
 

amoka

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Flint Stoner said:
Ok so I'm working out at my college gym a week ago, I see the sexiest girl I've ever seen in my life, like I'm talking ridiculously hot... so hot I would assume I have no chance. I'm checking her out the entire time, and I'm sure she busted me more than once... I finish my workout and I leave.

Now yesterday same thing, I go to the gym and it's the same girl. So same deal I'm checking her out nonstop. But then when she's leaving, she looks around the room, stares at me, we make eye contact she gives a huge smile and leaves.

Normally I wouldn't make a big deal out of this, but this girl is literally a perfect 10, huge tits, amazing ass and she expressed some interest level, so I want some input from you guys. I was considering "accidentaly" bumping into her when we leave, offering her a drive home and then hitting her with some C&F and number close.


Has anyone ever had great success with a gym pickup?
Try only to offer her a ride if you know she is walking home and her home is a bit far from the gym, else I don't think such an idea is a good one. An example of starting a conv:
FlintS: "You must live somewhere close to the gym"
HBP10:" Kind of . I live a couple of blocks away from the gym"
FlintS: with smile " No wonder you're dedicated to your work-out schedule"
HBP10:"Huh?"
FlintS:"Just kidding. I saw you here yesturday and I thought maybe I could come to you for some push-up training..."
The rest of the convo is yours. Carry it where you want it to go.
 

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wayword said:
Woa, you need to calm down, cuz you're only letting your approach anxiety keep building up. And the longer you wait to approach her, the harder it will get. That's why they call it the 3-second rule, if you let the initial moment pass - it will only get way harder later as you keep psyching yourself up and out...
thats true.
 

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Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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