"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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So there's two new girls in my gym who are both new to exercise. I found out because I talked to them a little (just a couple of sentence exchanges) today. They weren't unfriendly, they smiled, but they were kind of on their guard. But that's not the biggest challenge.

The biggest challenge is the layout of my gym, which has guys' locker room and most of the strength training on the upper floor and cardio, group sessions and girls' locker room on the lower. The girls will also be facing a wall while doing cardio although eye contact is possible while passing across them from one direction. What this means is it's going to be really hard to contact them by being in their vicinity and going on the situation unless they are also going to the upper floor and I don't want to come off as the guy in their new gym who's deliberately coming to the floor I don't even work out on trying to pick them up, it gives off a weak vibe.

If they smile and greet me the next time I see them, or even look at me when I look at them (because then I can smile and greet them), then I know I'm in. And there I just realised I answered my own question... make eye contact the next time I see them. But what would you guys with more experience do?
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Yeah okay :p
 
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