There are those that believe they can instantly create attraction through offering material items. The philosophy is, if you appease the female she will be grateful and return some gratitude. A lot of men prefer to purchase a woman’ affection rather than to do any romantic seduction. There are females that actually adore getting gifts. Pam Anderson got offered houses/cars in exchange for a brief romantic encounter. Romantic gift giving spans the globe in every culture. Man has been trying to entice the female species from the beginning of time.
We are pre-occupied with gift giving for romance. Valentines day, Sweetest day, Anniversaries, secretaries day, little gifts just because, not to mention all the sales from flowers when guys screw up in hopes to smooth things over. In a breakup, some ask for their gifts back in hopes to hurt the individual one last time.
Tradition dictates that men pay for the first date, propose to women with an engagement ring, etc. Lets face it, the majority of women are materialistic, they expect the man to finance their fun. The sad part is a ton of men accept this old fashioned value and perpetuate the tradition. What we should be doing is taking a look at the root cause of gift giving. It surely stems from laziness and insecurity, why do the work when you can throw money at a challenge and resolve the issue. This is only a Band-Aid solution that won’t last and does nothing to address the root of your problem.
If you have to resort to paying for a persons affection, you lack self worth. Gifts are ok for special occasions within the confines of a relationship. Problems manifest when we compensate for mundane/boring personalities by monetary injections. If a woman does not like hanging around you for just you then you need to cut her lose, otherwise better be Rich. Flashback to Anna Nicole Smith and you get the jist of what I am saying.
If you are having issues with your lady, best to talk about it and see if you can reach a mutual decision. No amount of gifts will ever fix a relationship, in fact over-gifting speeds up boredom and when people get bored they often seek alternative excitement. LIKE ME FOR WHO I AM ………..not for what I can buy you. Remember the oldschool song "gold diggin Hoes driving me crazy”………it’s true.
We are pre-occupied with gift giving for romance. Valentines day, Sweetest day, Anniversaries, secretaries day, little gifts just because, not to mention all the sales from flowers when guys screw up in hopes to smooth things over. In a breakup, some ask for their gifts back in hopes to hurt the individual one last time.
Tradition dictates that men pay for the first date, propose to women with an engagement ring, etc. Lets face it, the majority of women are materialistic, they expect the man to finance their fun. The sad part is a ton of men accept this old fashioned value and perpetuate the tradition. What we should be doing is taking a look at the root cause of gift giving. It surely stems from laziness and insecurity, why do the work when you can throw money at a challenge and resolve the issue. This is only a Band-Aid solution that won’t last and does nothing to address the root of your problem.
If you have to resort to paying for a persons affection, you lack self worth. Gifts are ok for special occasions within the confines of a relationship. Problems manifest when we compensate for mundane/boring personalities by monetary injections. If a woman does not like hanging around you for just you then you need to cut her lose, otherwise better be Rich. Flashback to Anna Nicole Smith and you get the jist of what I am saying.
If you are having issues with your lady, best to talk about it and see if you can reach a mutual decision. No amount of gifts will ever fix a relationship, in fact over-gifting speeds up boredom and when people get bored they often seek alternative excitement. LIKE ME FOR WHO I AM ………..not for what I can buy you. Remember the oldschool song "gold diggin Hoes driving me crazy”………it’s true.
