"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Guys that say "my wife" all the time in convo.

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What does this injection of "my wife" connotate to you? Is he expecting me to say, "Well, MY wife...(says/does this or that)?" Is he saying he thinks I'm a feminine guy because he's trying to relate his "wife" to my situation or thoughts or inquiries? Is he trying to find out if I can use the words "my wife," to find out if I have a "wife" or "have kids" and continue the conversation on common ground. Is he trying to sniff whether we can speak to each other on common ground (same shoes) of being in a ridiculously difficult long-term relationship? and thus see whether I'm strong enough or "tested" or stressed enough as he is?? Is he trying to one-up me if he suspects I'm NOT married? Is he expecting that I may be married because I'm better-than-average looking with a great career, and just trying to confirm his suspicions or "sizing up" of me by saying, "My wife...blah blah blah?"

I'm talking, I kid you not, probably 50 times a year or more I hear from 50 different guys, "My wife..." probably because he no longer can say, "My friend..."

Of course, I hear a lot of "my husband" or "my boyfriend" too on the other side, but that's fine, it's coming out of a female mouth (which we should all take with a grain of salt, mostly, most of the time, what she says - think your hair-dresser bubbling on about crap, not a nuclear scientist rare-1% female, not the majority of females who REFUSE to think logically - major mental retardation block...to stop...re-assess...and reflect --- they'll spend countless seconds, minutes, hours, and forever shutting their minds off to logic or seeing a man's perspective or at least trying to visualize a man's LOGIC -- Most will just say, "Fvck what you say, I won't even THINK on it, and go my own way, and take what YOU say with a grain of salt (because I can't turn on my brain - now, I can FAKE turning on my brain, but now I can't even do that because I'm tired and I don't care))."
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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What does this injection of "my wife" connotate to you? Is he expecting me to say, "Well, MY wife...(says/does this or that)?" Is he saying he thinks I'm a feminine guy because he's trying to relate his "wife" to my situation or thoughts or inquiries? Is he trying to find out if I can use the words "my wife," to find out if I have a "wife" or "have kids" and continue the conversation on common ground. Is he trying to sniff whether we can speak to each other on common ground (same shoes) of being in a ridiculously difficult long-term relationship? and thus see whether I'm strong enough or "tested" or stressed enough as he is?? Is he trying to one-up me if he suspects I'm NOT married? Is he expecting that I may be married because I'm better-than-average looking with a great career, and just trying to confirm his suspicions or "sizing up" of me by saying, "My wife...blah blah blah?"

I'm talking, I kid you not, probably 50 times a year or more I hear from 50 different guys, "My wife..." probably because he no longer can say, "My friend..."

Of course, I hear a lot of "my husband" or "my boyfriend" too on the other side, but that's fine, it's coming out of a female mouth (which we should all take with a grain of salt, mostly, most of the time, what she says - think your hair-dresser bubbling on about crap, not a nuclear scientist rare-1% female, not the majority of females who REFUSE to think logically - major mental retardation block...to stop...re-assess...and reflect --- they'll spend countless seconds, minutes, hours, and forever shutting their minds off to logic or seeing a man's perspective or at least trying to visualize a man's LOGIC -- Most will just say, "Fvck what you say, I won't even THINK on it, and go my own way, and take what YOU say with a grain of salt (because I can't turn on my brain - now, I can FAKE turning on my brain, but now I can't even do that because I'm tired and I don't care))."
Lol good Post
 
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