TKool said:
Give me an example of when you started focusing on yourself and your happiness that a woman (or women) came into your life?
Do girls say "look at that dude, he's so busy, let me give him IOIs".
I'm just failing to understand how focusing on myself will open doors to female. From my point of view right now, I'll just be more busy but still alone.
This may seem like a DUMB question for those that already got the concept...
Here is the thing: I became INTERESTING.
I think one of the keys of being a great conversationalist is having a LOT of random crap to say about a lot of different topics. When you can meet a woman and talk about business, psychology, religion, philosophy, biology, and do it
passionately because you really are truly interested in what you're talking about, you can have the type of conversation that isn't a 'forced interview' where you're saying anything just to keep the dialogue from stalling out, but actually having a conversation between two people who really are interested in what the other person is saying. This makes a HUGE difference in social interaction.
But the beauty of it is that it's a snowball rolling downhill. Every time you talk to a new person about a new subject, you get THAT MUCH more knowledge that you can then later apply to future conversations. For example I didn't know jack **** about photography before I started talking to random women, but now I'm starting to pick it up and that leads to one thing, to the next, to the next, etc. The thirst for knowledge I've acquired over the past couple years trumps almost anything else (with the possible exception of lifting) in helping me towards my goals as a seductionist. I'm so full of random knowledge that I can speak charismatically about that it's not too difficult to find common ground with a random stranger and make the interaction fun and enjoyable.
It's pretty cool to meet a random girl, keep her completely enthralled with great conversation for 45 minutes, then have to bounce out because you have some other prior commitment. She will be begging you to see her a second time. And when YOU end the interaction first it leaves HER wanting more.
And it is nice creating the "You're so busy and elusive, I'm always wondering what you're doing when you're not talking to me!" attitude about yourself in the women you deal with. They know you're probably being pursued by other chicks, which is good. And it's nice to not have to fake it, because you actually are that busy. The one problem I'm encountering is that I actually am too busy to date. I don't get enough sleep as it is and I just don't want to make time for some girl in my schedule at the moment. But that is nice too as it kills the desperation and reminds you that there are other things in life than getting laid.
Anyways, the lifting thing was absolutely huge for me as well in fostering many changes in my life. The enormous changes in attitude, confidence, and physical attractiveness carried over to basically every single aspect of my life. If you haven't tried it yet, I suggest you do.
