Yesterday I went to play basketball, and there were some alright looking girls playing with us. One of them was really cute, and I would have liked to talk to her, but usually whenever there's a cute girl and guys around, there's always that flies on **** effect which I'm not sure how to get around. what to do in this situation? It seems that whenever there is a cute girl around, she's always surrounded by fools that don't know what they're doing and will compliment the sh!t out of her and guys that do know what they're doing, so how to get around this?
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yea I was wondering the same thing. Yesterday I was on the late bus after school. like 8 people on the bus, and about 6 guys were literally circled around one chick all trying to stay in the convo. And she ate up the attention although she's already friends with these guys.
flies on sh!t effect: how do u beat it?
flies on sh!t effect: how do u beat it?
Was at a bday party a few years back, some girl didnt even know her. she was hot.
so we get there and theres quite a few people there, and it was the same thing, dudes ALL over her, seriously following her around like a fkin paparazzi literally. I introduced myself when i got there then ignored her for the next 2 hours. one of my bros had it really bad confessing his love to her (he was drunk as sh1t). he was the leader of the puzzy munchers that night. it was pathetic.
She eventually broke away from the pack of hungry ass dogs and came right to me and asked me "why arent you talking to me?" booya I was in.
Ended up spending the night and giving her a nice bday present hittin that sh1t like it was the war of the worlds.
bottomline ignore the b1tch why is she worthy of your attention? because she looks good? beauty is a dime a dozen sons, if u fallback she will notice you if she like your energy and looks.
so we get there and theres quite a few people there, and it was the same thing, dudes ALL over her, seriously following her around like a fkin paparazzi literally. I introduced myself when i got there then ignored her for the next 2 hours. one of my bros had it really bad confessing his love to her (he was drunk as sh1t). he was the leader of the puzzy munchers that night. it was pathetic.
She eventually broke away from the pack of hungry ass dogs and came right to me and asked me "why arent you talking to me?" booya I was in.
Ended up spending the night and giving her a nice bday present hittin that sh1t like it was the war of the worlds.
bottomline ignore the b1tch why is she worthy of your attention? because she looks good? beauty is a dime a dozen sons, if u fallback she will notice you if she like your energy and looks.
Julian that's good that it worked out for you there 
About the keeping your distance thing, I somewhat agree, I would feel so low to start acting like those monkeys. Eventually, she did seem to take a liking to one of the guys, you could tell during the game, they were passing to each other all the time, high fiving each other. So that guy must have been doing something right, he wasn't particularly good looking, but he must have done something right.
While the staying away approach, as you did can work sometimes, it seems other times it just won't work, because a lot of girls will never do the whole approach you and why aren't you talking to me thing. So it leaves a bit of conundrum, where you can't approach and build any sort of rapport because of all the monkeys swinging around and she won't approach, because she probably would feel lowered by doing such a thing, or I could be completely over thinking this.
About the keeping your distance thing, I somewhat agree, I would feel so low to start acting like those monkeys. Eventually, she did seem to take a liking to one of the guys, you could tell during the game, they were passing to each other all the time, high fiving each other. So that guy must have been doing something right, he wasn't particularly good looking, but he must have done something right.
While the staying away approach, as you did can work sometimes, it seems other times it just won't work, because a lot of girls will never do the whole approach you and why aren't you talking to me thing. So it leaves a bit of conundrum, where you can't approach and build any sort of rapport because of all the monkeys swinging around and she won't approach, because she probably would feel lowered by doing such a thing, or I could be completely over thinking this.
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Yeah it's just painful to watch the crowd of "orbiters" that are always following hot girls around. What's even more painful is realizing that I was once part of that crowd.
Here at my college I have a group of about 6 guy friends that are constantly orbiting these 2 girls that they hang around with. It's obvious that A) the girls LOVE the attention but B) they are NEVER going to hook up with any of the guys.
They used to invite me along on activities, and if I declined, one of the girls would call me up and say "Hey...why aren't you coming out with us???" and make me feel guilty about it. Now I just sit back and shake my head watching these other guys constantly orbiting them and never getting anything out of it.
Here at my college I have a group of about 6 guy friends that are constantly orbiting these 2 girls that they hang around with. It's obvious that A) the girls LOVE the attention but B) they are NEVER going to hook up with any of the guys.
They used to invite me along on activities, and if I declined, one of the girls would call me up and say "Hey...why aren't you coming out with us???" and make me feel guilty about it. Now I just sit back and shake my head watching these other guys constantly orbiting them and never getting anything out of it.
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the 1st time i saw the "flies on sh!t" effect was in high school.
short puerto rican chick with the fattest a$$ i've seen, had oneitis.
always had a guy next to her, talkin in her ear.
most popular chick in her circle and did'nt know when she was single or datin.
i was one of those flies but because i was shy i did'nt hang around her as much as the others.
just don't hang around them like the other "orbiters"/vie for their attention.
what killed attraction in some chicks i tried to get with was that i did'nt look like i'd leave any second. i was gonna stick around for as long as possible.
short puerto rican chick with the fattest a$$ i've seen, had oneitis.
always had a guy next to her, talkin in her ear.
most popular chick in her circle and did'nt know when she was single or datin.
i was one of those flies but because i was shy i did'nt hang around her as much as the others.
i don't think you have to stay away,
just don't hang around them like the other "orbiters"/vie for their attention.
what killed attraction in some chicks i tried to get with was that i did'nt look like i'd leave any second. i was gonna stick around for as long as possible.
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Girls have different preference when it comes on choosing men they like.
Some would prefer to be with the guy they like but some are not.
Some would choose a person who was simple and quiet.
It's normal that pretty girls were mostly surrounded by guys.
If you like her and want to talk to her just wait when she's alone to talk to her personally. Or make friends with those guys that surround her and join them for you to get to know that cute girl.
Some would prefer to be with the guy they like but some are not.
Some would choose a person who was simple and quiet.
It's normal that pretty girls were mostly surrounded by guys.
If you like her and want to talk to her just wait when she's alone to talk to her personally. Or make friends with those guys that surround her and join them for you to get to know that cute girl.
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Do a search on AMOG-ing.
In brief: you need to join them and engage the whole group. Then assert dominance over the men. Talking loud, starting conversation topics, ect. Once you're the leader the girl will ignore everyone but you.
It's much easier than you may think - men instinctively give power to the hot girls and hot girls are instinctively trying to escape responsibility, so there's usually a huge power vacuum in such groups. (unless there's another player there of course)
In brief: you need to join them and engage the whole group. Then assert dominance over the men. Talking loud, starting conversation topics, ect. Once you're the leader the girl will ignore everyone but you.
It's much easier than you may think - men instinctively give power to the hot girls and hot girls are instinctively trying to escape responsibility, so there's usually a huge power vacuum in such groups. (unless there's another player there of course)