"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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flyjesta81

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ok guys well I posted awhile back about a girl who said she was gonna break up with her bf well she did but then she finally tells me she also went out with another guy and all along i'm here waiting like a dork. this makes me so pissed off should I just forget this b.... or be a total jerk to her from now on?
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Blaaaaat

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Don't ever wait, don't ever become a jerk.

Do go out and hit on other girls, do become a DJ.
 

jnallen

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I am possibly having the same thing happen to me right now. Haven’t figured it out. Although I am not waiting on her. I have been getting other numbers etc.
 

Oscar Wilde

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You're in LJBF territory.

Get out, quick.

You know the drill, read the posts.

Osc.
 

JJMcLure

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You have no reason to be a jerk to her.

I assume you waited around and didn't ask her out, waiting till she broke up with her BF. That was a mistake. Chicks don't stay single long. Hesitation leads ot masturbation.

If you act a jerk to her she won't know why and will just think you're an idiot.

But if you did ask her out and she dated the other guy instead, you will come across like you got your feelings hurt. It'll only hurt your game. She will know she has some power over you and could play a few games and manipulate you.

Never focus on one chick, always have multiple options. You could use this one as social proof, plus does she have any friends?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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PRMoon

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Waiting is NEVER and option!! You should of been hitting on atleast two additional women along side this one so the loss wouldn't of been as detrimental! Bad time management on your part my friend.

I'm going to keep saying it to anyone who isn't in an LTR, hitting on or dating multiple women is not a crime! It's expected that you should spread yourself out to optimize your chances for success. You'll be alot happier and overall be a much better DJ.
 

The_King

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Feel strongly about this one...so thought I would post.

Basically, what the other guys say is completely true. Do not wait around, I stress, do not wait. What do you think is going to happen..she is going to come running to you? she may of been interested but thought that you were not due to your lack of any interest.

Make the move...your the man. I would rather know for sure about things than wait around waiting for things to happen. Take Action , my friend
 

flyjesta81

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Hey thanks for all the inof guys. you know I was pissed off today
she finally told me cheated on her bf with some dude well i told
her that I wasn't going to talk to her anymore. and she said sorry and bunch of crap like that but. she said that she was giving off the wrong impression. I was mad cuz here I am thinkin I was gonna get a chance then she goes with some other dude and cheats. how dumb I think I need some lessons in this stuff cuz
I keep falling in the ljbf category. and it really sucks
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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CyranoDeBergerac

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Being an @$$ is beneath your dignity.

You have been standing on the outside looking in with this girl. You were no more apart of the picture to this girl than a fly on the wall.

Its time to stop wasting your attentions on a girl who doesn't appreciate the effort. You need to move on. Period.
 
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well you live and you learn man next time dont wait for a woman unless if she is like you serious GF or your wife .

but in general i agree with the other DJ s here move on and always have your options open for the next one and protect your heart firstmost ok .



LATEZ!!!! F LOVE , LOVE TO F....
 

flyjesta81

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I was going through my old email account and it led me to this website! Talk about memories! It's crazy how life turns out, I ended up marrying this girl and I have two children now! :whistle:
 

Yo'Mama

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Awesome. So some cheating slvtbag that got tired of riding bad boy alpha c*ck is now mother to your kids. Congrats.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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