Guys please help me here

[captain55]

So I've been official with this new girl for about 2 months now. There is a possibility she thinks she might be pregnant, we are finding out monday. Based on the way she kisses me, texts me, and calls me, I don't think she has been fooling around on me physically but I think she's talked to other guys here and there.

Anyways..a couple of days ago I caught her adding some guy on instagram who I know she used to comment on her pictures. I caller her out on it, and she got very defensive..and said here fine. And stopped letting him follow her.

She made my instagram for me and she has the password, and when I tried to make it on public she threw a fit. She doesn't want other girls following me lol. i checked tonight and she changed it back to private....yup. You've all heard the saying the guilty dog barks the loudest. She's either a cheating liar. Or she's just incredibly insecure and doesn't think she can keep me...but loyal. Still this is the mother of my potential child I would like to find out NOW.

Should I ask her to show me her cell phone next time I see her? Or will this for sure ruin the relationship making me appear jealous?

again my gut instinct says she's not ****ing anyone else, but that she does talk with guys behind my back. Should I let it slide? I mean cheating is cheating even if it is just talking right?

Oh yeah she also wants to get married to me if she's pregnant. Even though I for sure don't wanna get married rgith now. I almost think she would lie about the pregnancy test even if she's not pregnant.. to trick me into marrying her. Again if i make her take the test in front of me its gonna make me look like i don't trust her.

please help me out here

 

[captain55]

so three issues here
1. her having 500 friends on instagram and tons of random guys she doesn't know... meanwhile she gets to have my password. bull**** right?
2. the suspicion about her talking to the guy the other night. I don't think she's ****ing anyone, but still talking...(she got very defensive when I questioned her..an instant sign of lying) Should I let it go?
3. . the pregnancy test

somehow I don't think show me your phone is going to go all to well. (She left her last boyfriend because he was paranoid about him cheating on her fyi)

 

[jurry]

Sounds like a miserable time.. Why would you want to be in a relationship filled with suspicion and jealousy? Move past all that childish bullshît and work on finding someone you trust and enjoy each others company rather than constantly worrying about what the other is doing behind your back.

You guys both have SERIOUS trust issues.

 

[Dreama]

I don't know

 

[captain55]

Sounds like a miserable time.. Why would you want to be in a relationship filled with suspicion and jealousy? Move past all that childish bullshît and work on finding someone you trust and enjoy each others company rather than constantly worrying about what the other is doing behind your back.

You guys both have SERIOUS trust issues.

she hasn't given me a reason not to trust her because I haven't caught her in a lie yet. The fact that she doesn't trust me definitely makes me raise an eyebrow.....but I just don't know mate. I'm in the fence

 

[captain55]

Some thoughts in bold




See what the test says Monday

Didn't use a condom all the time we were both way too drunk. She's not on the pill either lol. I know for fact she is trying to get pregnant with me because she's always trying to get me to have sex her without a condom even when I insist on wearing one and trying to get her on the pill. And when I do use a condom she gets dried up and complains they turn her off (and rolls over frustrated and tries to make me feel bad )

I don't know what she said to the guy on instagram exactly but I just know that up until 8 weeks ago until she was official with me she was liking his pictures. And when I made us official...she stopped liking his pictures out of nowhere..because she felt like it wasn't appropriate to do obviously. . And she adds him again 5 days later? I question her about it and instead of being calm she ****ing FLIPS and gets extremely defensive....if thats not a sign of guilt then what would it possibly be?

Problem is all her friends are having kids and getting married so now she's getting the itch to have one. Even admitted it to me the other day. When we first started dating, she told me she wanted kids but not for a couple years. Then a month later she started talking about it and I said ok lets see where we are in a year. Now she wants one tomorrow.

I thought we were both on the same page but she lied to me. This girl seemed perfect hell my parents even liked her and that's rare..

 

[Fireballs]

Paternity test.

 

[No.Danny]

This thread is just one big facepalm ......

 

[Sino Zane]

General rules of thumb:

1. Don't have kids until you're at least 30 and done being a player.

2. Don't have kids until you have the money to support them.

3. Always wear a condom, especially with women who have baby-rabies.

4. Learn from this seriously messed up situation. All women put on their best fronts in order to acquire commitment from a man. This is in their nature. They are not "perfect."

If you did not want kids, you should have wore a condom.

 

[captain55]

So we took a pregnancy test yesterday, it came back negative. Her period is supposed to be Saturday but we got the 5 day early one, she was annoying me all night last night "babe I need to know I need to know if I'm pregnant"

went to the store with her and got one...The test came back negative...and she goes "well its still early to tell"

SHES STILL holding onto the fact that she's pregnant lmao. Oh yeah...she also asked me if she could drink this weekend since it's still too early to tell if she's pregnant, even though she thinks she's pregnant.

mind blown

 

[Arthy]

She's crazy. Run

 

[hudpes]

Captain Hindsight to Captain Obvious: you shouldn't have fvcked crazy without rubber.

Agree with Arthy, run.

 

[Bible_Belt]

It sounds like she thinks of you as a means to an end, without considering or valuing how you feel.

Women aren't doing their future kid any favors by tricking a guy into fatherhood. From the time I was very little, I always wondered why my dad didn't seem that interested in having a kid. Turns out, he wasn't. Mom just stopped taking her birth control without telling him. If not for a deceitful woman, I wouldn't exist.

 

[movistar]

Leave this one alone, you are asking for trouble. It's tough when you have one you like to fvck though.. but be strong, let her be a mistake for someone else.

 

[The_411]

And they say women are crazy.... pffft!

Take this as a valuable lesson learned and you can run to the nearest church and say 20 hail marys as penance for your transgressions. Or bet yet swear on the DJ Bible I will always wear a condom and avoid any relationships with attachments to any crazy women...