Guys playing with girls feelings or games

[moto]

Hey guys I had a question about a conversation I had with this girl.

Basically she has a boy friend who is not treating her right. She said sometimes he is lovey dovey and everything she would want from a bf then sometimes he is slick and just talks to her like shes a homie and as if he does not care about her.

My question is what kind of game is this? And what is the point I mean is it to make her jealous or keep the interest level high?

thanks,

 

[Remulak]

It's called hot/cold. The point is to keep her guessing and to give her lots of emotions. If you become boring and too dependable you're no longer interesting. Secretly this girl is loving the fact her boyfriend is adding drama to her life so she's venting to you. It can be taken too far in some circumstances however.

 

[ego]

Moto:

Are trying to hook up with this girl , or how come you started talk about this?

You wanna know the weirdest thing: She likes it but she doesn't know it herself.

I call it "Controlled Uncertainty", and it's really interesting if you're asking me.

here's the story:

People don't want drama or uncertainty in their life, neither do they want their life to get out of control.... BUT when we feel that we ourself decide to add some drama or a twist to our normal regular boring life, it's almost like an addiction. It's the same reason we get really drunk sometime. We let go of the control but it's our own decision to do so , at least that's what we think.

Same with borderline personalities (kinda like her boyfriend). She's meeting with him, and doesn't know if he's going to be an assh0le or puppy. So, it's a constant cliffhangers and drama added to her normally boring little life.

PLUS it's making him seem even MORE good when he's on with the "good behavior" - if you put it in relationship to his bad behaviour. Put your hand in really really cold water and then in normal temperatured water and you'll know what I mean. Suddenly, the normal water seems really hot (but in fact, it's not).

The point with the "Controlled Uncertainty"-theory is that she believes that she IS IN CONTROL with the situation, since she's able to break up with him anytime - and therefor her own choice to add a little twist and drama to her life.

The best part is:

She'll probably never get a normal boyfriend now when she've experienced the ******* drama way of life

 

[coacj]

when you meet somebody for the first time you are never meeting the true person but their (representive). The representive is what the girl thinks the guys behavior is like at all times and the funny thing is the guy might believe it himself. But as months go by and you see this girl everyday or every week the guy knows he has the girl hooked and their nothing to worry about he has no compitetion with other guys or anything like that so he leans back and treats her like one of his boys.

No more flowers, no box of chocolates, no waiting for her at her job or any of that stuff unless its her birthday or valentines day. And like Remulak said women might complain about it but deep down they like it.

Women like to ask why guys cheat, well this is one of the reasons why
WEV'E FIGURED WOMEN OUT :yes: :crackup:

 

[Leporello]

Having power over other people makes people feel good. It's sad but true.

 

[wheelin&dealin]

sometimes i'll give my gf a hug... other times I'll give her a black eye...

 

[Answers]

Theres an old saying treat them mean keep them keen!

 

[Poonani Maker]

Theres an old saying treat them mean keep them keen!

Extension: To gobble up your See-men.

 

[zack77766]

Hey guys I had a question about a conversation I had with this girl.

Basically she has a boy friend who is not treating her right. She said sometimes he is lovey dovey and everything she would want from a bf then sometimes he is slick and just talks to her like shes a homie and as if he does not care about her.

My question is what kind of game is this? And what is the point I mean is it to make her jealous or keep the interest level high?

thanks,

According to Pook: If a girl mentions her boyfriend in a bad manner, she wants you to ask her out. Looks like you blew it son. But if she talks about her bf in a good manner, stay away

 

[moto]

Remulak-

I was thinking the same thing about the interest level and sending mixed signals. Thanks for posting.

ego-
No im not trying to hook up.
I see your point and its good to add this to a relationship I guess so the girl will stay interested. Very elaborate post.

zack -

it was an online conversation but it just got me thinking thats all.

 

[sav]

Remulak-

I was thinking the same thing about the interest level and sending mixed signals. Thanks for posting.

ego-
No im not trying to hook up.
I see your point and its good to add this to a relationship I guess so the girl will stay interested. Very elaborate post.

zack -

it was an online conversation but it just got me thinking thats all.

read my post on mixed signals... it seems the more mixed signals you send, the more attracted the girls become.. i agree 100% with what ego said... sometimes we do it to girls.. more often then not its done to us, and i can say the more mixed signals the girl sends me, the more intrigued i become, its the hunters instincts inside of us...

 

[MooseGod]

To the OP: How does she figure this is "not treating her right?" Is a guy supposed to be lovey-dovey every second he's with a girl? Could somebody keep this up if they're married to her for 20 years? Hell no.

The way to keep a girl is to treat her normally most of the time, then randomly treat her to someplace/something nice. Keep her on her toes. It sounds like this chick's BF has the right idea, but she doesn't know what she wants in a man. Sounds a lot like my ex.

 

[LostAndConfused]

According to Pook: If a girl mentions her boyfriend in a bad manner, she wants you to ask her out. Looks like you blew it son. But if she talks about her bf in a good manner, stay away

Nope, he didn't blow it. What you say is right though, however this girl never mentioned her boyfriend in a bad manner. Rather, she's obsessing about him to the OP. She really likes those mixed messages...and if it got too bad she'd flat out dump him.

 

[moto]

To the OP: How does she figure this is "not treating her right?" Is a guy supposed to be lovey-dovey every second he's with a girl? Could somebody keep this up if they're married to her for 20 years? Hell no.

The way to keep a girl is to treat her normally most of the time, then randomly treat her to someplace/something nice. Keep her on her toes. It sounds like this chick's BF has the right idea, but she doesn't know what she wants in a man. Sounds a lot like my ex.

good point. No one can be lovey dovey all the time. Also, im sure this guy feels that he doesnt need to game her anymore because he has no competition.

Nope, he didn't blow it. What you say is right though, however this girl never mentioned her boyfriend in a bad manner. Rather, she's obsessing about him to the OP. She really likes those mixed messages...and if it got too bad she'd flat out dump him.

yes, exactly I don't think she referring to him in any bad manner rather in a obsessive way because she likes it. She probably does not stop thinking about him. Either way Im not trying to get with her just trying to learn more about the game.

 

[moto]

read my post on mixed signals... it seems the more mixed signals you send, the more attracted the girls become.. i agree 100% with what ego said... sometimes we do it to girls.. more often then not its done to us, and i can say the more mixed signals the girl sends me, the more intrigued i become, its the hunters instincts inside of us...

Oh yea I read your post. Thanks . I agree about sending mixed signals and its a rollercoaster ride for her and she will love it. Also it adds drama to their boring life.