TubularBells28
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Who is this Black Italian guy?
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Guys overcompensating with their balls
- Thread starter Jariel
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
TubularBells28
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Well?
He was some braggart on this board who posted photos of all these women he claimed to have picked up. The pictures were revealed as fake and he'd been lying about his skills all along.
He had a big attitude and his advice was generic male bravado, approaching balls first etc. I don't believe he was the first or the last of his like on this forum.
Unfortunately his original post has been removed, but you can still see how he fooled lots of users into believing him....
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=82948
If this has been said already i'm sorry but i really can't be bothered to read all of this thread.
We cold approach because it is in mine and most people's opinion the fastest and easiest way of meeting a large amount of women, and the one with the least complications.
OK sure you can meet a decent amount of women by attending a private party, and that's great, but the next time you go to a private party organised by people in that social circle, the majority of people will be made up of women you've already met.
In order to have a consistant flow of new women to date you'd have to keep making new friends in order to enter their social circles. This would be very difficult.
Another thing, if you date a woman in your social circle and it ends badly, then it can get very awkward when you're hanging out with that set of friends.
Jariel: I have read a few of posts by you recently stating how cold approaching is not for you etc. Can i ask, have you actually ever tried it? And i don't mean once or twice, have you gone out regularly for a few weeks and actually practised?
I don't think anyone who goes out regularly believes you've got to do cold approaches to be a man, they are doing it to gain a skill set.
Now if you think you're fine the way you are that's great, it all depends on the life style you want to live. I enjoy dating multiple women, and believe it's the best way of meeting truly amazing women, and the best place to meet lots of hot women is through doing cold approaches.
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We cold approach because it is in mine and most people's opinion the fastest and easiest way of meeting a large amount of women, and the one with the least complications.
OK sure you can meet a decent amount of women by attending a private party, and that's great, but the next time you go to a private party organised by people in that social circle, the majority of people will be made up of women you've already met.
In order to have a consistant flow of new women to date you'd have to keep making new friends in order to enter their social circles. This would be very difficult.
Another thing, if you date a woman in your social circle and it ends badly, then it can get very awkward when you're hanging out with that set of friends.
Jariel: I have read a few of posts by you recently stating how cold approaching is not for you etc. Can i ask, have you actually ever tried it? And i don't mean once or twice, have you gone out regularly for a few weeks and actually practised?
I don't think anyone who goes out regularly believes you've got to do cold approaches to be a man, they are doing it to gain a skill set.
Now if you think you're fine the way you are that's great, it all depends on the life style you want to live. I enjoy dating multiple women, and believe it's the best way of meeting truly amazing women, and the best place to meet lots of hot women is through doing cold approaches.
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Your life is one big approach
In reality, I think your entire life should be treated as one huge approach. You should be approaching women in a flirty manner night and day, everytime you go to the store, run somewhere for work, or go about your daily routine. Sure, dedicated sarging nights are cool, but your daily life is an extension of that. I never really turn off the approach mode. It's on 24/7 nowdays.
The theory about asking women for advice on how to approach is entirely wrong. Women cannot tell you how to pick up other women successfully. Women can tell you if clothes look like crap on you, if your breath is bad, or if you have a little willy, but they absolutely cannot and will not give good pickup advice.
Women are programmed to say certain things are creepy. What they mean to say is it's creepy when THAT guy does THOSE things. At the risk of sounding like Doc Love, when Brad Pitt approaches a strange women it isn't creepy!
Your approaches are failing? Re-evaluate how you're doing them. If all looks good, maybe YOU are creepy. Facial hair is manscaped badly? Clothes are outdated or uncool? Breath is bad? Do you look scary in general? Do gimmicks help? Have you consulted anyone who is good at PUs in person for coaching? If someone isn't willing to use the tools available to him, I guess that person is right when he says cold approaches won't work for him.
I know what's next, someone will cry that he cannot afford in person coaching, right? I'm willing to bet that for just about any major US city there is someone on this forum that will be willing to help you get started on the right foot. Just be respectful and ask. We all want to get better.
In reality, I think your entire life should be treated as one huge approach. You should be approaching women in a flirty manner night and day, everytime you go to the store, run somewhere for work, or go about your daily routine. Sure, dedicated sarging nights are cool, but your daily life is an extension of that. I never really turn off the approach mode. It's on 24/7 nowdays.
The theory about asking women for advice on how to approach is entirely wrong. Women cannot tell you how to pick up other women successfully. Women can tell you if clothes look like crap on you, if your breath is bad, or if you have a little willy, but they absolutely cannot and will not give good pickup advice.
Women are programmed to say certain things are creepy. What they mean to say is it's creepy when THAT guy does THOSE things. At the risk of sounding like Doc Love, when Brad Pitt approaches a strange women it isn't creepy!
Your approaches are failing? Re-evaluate how you're doing them. If all looks good, maybe YOU are creepy. Facial hair is manscaped badly? Clothes are outdated or uncool? Breath is bad? Do you look scary in general? Do gimmicks help? Have you consulted anyone who is good at PUs in person for coaching? If someone isn't willing to use the tools available to him, I guess that person is right when he says cold approaches won't work for him.
I know what's next, someone will cry that he cannot afford in person coaching, right? I'm willing to bet that for just about any major US city there is someone on this forum that will be willing to help you get started on the right foot. Just be respectful and ask. We all want to get better.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.