TubularBells28
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Who is this Black Italian guy?
"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Guys overcompensating with their balls
- Thread starter Jariel
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
TubularBells28
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Well?
He was some braggart on this board who posted photos of all these women he claimed to have picked up. The pictures were revealed as fake and he'd been lying about his skills all along.
He had a big attitude and his advice was generic male bravado, approaching balls first etc. I don't believe he was the first or the last of his like on this forum.
Unfortunately his original post has been removed, but you can still see how he fooled lots of users into believing him....
http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=82948
If this has been said already i'm sorry but i really can't be bothered to read all of this thread.
We cold approach because it is in mine and most people's opinion the fastest and easiest way of meeting a large amount of women, and the one with the least complications.
OK sure you can meet a decent amount of women by attending a private party, and that's great, but the next time you go to a private party organised by people in that social circle, the majority of people will be made up of women you've already met.
In order to have a consistant flow of new women to date you'd have to keep making new friends in order to enter their social circles. This would be very difficult.
Another thing, if you date a woman in your social circle and it ends badly, then it can get very awkward when you're hanging out with that set of friends.
Jariel: I have read a few of posts by you recently stating how cold approaching is not for you etc. Can i ask, have you actually ever tried it? And i don't mean once or twice, have you gone out regularly for a few weeks and actually practised?
I don't think anyone who goes out regularly believes you've got to do cold approaches to be a man, they are doing it to gain a skill set.
Now if you think you're fine the way you are that's great, it all depends on the life style you want to live. I enjoy dating multiple women, and believe it's the best way of meeting truly amazing women, and the best place to meet lots of hot women is through doing cold approaches.
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We cold approach because it is in mine and most people's opinion the fastest and easiest way of meeting a large amount of women, and the one with the least complications.
OK sure you can meet a decent amount of women by attending a private party, and that's great, but the next time you go to a private party organised by people in that social circle, the majority of people will be made up of women you've already met.
In order to have a consistant flow of new women to date you'd have to keep making new friends in order to enter their social circles. This would be very difficult.
Another thing, if you date a woman in your social circle and it ends badly, then it can get very awkward when you're hanging out with that set of friends.
Jariel: I have read a few of posts by you recently stating how cold approaching is not for you etc. Can i ask, have you actually ever tried it? And i don't mean once or twice, have you gone out regularly for a few weeks and actually practised?
I don't think anyone who goes out regularly believes you've got to do cold approaches to be a man, they are doing it to gain a skill set.
Now if you think you're fine the way you are that's great, it all depends on the life style you want to live. I enjoy dating multiple women, and believe it's the best way of meeting truly amazing women, and the best place to meet lots of hot women is through doing cold approaches.
apache
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Your life is one big approach
In reality, I think your entire life should be treated as one huge approach. You should be approaching women in a flirty manner night and day, everytime you go to the store, run somewhere for work, or go about your daily routine. Sure, dedicated sarging nights are cool, but your daily life is an extension of that. I never really turn off the approach mode. It's on 24/7 nowdays.
The theory about asking women for advice on how to approach is entirely wrong. Women cannot tell you how to pick up other women successfully. Women can tell you if clothes look like crap on you, if your breath is bad, or if you have a little willy, but they absolutely cannot and will not give good pickup advice.
Women are programmed to say certain things are creepy. What they mean to say is it's creepy when THAT guy does THOSE things. At the risk of sounding like Doc Love, when Brad Pitt approaches a strange women it isn't creepy!
Your approaches are failing? Re-evaluate how you're doing them. If all looks good, maybe YOU are creepy. Facial hair is manscaped badly? Clothes are outdated or uncool? Breath is bad? Do you look scary in general? Do gimmicks help? Have you consulted anyone who is good at PUs in person for coaching? If someone isn't willing to use the tools available to him, I guess that person is right when he says cold approaches won't work for him.
I know what's next, someone will cry that he cannot afford in person coaching, right? I'm willing to bet that for just about any major US city there is someone on this forum that will be willing to help you get started on the right foot. Just be respectful and ask. We all want to get better.
In reality, I think your entire life should be treated as one huge approach. You should be approaching women in a flirty manner night and day, everytime you go to the store, run somewhere for work, or go about your daily routine. Sure, dedicated sarging nights are cool, but your daily life is an extension of that. I never really turn off the approach mode. It's on 24/7 nowdays.
The theory about asking women for advice on how to approach is entirely wrong. Women cannot tell you how to pick up other women successfully. Women can tell you if clothes look like crap on you, if your breath is bad, or if you have a little willy, but they absolutely cannot and will not give good pickup advice.
Women are programmed to say certain things are creepy. What they mean to say is it's creepy when THAT guy does THOSE things. At the risk of sounding like Doc Love, when Brad Pitt approaches a strange women it isn't creepy!
Your approaches are failing? Re-evaluate how you're doing them. If all looks good, maybe YOU are creepy. Facial hair is manscaped badly? Clothes are outdated or uncool? Breath is bad? Do you look scary in general? Do gimmicks help? Have you consulted anyone who is good at PUs in person for coaching? If someone isn't willing to use the tools available to him, I guess that person is right when he says cold approaches won't work for him.
I know what's next, someone will cry that he cannot afford in person coaching, right? I'm willing to bet that for just about any major US city there is someone on this forum that will be willing to help you get started on the right foot. Just be respectful and ask. We all want to get better.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.