Guys need your help!

[WheyProtein]

hi guys i just joined the forum, although ive been readin up on all the threads / dj bible for quite the time now (about 6 months). i decided to finally register hoping to get my question answered which is a very serious insecurity for me.. well as of now it is..

a little background information about myself:

been dating this wonderful women, we see eachother about once a week and we always have sex (im a concerned about this because we should be doin other things but never have time to). we've been dating for about a year now. ok so yeah ud think id be experienced right?? WRONG. i need help!!!

reasons for insecurity:

-she only moans when i eat her out
-the sex lasts until i ***, or usually when she doesnt want to continue (which is obvious im doing something wrong)
-lately i cant help but feel im being the worst lover in the world (although we were both virgins when we began dating eachother)
-never givin her an orgasm
- she seems VERY excited in the beginning to have sex and begs for me to stick it in, but once i do i cant help but feel now that she isnt enjoying herself...



when i have sex i just cant help but feel im not giving her the BEST experience possible, which is why i need your help!

ill share things that usually happen when we have sex.

okay yea, i have the fourplay down perfectly, trust me, i always eat her out before i go in. tease her like crazy, and kiss her all over.
when i do decide to go in, i usually stick the tip in and slide it in slowly (before i was always pressing my body against her with my head next to her breathing on her neck to make it feel more intimate before, ive always done this, but just last week i didnt and i was actually sort of in a upright position with my palms holding me up and i was having sex with her that way, and she said it was the best ive ever done, wtf?? i felt bad, and that day, i thought about all day what i did right and i just couldnt remember)

another thing, a few times i was having sex i was goin in and all the way out, do they not like this?? because just until recently my gf tells me to just go in and out but not all the way out, then she tells me to go slow and all the way out, then i went in all the way deep and it suprised her (and hurt her) and she didnt want to continue there as well.

ive always wondered, is there a certain angle to stick it in that feels BEST to them? the last time we had sex, i was doin this sort of wave motion where i go up then down inside, thinknig it would hit her g spot a bit, but i guess this turned her off and she said to stop and she put her clothes on.. so yeah u can see why this is a big deal for me.


as u can see i am very confused and it is driving me NUTS!!!! and i would very much appreciate anyone that could help me out and give me great tips.

I very much need tips from the best lovers on this site. im hoping just a few tips here and there will make me a much better man in bed. please help!!! thank you so much.


p.s, im also very afraid im becoming boring to her, because she is now beginning to regret doing it!!!!!!!!! HELP

god do i need help... all these concerns and worries will probably make me even worse which is exactly why i need tips etc to boost my confidence.

 

[Faca]

good for adressing this subject..

too many are concerned about cf lines, pick up methods etc. But that is the main thing, hot to fvck her brains out.

You said that the sessions end when you come.. How's your condition ?.. Maybe you should work out.

Anticipation
Keep her guessing what your gonna do, have variation!

One last thing, don't be too concerned if you're gonna come to quick.. but focus on her..

Anyway i see that you should last longer in bed. For most of them, it takes a lot to time to come..

 

[WheyProtein]

Thanks very much, i heard about how variety is key to making good love... but i am very unexperienced.. so is my girl friend... ive been researching websites and looking at positions etc etc but im still at loss..


i heard that when you have sex and you never go all the way deep and you keep it about a inch from going all the way in and having ur pubic bone touching her **** teases her a lot and they love that?? is this true...

when we have sex again, im going to be very very gentle and go little by little, and make it drag out longer hoping to build her anticpation, but then again when i go too slow for too long does it bore them??

guys come on please help me! i would be very thankful!!



also whats better, going all the way in, and going all the way out, or going in and out in a length of about 3 inches.... ?

 

[WheyProtein]

I am being very patient...

89 reviews and only a single reply. i hope when the right person comes along that has vast amounts of knowledge will help me out... im hoping.....

 

[Faca]

Still one thing you have to realize is that every woman is different, and one position can be very exciting for one.. and boring for the other. But think again what you can control, and that is yourself; your performance!

I believe that sex isn't something to learn from the books or internet, our ancestor didn't had the luxery of internet.. or some even books. And did it right, and sexually fulfilled their woman.

One important thing is also, location and ambiance. Do you always do it in the bedroom?.. Try something different (kitchen, shower, outdoors). Take her to the livingroom, spred a blanket on the floor. A little music relaxing, R&B (Ginuwine, Jamie Foxx).. whatever works for you both.

The main reason man ejaculate too fast, is they cannot control their breathing. Staying open and relaxed, can breathing really down through your stommach, not into your chest! But still your focus must in the moment, and the pleasure.

the Positions:
At first keep it to the simple; when you both are comfortable.. then you can experience.

Woman on Top
Sitting
Side by Side
Doggy

Do a search on kamasutra, you'll find a lot.

Had the same problem, and which helped me a lot.. is lasting longer.. and the position in which she has a little more control so that she can adjust to which fitts for her.

Hope this helped...

 

[zerocelcius]

hi guys i just joined the forum, although ive been readin up on all the threads / dj bible for quite the time now (about 6 months). i decided to finally register hoping to get my question answered which is a very serious insecurity for me.. well as of now it is..

a little background information about myself:

been dating this wonderful women, we see eachother about once a week and we always have sex (im a concerned about this because we should be doin other things but never have time to). we've been dating for about a year now. ok so yeah ud think id be experienced right?? WRONG. i need help!!!

reasons for insecurity:

-she only moans when i eat her out
-the sex lasts until i ***, or usually when she doesnt want to continue (which is obvious im doing something wrong)
-lately i cant help but feel im being the worst lover in the world (although we were both virgins when we began dating eachother)
-never givin her an orgasm
- she seems VERY excited in the beginning to have sex and begs for me to stick it in, but once i do i cant help but feel now that she isnt enjoying herself...



when i have sex i just cant help but feel im not giving her the BEST experience possible, which is why i need your help!

ill share things that usually happen when we have sex.

okay yea, i have the fourplay down perfectly, trust me, i always eat her out before i go in. tease her like crazy, and kiss her all over.
when i do decide to go in, i usually stick the tip in and slide it in slowly (before i was always pressing my body against her with my head next to her breathing on her neck to make it feel more intimate before, ive always done this, but just last week i didnt and i was actually sort of in a upright position with my palms holding me up and i was having sex with her that way, and she said it was the best ive ever done, wtf?? i felt bad, and that day, i thought about all day what i did right and i just couldnt remember)

another thing, a few times i was having sex i was goin in and all the way out, do they not like this?? because just until recently my gf tells me to just go in and out but not all the way out, then she tells me to go slow and all the way out, then i went in all the way deep and it suprised her (and hurt her) and she didnt want to continue there as well.

ive always wondered, is there a certain angle to stick it in that feels BEST to them? the last time we had sex, i was doin this sort of wave motion where i go up then down inside, thinknig it would hit her g spot a bit, but i guess this turned her off and she said to stop and she put her clothes on.. so yeah u can see why this is a big deal for me.


as u can see i am very confused and it is driving me NUTS!!!! and i would very much appreciate anyone that could help me out and give me great tips.

I very much need tips from the best lovers on this site. im hoping just a few tips here and there will make me a much better man in bed. please help!!! thank you so much.


p.s, im also very afraid im becoming boring to her, because she is now beginning to regret doing it!!!!!!!!! HELP

god do i need help... all these concerns and worries will probably make me even worse which is exactly why i need tips etc to boost my confidence.

Well buddy don't know if I am the right one, but I am was a vertuall Man*****... so take my advice or leave it.

In your case I would say make her wait longer than you do. About the time she is begging for it, is really the starting line. They aren't like us at all. You have to get them on the track first. Than lined up. Than warm up the tires. Than ease up to line. Than wait for the green light.

You get me so far?

Next if you cu oh' m fast than you have to change your approach. Do less self stimulating and more her stimulating.

Is one method I use to get them off and keep me from busting.

Go all the way in (take that part easy until it happens natural) when your pelvic bone is against hers start to do small cirlcle like grinding motions. Keeping pressure on her C oh' lit. Don't let the pressure off but vary it, and don't push too hard.

YOUR MIND>! when you are doing the deed you HAVE TO BE INCONTROL! Don't take that like rape or anything 'cause that isn't what I am saying.
What you have to do is be the man. You change the posistions. You control the speed and arousal time.

Get her hot and sizzling way before you get to the actual "sex" and than don't let her cool down. While you are having sex keep the fire burning. Nibble, Lick, Kiss, Groap, etc.... Ears are good spots Necks or good spots.

Explore her every inch. Run your fingures over her intire body not fast, not slow, and not the same speed. Actually explore her. See how each cm. of her feels, tastes, respondes....

You have to get to know her better than you do your car! Or your Art Medium.

In my opinion I think you need to get more girls... Diffrent Girls. From what you wrote she seems to be keeping you on the side as a Closet F/Buddy.
All indications seem to point to it would be more than ok for you to F other Girls. and you should.

Hope I helped any other questions feel free to ask.

 

[zerocelcius]

Just read your other post...

You got dumped...Guess I was right. Move on and It is ok for you to F other girls...LOL!

Get out there and move on!

You will get over your jealousness when you have more than one girl in your life. Once you get a few and some at the same time you start to see the big picture and arn't so shackled to your emotions.