"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Guys need your help i think im being too rude on the phone..

gimmeyofonenumba

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This chick is from college. I took her out last night, and she's telling me how she is a big partier and social drug-user, and she hangs around her chick friends alot, but i get the idea that she was mroe of an attention wh0re cause she mentions her guy friends alot. She's telling me how she falls for nice guys, but i kept knocking on her and she even said.."you like making fun of me huh.." in a playfull way. We ended the night didnt do anything physically, but she was giving alot of kino, and i gave alot back as well. The conversation was good i thought sh1t was going great. She said she wanted to hang out again.

I called her just now, and i invited her to hang out. Its wierd when i talk on the phone and make c&f she is baffled and doesnt understand, and i use sarcasm, and she always thinks im serious. She said she might go home this weekend for her friends bbq in response to me asking to hang with her, and i replied "ohh, just tell your friend to grab her bbq and hop on the bus and we'll chill at my place."

and she replies: "no i cant, she has alot of people meeting her there". The phone conversation is always bad, but the in person convo is good. I think i screwered this sh1t up cause when the conversation was dying down, she is like saying ok well i'll call you tommorow and let you know, and i always try to end the convo first so i cut her off saying "ya or i'll call you or whatever,bye"*click* it came out in a rude way cause i didnt even hear her say bye.

I dunno dudes. I think this girl might be LSE, when i thought she was aw. I think the next time i call her i need to be really endearing. Cause im getting the feeling from this last phone convo that she thinks im an a$$ hole. What do i do?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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KontrollerX

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"Its wierd when i talk on the phone and make c&f she is baffled and doesnt understand, and i use sarcasm, and she always thinks im serious."

Could be an AW.

Because of their nature as grown children trapped inside an adult woman's body they can only fake maturity but the mask slips when you get too clever and simple sarcasm and jokes go way over their heads.

Anyway don't worry about the phone call, if she's a true AW just talk to her again like normal the next time you think you should.

I assure you if she's a true AW she will likely of forgotten all about any perceived insult you've done her as they thrive on being treated just a little badly but not too badly and she'll love you for it and be all over you the next phone call.
 

KontrollerX

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Eh if she's an AW the next time you talk to her she'll act like a little girl and say "Are you mad at me?"

Then just say "Nah sorry baby if it seemed that way, I was a bit tired last night".

That should be a sufficient excuse.
 

Phyzzle

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Yeah, I get that experience, too.

Now that you've already been out with her, I would just be "all business" on the phone. Just set up a date.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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