Guys need some help here, "timing" dilema

[JdelaSilviera]

So I had this girl (7 or 8) asking me for a coffee sometimes, a couple of weeks ago. I said sure, but I´ve been busy so I thought I would wait 2 weeks (wich is still a short period of time) or so in order to catch up with college and to be a bit of a challenge.

I went to the club with her and another 1 of her girlfriends two days ago , and she ended up leaving with another dude she knew for some time.

I haven´t put any effort and didnt´create any expectations so I´m 100% cool (and this was just a ons I can still get her), but this leaves me with a question.

David D, Mystery and others, tell you to not show interest too early, because that turns women off. Pook also tells you need patience.... but if you wait there simply could be another dude that takes action before you.
And I also notice that if my frame is not sexual/flirty (eg. showing interest) from the beginning I find very hard (and awkward) to change.

So should we show interest from the beginning or not?

 

[IamJosan]

You should always show interest! As you can see for yourself, not showing interest puts you in the friend category.

 

[JdelaSilviera]

You should always show interest! As you can see for yourself, not showing interest puts you in the friend category.

All right then; but showing interest too early doesn`t make you look desperate and easy?

 

[LoneWolf]

All right then; but showing interest too early doesn`t make you look desperate and easy?

no.. thats for AFTER you hook up. in the beginning you HAVE to show SEXUAL interest so she knows you want her. it's AFTER that you hook up you ease off and not show so much. you got it the wrong way around pal

 

[JdelaSilviera]

no.. thats for AFTER you hook up. in the beginning you HAVE to show SEXUAL interest so she knows you want her. it's AFTER that you hook up you ease off and not show so much. you got it the wrong way around pal

I´m not gonna argue with you, I clearly blew this one . Next time I know better...