"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Guys need help, !!SOS!! possibly first relationship, and I'm new to dating..

Canadien

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Ok, so I've met this girl, random approach at university, she was there actually just to eat Vegan food they serve there, she's from France, and she even know miss France, she has her own clothing brand.

And we've hang out last weekend, twice, and from looks of things, she's what you call HB7.5, but it would scale up to 10 if you add in intelligence and drive to succeed, and we've had amazing chemistry so far, I've cheek kissed her, and she's up to meet almost everyday, so how could I handle this.

There seems to be no game from her so far, everything is genuine, she's very open and easy to talk to, and somebody who you can rely on, and even if I mised yesterday meeting, everything is cool, can it be this good?

Her Situation:
She's new in town
Want somebody to show her good time
Very busy schedule

My Situation:
Never talked to girls until 1 year ago..
Everything is first time for me..
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You take this too serious. Try to chill out and approach this as an experiment from which you will learn. Focus on what you want from this situation/person.
 

Canadien

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So, is it ok

Migel said:
You take this too serious. Try to chill out and approach this as an experiment from which you will learn. Focus on what you want from this situation/person.
If I don't escalate sexually very fast, and try to go for something longterm?

I see this forums very much focused on getting laid, but my priorities are first get girlfriend, and learn to handle relationship, sexual part will follow little bit later, is this good approach or will I end up in Friendzone?
 

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Canadien said:
If I don't escalate sexually very fast, and try to go for something longterm?

Why does one have to exclude the other?

Be C+F, drop sexual hints\jokes from time to time, and most importantly, KINO!!!!

If you just hang out with her a lot as friends, all your going to get is a longterm friendship.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Take her to a fast food place. Then, go hang out at a park. Go into stores and look at all the cool little things. She is new here so, everything will be fun and interesting to her.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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sav

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cheek kiss means nothing...

in europe FRIENDS of opposite sexes cheek kiss all the time....
 

Maxtro

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I feel the same way Canadien does. I've got no experience at all in dating and having a girlfriend. When it does happen I feel like I'll be totally confused and need something like "The idiots guide to have a girlfriend." :p There isn't much pressure though because the first girlfriend relationships are bound to fail. As long as I can get plenty of sex out of it, I should be ok :D

I guess the best mindset is to just have fun and be happy. Don't think of her as somebody that you will be together with for years or marry. Just plan on having a good time with her that time will eventually come to a close. That way you won't feel too much pressure to "succeed" or make it work.
 

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kissing on the cheek? what the hell do u think is a relationship???? maybe thats ok at 13 years old, but damn at 25, big no no
 
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