"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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pingpongz

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I have been seeing this HB10 for about a month now. Played the game perfectly, sarged her in a book store, bounced her to a bar within 5 minutes and ****ed her on the 2nd date.

BUT

Ive been far too generous on paying for her. Yesterday when i was out with her she was like "Lets go for a coffee" so i was like "yeh sure why not" then when we got up to the counter i was expecting her to get something and sit back down.
Instead she ordered a hot chocolate, pointed to a cake and said "I want this one" then stepped back for me to pay lol

We have been out together about 5 times now and Ive always paid for her in to the cinema, clubs etc

How do i get out of this cycle where she expects me to pay for everything? I mentioned while talking to her "So when are you taking me out on a date then?" and her response was "hehe soon".

How do i get her to pay her way!?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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My girl is great about paying for things at bars, clubs, restaurants, take-out etc. She is also a very independent girl. You need to first ask yourself how needy she is in this department, for example is she a daddy's girl/momma's girl, had a generous ex-boyfriend, etc. If she is used to having her bill picked up, this might be a no hope situation for you. She could be a gold digger, in the very lightest sense of the word. She may even think that it is customary for the guy to pay.

I'm new here so take my advice with a grain of salt, but you have already mentioned her treating you to a date. She knows this. She heard you loud and clear. After a few more dates bring up in conversation that you are still waiting on her to take you out. Tell her you're excited and ask her what she has in mind. If this doesn't get the msg across, then it may be a lost cause.

If that still doesn't work, you decide when enough is enough and when she mentions going out, tell her you are running a little low on cash, maybe another night. She should offer then, if not, ditch her.

Or, a proactive way would be to go out for coffee, then after ordering, ask her if she can "chip in" as you are short on cash today, etc.
 

Cry For Love

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You can either read the several dozen pages of the "What do u reply when a girl asks you to buy her a drink" thread in the archive and memorize clever responses, or you can just tell her to pay for her ****
 

The Duke

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I dated a daddy's girl who never felt the need to pay for anything. So here's what I did:

-Started making bets with her on football games. The loser had to buy our next meal. So whenever she lost, she had to buy. I made sure to reward her with my affection and appreciation for buying. After a while she started offering to buy regardless if she lost a bet.
 

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pingpongz said:
I have been seeing this HB10 for about a month now. Played the game perfectly, sarged her in a book store, bounced her to a bar within 5 minutes and ****ed her on the 2nd date.

BUT

Ive been far too generous on paying for her. Yesterday when i was out with her she was like "Lets go for a coffee" so i was like "yeh sure why not" then when we got up to the counter i was expecting her to get something and sit back down.
Instead she ordered a hot chocolate, pointed to a cake and said "I want this one" then stepped back for me to pay lol

We have been out together about 5 times now and Ive always paid for her in to the cinema, clubs etc

How do i get out of this cycle where she expects me to pay for everything? I mentioned while talking to her "So when are you taking me out on a date then?" and her response was "hehe soon".

How do i get her to pay her way!?
HB10 + pay her way mix as well together as oil + water.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Someone Much cooler

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she hot. you say a 10. she prolly knows it and thinks you are also attractive(not as hot as her) and while you a good enough for her to justify being with you she feels you need to do a little more. " I would joke with her and say its 09-we got a black president and i think change is good. Buy your owns cake, oh yeah baby and get me one to so i dont have to pinch off yours..."Keep a huge smile. Dont do it all the time tho.
 

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As men our early actions set the tone for the relationship early on. If your paying for all the stuff now, you'll pay later. If you let her win all the arguments now, you sure as hell won't win any disagreement later. Try to work in some non finance heavy dates and see how those roll or set it up where your both throwing in an equal amount. Good luck hombre.
 
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