"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Guys, I've got a confidence problem now.

Poonani Maker

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I recently Pulled an hb9 from Plentyoffish, and we're supposed to meet this week for dinner. Here's my problem: I had help in writing my responses (emails) to her from a highly intelligent alpha. I wrote verbatim what he told me, and BAM! she gave me her # email, and is belittling herself for messing up our original plans. I believe that she sh!t-tested (other plans), then says that she got her dates mixed up, and can now meet as planned.

I did not write any of this stuff. It was very concisely put, intelligently worded. Simplicity, like a lawyer.

Anyway, I guess I have to CALL her tomorrow because she left me her digits, so, how do I feign being smart now?? What do I do?

The pics are mine, of ME. The words are not!
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Stagger Lee

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Well maybe you could get a sense of the mentality the other guy had that worked from the emails to use as a guide. What did the emails say anyway?
 

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Wait, there are HB9s on PlentyOffFish? I thought that's a haven for fat crazy birds?
 

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funny thing is, this is how i learned. i used to text verbatim or respond exactly the way my mentor told me to. I did this so much his methods just rubbed off on me. I used to just sit back and think of exactly what he would say to me and how he would say it if i couldn't get in contact with him.

Try that out if you can.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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synergy1

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Jitterbug said:
Wait, there are HB9s on PlentyOffFish? I thought that's a haven for fat crazy birds?
the only thing I saw on plentyOfish was plentyOmanatees.
 

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Whats the best possible outcome? Whats the worst possible outcome? Easy answer. Man up and go through with it.
 

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Well I called, no answer, left a bumbling message, but recovered and made it though about 20 seconds.

Then an hour later, just now, she called, and went through with the date. She sounds like my ex-oneitis in voice tone, chirpiness.

Really a nice girl for her petite blonde-haired blue-eyed look. No shield so far.
 

fertileTurtle

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Most online dating is looks based. If she likes the way you look, you really can't mess up unless you talk too much. Just don't say a whole lot and try to get her into the bedroom as fast as you can like the Gingerbread Man.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Well, she just canceled. Said family just showed up from out of town.
 

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post the email. post the email. post the email. post the email.
post the email. post the email. post the email. post the email.
post the email. post the email. post the email. post the email.
 
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