Guys, I'm about to crack right now.

[ThunderMaverick]

I'm just....really close to calling my ex. After a couple of months...godfu<king dammit. It's only been a little more than two months. TWO!

I just went to her myspace page and I'm starting to fall like a house of cards. The curiosity has just been swelling up for the past couple of days and I just gave in.

I'd feel like a total douche calling her after telling her I'd never talk to her again. I just want to have a conversation and joke like we always do. I really do miss talking to her.

How bad would it be if I went against my word? She said she would want to talk to me if I did call. I...I'm so close to just saying screw it and calling her.

 

[MacAvoy]

Ever hear of the boy crying wolf? After all your posts today, I have a hard time believing the sincerity of this post. Its like your drama ended in the other thread so your starting another one.

 

[frivolousz21]

well link us to her page..so we can see her


why do you give a crap...you can easily game 3-4 women a week.

this is a non-issue

 

[jophil28]

I'm just....really close to calling my ex. After a couple of months...godfu<king dammit. It's only been a little more than two months. TWO!

Go ahead and call her - you obviously need the lesson that calling her will teach you.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Yeah yeah I know. It's not good. I'm not going to do it.

I deleted her from everything completely and then I call her again? It'll definitely seem like I'm hooked on her. Maybe I am, but I don't wish to show her that.

 

[ketostix]

I can't give you any advice because I would have to make several assumptions .

 

[ThunderMaverick]

I can't give you any advice because I would have to make several assumptions .

Then stay out of my topic. Thank you.

 

[guru1000]

Just as I started to respect you.

You cannot EXPECT others to RESPECT you including her if you do not RESPECT yourself.

 

[KontrollerX]

Call her up and spill your guts out.

Tell her you love her and you two need to be together forever and ever.

Positivity +1.

Happy Mac? :cheer:

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Just as I started to respect you.

You cannot EXPECT others to RESPECT you including her if you do not RESPECT yourself.

Well thanks. I guess I needed your respect?

You're right though. If I call her then what does that say about me? It means that I'm a liar and not a man who sticks by his word. She'll have me back as a friend and she'll have her fun.

I guess I'm just looking for some reassurance.

 

[guru1000]

Call her up and spill your guts out.

Tell her you love her and you two need to be together forever and ever.

Positivity +1.

Happy Mac? :cheer:

Actually,

Him calling her is DEVALUING himself -Negative

Him not calling is RESPECTING himself -Positive

 

[Interceptor]

TM,

how badly did you two end?

Do you feel that she disrespected you at the ending of the relationship?

What would you do if she decides she hates you and doesnt want to talk to you?

What would you do if she does want to talk to you and is happy to hear from you?

What do you feel you will gain from this experience?

Ultimately, TM...are you doing this from a masculine place of strength, or of needy weakness?

If she disrespected you , TM...how do you think you will come off trying to reconnect after her knowing she acted improperly with you? From what kind of frame will you be operating from???!

Has she ever asked for forgiveness?
if not, then you better rethink this.

If she has, maybe you two can be amicable.

No matter what you decide or do...the ultimate question is if you are TRULY Honestly doing this from a place of strength.

if so, then no one can stop you, because you can handle ANY outcome.

if not, then I suggest you put this on hold for now...

 

[guru1000]

Thunder,

This is the X I assume you are speaking of.

Read my post #18. I still stand by that.

 

[labrat]

You know exactly how you're going to feel once that phone call ends - like sh1t. So why do it?

Moreover, this topic has been covered soooo many times already, I know all the answers by heart by now and so should you! Go lurk on Loveshack for a bit, it's all about crying over the lost love, how she was the one meant for you from the start, how you'll never get over it and yadayadayada. And it's great: you'll get tons of support because as the saying goes, "misery loves company".

I migrated over here because I understood reading the same posts of despair again and again on Loveshack was not helping me one bit; I didn't think I'd find the same sort of stuff on here! So stop whimpering and thinking about her, self-pity is useless and will get you nowhere.

Sorry if I'm harsh, but you need a kick in the a55 more than a big hug.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

TM,

how badly did you two end?

2 years ago I guess it was pretty bad. She said she had feelings for someone else and felt bad. She said she didn't want to break up but then again she did. I moved out of her place. We didn't end on hating each other. Nothing got heated.

Do you feel that she disrespected you at the ending of the relationship?

Yes and no. Yes because she lied to me about WHO she liked. No, because she didn't cheat on me. The second something was up I knew. He attitude did a 180 and thanks to this site I picked up on it immediately and asked her what was wrong. I didn't ignore her actions at all.

What would you do if she decides she hates you and doesnt want to talk to you?

My God, you know how good I would feel? To know that she doesn't feel a thing for me would be like freedom. I don't have to wonder about if she really feels as strongly for me as I do her.

I fantasize about that.

What would you do if she does want to talk to you and is happy to hear from you?

Well I know for a fact that she'll be happy to hear from me. She'll be happy, but at the same time she'll keep her distance. That's something I have a problem with because when we were together she was totally into me. She was willing to do anything and go anywhere. She was down. Now she's not. I don't like it. I want to be number 1, y'know?

What do you feel you will gain from this experience?

I'll probably solidify my undying need for her and it'll turn her off more than ever. I'll feel worse than I did before? I might have her on my mind more often than I should.

Ultimately, TM...are you doing this from a masculine place of strength, or of needy weakness?

Needy? Hm I don't need her. I just want to talk to her if I have that choice. She didn't want to stop talking to me in the first place.

If she disrespected you , TM...how do you think you will come off trying to reconnect after her knowing she acted improperly with you? From what kind of frame will you be operating from???!

We weren't together, but saying she's still in love with me while making plans to have sex with a guy in Texas is a little unsettling. I don't own her, but...

hmm.

Has she ever asked for forgiveness?

She's apologized a lot if you can believe it. She feels bad for what she did.

Put it on hold? You mean you're suggesting I talk to her again?

 

[frivolousz21]

thunder-

your acting like a pyssy.

come on man there are tons of women out there....GET SOME

 

[ketostix]

Then stay out of my topic. Thank you.

Well if you don't want me in your topics then stay out of mine. Thank you. You are asking people to make assumptions and you make assumptions in other people's thread, then you tell me I'm wrong to make assumptions. I don't think so.

 

[KontrollerX]

Actually,

Him calling her is DEVALUING himself -Negative

Him not calling is RESPECTING himself -Positive

Yes I know.

Its called making a joke.

The forum is going in the direction of wanting AFC advice posted instead of the truth.

The truth and reality in general many have started to view as being negative here.

AFC advice is geared to be fantasy based and care free ie positive so thats what I provided in this thread.

I don't actually mean it though.

So yeah...

Thunder please don't call her.

If she did a bad enough offense to where you'd stop talking to her she obviously doesn't need to hear your voice ever again.

 

[ThunderMaverick]

Well if you don't want me in your topics then stay out of mine. Thank you. You are asking people to make assumptions and you make assumptions in other people's thread, then you tell me I'm wrong to make assumptions. I don't think so.

You're missing the point. What we argued about had to do with the topic you were bringing up.

You're trolling. Unless you want to give advice on the topic at hand then please leave. KTHXBYE

 

[ThunderMaverick]

thunder-

your acting like a pyssy.

come on man there are tons of women out there....GET SOME

GAWD, Friv! It's not about other women. I'm getting laid on a regular basis. I don't NEED other women to cure this problem I have. Other women isn't the issue. It's ME. I'm the problem. I gotta figure myself out on this one.