Guys, I think I've got a serious oneitus problemo.

[Poonani Maker]

Welp, here's the deal. I really, for 2 years now, love this cute bunny blond (always in ponytail or with her hair up in some fashion). I've sacrificed A LOT to be close to her daily. I've gained a lot in reputation and status since my fall for her. In a sense, she's improved me and I feel we should be together forever because of it. Cause and Effect. I've responded to her call.

She gave me her number, IOIs, and initiated EVERYTHING in the beginning, then I fell for her without knowing she'd seduced me and gotten into my mind ever so sneakily, then she told me never to speak to her, call her, OR LOOK at her ever again. A whole lot of **** when down 1.5 years ago and now I'm back in black and badder than ever physically and status-wise. She now Wants me, I can tell, but I'm not sure if I can trust her and we haven't dated in 1.5 years.

MY PROBLEM is when going out (to bars, to clubs) and when conversing with chicks (during my work day) who give me interest, I keep comparing her to this One I've loved for almost 2 years. EVERY chick I see (at a concert whatever) I compare her to this One I've been hypnotized by. She hijacked my brain, literally, not that I'm saddened by that. I'm actually thankful, because she made me a better person, and if it wasn't for her, I don't think I'd be where I am today, morally, ethically, status-wise, character-wise, or in strength of mind and body.

Because I compare every girl (I could be having sex with) to her, I "shut down" or "close off" my sexual desires for a fling or one night (not love) because none of them stimulate me as she does in person. Sexually they stimulate me while they're giving me IOIs, but the total package of most women before doesn't compare to the One I've been captured by.

How in the world do YOU play with multiple women? When you don't really love them? I find it hard to love many women, even though they'd love to get to know or love me as evident by their IOIs (thumb wrestling, opening Me, EC, bumping into me, telling me I have the best legs of any guy in this town). It's just been so hard to choose the one for me. It's an important decision, who you decide to be with, because so many of them are dead-ends. I don't want just ANY chick.

 

[intel123]

go get un hipmotized haha stop comparing with the x girl

there is better then her go find out whats out there. u prob get better then the x :kick: stop thinking about the differecnes because if you find a girl exactly like ur x u will prob get hearbroken again

 

[Michael Chief]

its simple

date your oneitis exclusively for a little while and see if thats what you really want. have her in bed and the whole deal and see if you feel the same way after a while. if and when you start looking at other women and feel sexual desire, you know its game time ;-)

personally, i dont want to be in ball and chains, but a lot of guys are happy in exclusive relationships. consider that to be one of your options.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Thanks. I just have a feeling that if I were to marry one of these Other ones, I'd still have a longing affection for the One who got the keys to my mind, AND would even cheat or divorce one of these other ones if'n she ever came around me and tempted or lured me or wanted me to marry her all of a sudden-like and I don't want to be put in that position of hurting the other ones so I abstain from them and Wait for the One.

 

[frisco]

Look man you have to make a decision, this chick has already wasted years of your life and has taken part of you man hood. we have all been in this situation before but sometime we have to think with our head and not our emotions. Oneits is never good for anyone it causes us to think and act unlike ourselves, You should never have deep emotions for a girl inless you lay her. Becuase it is only then that there is no doubt that she has deep emotions for you. If it were me i would delete her number and every thing related to this chick text messages ect. go to the club and get some numbers and start dating other chicks, if she wants you she will get ahold of you if you see her somewere act like you have never thought of her since dont initiate anything but a friendly convo. but this is just my opinion.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Thanks, frisco, I'll take your words seriously. The problem is that I see her almost every single day and now she's following me and I think that it is because she has seen this overwhelming commitment on My part and is probably thinking about me nightly and in her dreams now, that I may be the One for her, that she'd been wrong about me or that her motivation for me that she knew she put forth has now come to fruition and I've chosen the Hard route and crashed through her forcefield. She has no choice now but to have feelings for me. She did before, but now I think that I'm in her mind now, as it should be. We are very much alike. I knew that more than her back then. Now I think she knows. This is her last chance though. I have other women waiting on my doorstep.

 

[Ravish]

Depends on your view on oneitis.

For me, sticking with one broad for a while doesnt seem like a bad thing. As long as she stimulates my interests, i am usually fine going into a relationship. Many guys out there feel that they gain strength in numbers( the more girls they fvck the more satisfaction they will get). I simply dont believe that. Its the quality to me, not the quantity. But then again that would be my opinion.

In all honesty though, this isnt really a bad problem. Just detach yourself for a minute and realize how many guys cant even talk to a broad let alone pull one

Have fun choosing sir!