DasaniWater
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Hey Guys. Well these past couple of months with my girl friend havnt been so great. I kept thinking how I could handle this, because we've been together for 6 months, and i thought i knew how to work this out, but it turns out Im not doing **** right and i need your help!!
Okay so where to begin. Well let me try to remember how it all started. Well it all started when she never trusted me and always thought i lied to her etc. etc. etc. Then it came down to her being a huge hypocrit, and getting really pissed off at me when i didnt trust her with some things i guess. I cant really remember how it all started, but i do know how it is now, it is horrible.
My girl friend is 17, im 18, we've been going out for 6 months, we've had sex, but not that often, probably about 6 times, WE NEVER GO OUT (Parents are very strict), so obviously i havnt had sex with her in a month or so. Okay so anyways. We never hang out. We never even hardly talk on the phone, prolly about 10 minutes avg a day 20 minutes if im lucky.. Ive been complain and complainin like how shes been acting with me lately, and its not working, i try to work things out with her but that doesnt work either so im asking you for help. Well she treats me like trash to be honest. she treats me worse than she treats her own friends now, aand im her 6 month boy friend, and she says she loves me. Of course she says all seh wants. but when it comes down to her actions she treats me like crap.
For instance, last week she finally had some free time to hang out after school about 3 hours. I thought this was the perfect oppertunity for us to finally hang out and make things better between us. At first she told me i was being a total ******* and thats why shes been like this with me, but now ive been totally kissing her feet and basically being a ****in ***** to her and she still treats me like **** after 2 weeks of it. its like shes a totally different person now. I have no idea what got into her. But anyways, so i asked her , Can i hang out with you after school? She told me no, because its only for girls that are goin to hang out and she told me shed hang out with me another time. Well trust me it wasnt that direct. I was prolly talkin to her about it for like 15 minutes and i finally realized she was beating around the bush and didnt want me to be with her in the first place. So then the next day i found out that a lot of guys came along as well. Shes not cheating on me i know that for sure. But that fact is she didnt even want me to be with her for some odd reason. thats how it usually is now.
Well she had the next day free as well, so we hung out, and we went to the movies, i spent about 60 dollars on her total, we only saw 30 minutes of the movie, she wanted to leave so we left, i was pretty mad but i didnt make it seem like i was. so there i was, following behind her like a dog ( as usual) and she begings to run a bit from me, and then i run a bit with her, and she looks back at me and says "Must you follow me??" that totally blew me away. Wel lits not the first time she treated me like trash. So then i left her alone. I caught up with her later, i was askin her whats been up with her lately, because we use to have this great connection, things were perfect, now shes totally different. Well basically i was cryin to her in her face and seh didnt even give a****. ok so that was that... Well lately ive been callin her on the phone, i guess im pretty much just annoying to her now. It breaks my heart to be honest. because i dont know who she is anymore. all the things we use to have together shes completely different like we never had anything. So lately ive been callin her and crying on the phone, she doesnt even care about the way im feeling. She just hangs up on me, or tells me that im annoying her and all this crap. So yeah. She tells me nothing is wrong, she hasnt changed, etc etc etc. It just confuses me. She tells me im making a huge deal out of nothing, when it is a big deal. Like im the crazy one being dramatic for no reason. I dont know whats been up with her this month though. She doesnt even talk to me that much, she usually walks off from me when we're at lunch and basically makes me feel like a dog annoying her by following her. She told me she wanted a week break but i dont think that would make anything better. I just try to talk to her and work things out but she tells me there is nothing to talk about. she told her friend im very clingy and i annoy her and crap. she never was like this. The only reason i keep attempting to follow her after she treats me like crap is because i just want to make things better but its not working. She doesnt talk to me. Well she tells me its because "i cant talk".. so basically saying im really boring. She rather hang out or talk to another guy than her own boy friend now. it pisses me off. Im getting so confused, so many mixed signals, i asked her if she still wanted to be with me and she said "I dont know", but she says she loves me. WTF?
Ok so lately shes been talking about all these things hinting we arent right for eachother, we're different, we got nothing in common, etc etcf etc. When before we had this total thing about spending the rest of our live stogetehr becaus we fell in love. But now shes not the same person and i dont know what the hell happened. I feel like a dog following her around now trying to talk to her, but she doesnt seem to really want to talk to me.. but she talks to all her other friends. I ask her to talk to me, and she says "we dont have anything to talk about". i always got the feeling that when italked to her she thought i was boring cus she always falls asleep on me on the phone.
So yeah, what do i do? besides NEXT her? Ive been thinking of playing the game on her now, playing hard to get, not being so available etc etc. or when she walks off on me or ignores me i dont take that crap and walk off on her? But its not that simple when we use to have something together, it makes no sense to me. I think things will only get worse if i dont take her crap and i do the same things. i just want to solve all this.
Does anyone have any suggestions on what i should do?? please be NICE
oh yeah, ill list some things she had said that made me feel like she didnt want to be with me anymore.
"we need a break from eachother"
i asked her, do you still want to be with me? "i dont know"
"i want you to meet a girl and give her the world when you go to college"
"when you graduate i want to have ayear break, and if we really are meant to be then we will see eachother then"
"we are totally different, the way we think and everything"
the list goes on...
well she told me she loved me today.. twice.... she also kissed me today for the first time in 4 days. im just so confused. like wtf. do i take her to the prom or no??? i just want to klnow what the hell is going on with her, but she wont tell me, she says im just over reacting and im not. and its breaking my heart...
Okay so where to begin. Well let me try to remember how it all started. Well it all started when she never trusted me and always thought i lied to her etc. etc. etc. Then it came down to her being a huge hypocrit, and getting really pissed off at me when i didnt trust her with some things i guess. I cant really remember how it all started, but i do know how it is now, it is horrible.
My girl friend is 17, im 18, we've been going out for 6 months, we've had sex, but not that often, probably about 6 times, WE NEVER GO OUT (Parents are very strict), so obviously i havnt had sex with her in a month or so. Okay so anyways. We never hang out. We never even hardly talk on the phone, prolly about 10 minutes avg a day 20 minutes if im lucky.. Ive been complain and complainin like how shes been acting with me lately, and its not working, i try to work things out with her but that doesnt work either so im asking you for help. Well she treats me like trash to be honest. she treats me worse than she treats her own friends now, aand im her 6 month boy friend, and she says she loves me. Of course she says all seh wants. but when it comes down to her actions she treats me like crap.
For instance, last week she finally had some free time to hang out after school about 3 hours. I thought this was the perfect oppertunity for us to finally hang out and make things better between us. At first she told me i was being a total ******* and thats why shes been like this with me, but now ive been totally kissing her feet and basically being a ****in ***** to her and she still treats me like **** after 2 weeks of it. its like shes a totally different person now. I have no idea what got into her. But anyways, so i asked her , Can i hang out with you after school? She told me no, because its only for girls that are goin to hang out and she told me shed hang out with me another time. Well trust me it wasnt that direct. I was prolly talkin to her about it for like 15 minutes and i finally realized she was beating around the bush and didnt want me to be with her in the first place. So then the next day i found out that a lot of guys came along as well. Shes not cheating on me i know that for sure. But that fact is she didnt even want me to be with her for some odd reason. thats how it usually is now.
Well she had the next day free as well, so we hung out, and we went to the movies, i spent about 60 dollars on her total, we only saw 30 minutes of the movie, she wanted to leave so we left, i was pretty mad but i didnt make it seem like i was. so there i was, following behind her like a dog ( as usual) and she begings to run a bit from me, and then i run a bit with her, and she looks back at me and says "Must you follow me??" that totally blew me away. Wel lits not the first time she treated me like trash. So then i left her alone. I caught up with her later, i was askin her whats been up with her lately, because we use to have this great connection, things were perfect, now shes totally different. Well basically i was cryin to her in her face and seh didnt even give a****. ok so that was that... Well lately ive been callin her on the phone, i guess im pretty much just annoying to her now. It breaks my heart to be honest. because i dont know who she is anymore. all the things we use to have together shes completely different like we never had anything. So lately ive been callin her and crying on the phone, she doesnt even care about the way im feeling. She just hangs up on me, or tells me that im annoying her and all this crap. So yeah. She tells me nothing is wrong, she hasnt changed, etc etc etc. It just confuses me. She tells me im making a huge deal out of nothing, when it is a big deal. Like im the crazy one being dramatic for no reason. I dont know whats been up with her this month though. She doesnt even talk to me that much, she usually walks off from me when we're at lunch and basically makes me feel like a dog annoying her by following her. She told me she wanted a week break but i dont think that would make anything better. I just try to talk to her and work things out but she tells me there is nothing to talk about. she told her friend im very clingy and i annoy her and crap. she never was like this. The only reason i keep attempting to follow her after she treats me like crap is because i just want to make things better but its not working. She doesnt talk to me. Well she tells me its because "i cant talk".. so basically saying im really boring. She rather hang out or talk to another guy than her own boy friend now. it pisses me off. Im getting so confused, so many mixed signals, i asked her if she still wanted to be with me and she said "I dont know", but she says she loves me. WTF?
Ok so lately shes been talking about all these things hinting we arent right for eachother, we're different, we got nothing in common, etc etcf etc. When before we had this total thing about spending the rest of our live stogetehr becaus we fell in love. But now shes not the same person and i dont know what the hell happened. I feel like a dog following her around now trying to talk to her, but she doesnt seem to really want to talk to me.. but she talks to all her other friends. I ask her to talk to me, and she says "we dont have anything to talk about". i always got the feeling that when italked to her she thought i was boring cus she always falls asleep on me on the phone.
So yeah, what do i do? besides NEXT her? Ive been thinking of playing the game on her now, playing hard to get, not being so available etc etc. or when she walks off on me or ignores me i dont take that crap and walk off on her? But its not that simple when we use to have something together, it makes no sense to me. I think things will only get worse if i dont take her crap and i do the same things. i just want to solve all this.
Does anyone have any suggestions on what i should do?? please be NICE
oh yeah, ill list some things she had said that made me feel like she didnt want to be with me anymore.
"we need a break from eachother"
i asked her, do you still want to be with me? "i dont know"
"i want you to meet a girl and give her the world when you go to college"
"when you graduate i want to have ayear break, and if we really are meant to be then we will see eachother then"
"we are totally different, the way we think and everything"
the list goes on...
well she told me she loved me today.. twice.... she also kissed me today for the first time in 4 days. im just so confused. like wtf. do i take her to the prom or no??? i just want to klnow what the hell is going on with her, but she wont tell me, she says im just over reacting and im not. and its breaking my heart...
