Guys I need your help

[Rosy]

Ok...this is my dilemma. I was chased by a guy at work, he was at me all the time. He would make me laugh, would compliment me, put me on a pedistal, etc. Now he knew I had a live-in boyfriend. This all started when we were at a party and we danced. One Dance...

Well...he pays so much attention to me that I'm ready to leave my boyfriend (who was not there for me).

He was like a pit-bull...at me all the time. At the Xmas party my boyfriend showed up and he left!

So...long story short we finally meet and have drinks. I told him that I would leave my boyfriend so that we could start dating.

We would talk on the phone almost daily, but of course I called him.

To top things off...the day I was going to buy a house of my own..I tried to call him. I was told he was not home. The next day the same....this went on for about 1 week. I realized he was giving me the brush off.

So I ask...why would someone do all this? Why would they go to all that trouble to try and catch me...and turn around and just disapear??

Tips please

 

[The Rake]

Hey Rosy. Some dudes like the hunt but get let down after they've bagged their prey. When this guy was pursuing you even though you had a BF already, his adrenalin was flowing overtime. You were a challenge. Could he steal you from your BF? After you dropped your loser BF, you became available (an anti-challenge) and when you kept phoning him, you became the initiator. Some men find that daunting and stifling that a chick would be phoning them all the time. The woman in his eyes is exhibiting clinginess, neediness, doesn't have a life, boring, unexciting, etc. You get my drift. Men love to do the chasing.

 

[DJDamage]

Rosy, you got exectly what you deserved. Instead of caring yourself with dignity and breaking up with your boyfriend a long time ago, you hung up with him and waited until another guy shows up. You lost already alot of respect coming here with that info. That is the game some women do to guys, which brings many of them here.

Please don't give us an excuse he was "not there for me" because its weak. As for the guy maybe he smarten up and saw what you are all about. Maybe you should go to "Dear Abby" forum or something cause you are not going to get the answers to your liking here.

 

[Kaine]

Did you sleep with him?

 

[Sart]

Fukc that man

Rosy, I NEVER respond to women in this forum but this kind of pisssed me off. I broke up with my wife and made a point of NOT leaving her FOR someone, it is simply hurtful. Yeah, I have slept around and a few trees have fallen in a few forrests, but you...you dumped one bloke to take up another. I think the pursuer dude just thought, "fukc, I just wanna bang this chick, not fukcing marry her".

He could SMELL you're easy, he was predatory and we can smell our prey a mile off. He KNEW he could get you, but he miscalculated, you were meant to just shut the fukc up and spread em, but NO! You expect him to take you seriously..WHY WOULD HE? WOULD YOU?

You amaze me, you broken winged chicks. You frigginn put out the vibe, respond to it, give us what we want, then, you expect us to change into the very thing you are running from. THINK, for once in your life...THINK!

I hear it all the time, "he's so lovely, he loves his wife? kids? whatever?" and yet what attracts you really? His ability to make you get all gooey in the fork. You want him to then settle for YOU! What does he get? A free bowl of soup? Oh, thats right, this is what he gets.

He gets YOU, your friends, your fukcing Mother, your attitude and the undeniable fact that you are 4 SALE, if anything better comes along.

I LOVE chicks like you, I really do....I am not kidding, I literally LOVE you. You make some poor bastad be there for you and I get the good stuff on the side. YOU make MY world go round, without YOU I would be forced to marry, or throw my fist in bed and jump on top of it. You are feminine, confused, probably hurt and definitely vulnerabe...easy, easy pickins.

BUT...YOU do not belong here, this is a place where men can inform each other about YOU, and the best way to conquer you. So, pisss off and find your next victim, change him, afc him and cheat on him, hopefully with me...you just have to relocate haha.

 

[skeeloo]

Originally posted by The Rake
Hey Rosy. Some dudes like the hunt but get let down after they've bagged their prey. When this guy was pursuing you even though you had a BF already, his adrenalin was flowing overtime. You were a challenge. Could he steal you from your BF? After you dropped your loser BF, you became available (an anti-challenge) and when you kept phoning him, you became the initiator. Some men find that daunting and stifling that a chick would be phoning them all the time. The woman in his eyes is exhibiting clinginess, neediness, doesn't have a life, boring, unexciting, etc. You get my drift. Men love to do the chasing.

sorry but , i dont agree. if anything men love to be wanted.

 

[Sart]

sheeeeit

Skeelo, you just proved the rakes point. Read what he said properly and read what I said properly, not with your underlying desires but for what is being said. Seek the truth in it. This dude wanted her to want him, but not for what she wanted from him. You have to stop proof texting for what you want to see or hear, just ask pertinent questions.

WHY DID HE PURSUE HER?
WHY HAS HE LOST INTEREST?

He pursued her because she was open to it, even invited it. She'll deny it, she may not be consiosly aware of it even.

He lost interest because he "got" her, but he just wanted to bang her, she expected more....a lot more.

Skeelo, you come off sounding like the poor bastad she had at home while she was having her dalliance with the pursuer. DONT BE THAT MAN.

 

[skeeloo]

Re: sheeeeit

Originally posted by Sart
Skeelo, you just proved the rakes point. Read what he said properly and read what I said properly, not with your underlying desires but for what is being said. Seek the truth in it. This dude wanted her to want him, but not for what she wanted from him. You have to stop proof texting for what you want to see or hear, just ask pertinent questions.

WHY DID HE PURSUE HER?
WHY HAS HE LOST INTEREST?

He pursued her because she was open to it, even invited it. She'll deny it, she may not be consiosly aware of it even.

He lost interest because he "got" her, but he just wanted to bang her, she expected more....a lot more.

Skeelo, you come off sounding like the poor bastad she had at home while she was having her dalliance with the pursuer. DONT BE THAT MAN.

well i know his main aiim was to bang her, what else would he want, but according to what she said he didnt get any sex from her and that faustrated him, yes i know clingy women turn men off but in her case i think he never really had any emotional attraction to her he just wanted to f**k lol(like many of us). i guess if he really cared about her then her constantly calling him wouldnt turn him off.

 

[Rosy]

No I did not sleep with him. Now this is the interesting part, he said that he would not sleep (not even kiss) another mans woman!! So, we never went past that discussion.

Oh, as far as the man at home. He was not interested in me and took me for granted. If this other guy didn't come along my confidence level would have been zip.

Try not to judge me...I was looking for a mans point of view. Not trying to break into your forum.