"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Guys I need help

Pathgen

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What do you do if a girl that you really love comes back into your life and ****s in your face.

I mean what she did wasnt that terrible but i feel pretty bad and I was finnaly getting my inner game down.

The truth is this girl is beneath me. I know it and so does she. However, even though i know she isnt my equal she is someone who I had a lot of fun with.

I broke up with her because i could feel it ending with the way she was treating me. Yesterday she started talking to me again and since she was a shy little girl the whole time we were dating i finnaly found out that the reason she was acting the way she was, was insecurity.

She didn't believe that me going out to college and getting drunk would stop me from being faithful. So she left me and started dating an internet douche because "It's so much easier when you have never had him close"

At this point I am at a loss because all though she is dating this guy over the internet I feel like i can derail that pretty easily and get her back with me.

But then I am thinking i live far away and **** even though I still have strong feelings I should move on.

Its ****ing with me because I don't know what to do. I think as a DJ you should be with the person that you are happiest together. However, can we really be happy if i have to constantly reassure her that i am not sleeping around? (Her words on what she wanted)

Maybe i need to figure this out on my own just felt like ranting somewhere.

And another thing WTF does this mean

Path: you were going and you were my girl that was my philosophy

her: sometimes i wonder why i ever thought i loved you so much.

Her: i mean **** you back handedly called me ugly

Path: its not how you look on the outside that appealed to me the most sweety and you thought you loved me because at the time i was right for you

Her: yeah....you still could be but you probably wouldnt want to be now that you have your choice of so many.

Im beggining to hate her lol. What pisses me off more is that we should have had this conversation when we broke up not a couple months down the line. I mean God woman learn to communicate with someone you care about. Geez

Im sure this whole conversation is stemming from the internet douche getting boring and now she wants me back because deep down I can tell who she really cares about. I have always known it.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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46and2aheadofme

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I'm gonna say about 0.000000001% of high school relationships last through college. Besides she's right. You do have a lot of options now. College is the time of your life. Wouldn't you rather go out, party and hit on/ hook up with girls without feeling guilty? Take it from a 3rd Year in college that you do not want to waste any of your time cuz it goes by fast. Especially not on some ho who has already deliberately disrespected your manhood.
 

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I dunno man, I just tell people what I want from them and then it either happens or it doesn't... I mean if it were me I'd just tell her the truth: I don't want to deal with this and unless she can pull herself together and handle being with me, then it's just whatever... life's too short to deal with a bunch of bull****... but if she's hot I'd probably banger one more time then drop the bomb on her and let her make her choice or if she can't then I'd get rid of her and move on to the next one. heh or myabe bang her on her webcam and make the internet douche watch :)
 

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My uncle married his high school girlfriend, but they went though a period of years when they did not talk, fvcked other people, and then worked it out.

It was mainly work that tore them apart. Once they got their careers situated they tried again, and they have a very inspirational marriage.
 

Pathgen

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haha guywhoneedshelp thats the problem with me. I realize im no psychic but what my mind is telling me is that we might end up going through a situation where we come back in a couple of years or in a couple of months and everything clicks and works out.

Whatever though i can only really just sit back and watch things develop and in the mean time keep doing what im doing.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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shaunuk

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Let me give you my opinion.

With my high school GF, I also had mixed feelings. I felt like you: on the one hand, I cared about her and wanted to stay with her despite the distance, but on the other hand, it's college, with all those new experiences and people. Is there really any point staying with her?

I stayed with her for a bit, but I soon realised the whole high school GF thing should generally be left there - ends as high school ends. Before college when I was deciding what to do, I used to think "oh, if we were older...I'll probably finish with her now but I bet things work out in a couple of years and we get back together!"...mate, forget those thoughts. I also soon realised that once you've seen college and started having fun times there (going out, getting drunk with loads of cool people, hooking up) you won't even want to get back together with her. You'll kick that stupid high school girlfriend "happily ever after" fantasy out the window. Trust me mate.
 

Pathgen

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Yeah shanuk thats exactly how i feel. I finally figured out though why she wont get back with me and its sad.

She plain as day deosn't want to get hurt. I don't know her current bf that well but he reassures her all the time that he loves her and is faithful. Something i didn't do in my nature. I don't want to tell her every time i go somewhere that im not going to **** around. So basically she is hella confused because its obvious she still has feelings for me and its obvious she wants to stay away from me because even though i would never cheat on her she would lose "countless nights of sleep" worrying what i am doing.

So obviously she is settling for a boy that isn't even worth worrying about or she is settling for someone who will constantly reassure her that he isnt cheating.

It feels like a shame from where im sitting though i can't deny that.

Either way until she grows up, its her loss. Maybe she will wake the **** up one day who knows, but by then i probably won't want to give it another go.

However, let me add on a plus side i feel like i can be in my old confident mindset again because i won't lie that my confidence took a plunge when a girl i cared about rejected me to date some 17 year old kid over the internet. To know the new info makes me feel like she isnt rejecting me she just is a insecure little child who can't handle being with me.
 
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