"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Guys, I have a problem. 4th of July Party.

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I can't decide which one to go to. I can go to one with whoores or I can go to one with people at it that my friends respect. This chick who's been after me for at least 2 years (and she ain't getting any younger at 28) will be at the "clean" party. I could possibly end up making out with her watching the fireworks. She wants my baby. She wants me BAD.

The problem is, I'm not so sure I want her (for Life...gulp!). She's regal like a queen 5'10" natural tan brown/blackish eyes English origin thin almost bony body. She's a dam good cook. She's sought after by lesser dudes (not my caliber). I want to make a BIG family. She's 28 so...not much time.

This other party will contain the throw-away broads (i.e. those that you would fvck but not necessarily go long-term with). This is where I am in my life right now, although I ain't gettin any younger either. I'm the kind of man who likes to keep all his options on the table and one foot out the door like DeNiro says in the movie "Heat."

Marriage scares the fvck outta me. I think that I want another much younger woman to mother several children from me. I know who she is, but she will Not be at that party. She'll probably be at home with her parents.

I just don't want to Lead On the first girl because I ain't gonna marry her and I don't want to break her heart if I show up to her party and she thinks I show up because of her, and not because of our mutual friends sharing time together. I could USE her for a night's make-out session but that's it. She shouldn't expect more outta me.

I've got Too many girls waiting on my doorstep to choose just one.

The One I wanted to choose for life over the past 2 years just got married. Don't know if I'll find another quite like her. Think Reese Witherspoon or June Carter - Same fvckin personality and mannerisms. That's what I miss. Other girls can try to imitate and play the part but none of them seem genuine and none of them seem worthy of me.

I miss my oneitis even though I was with her Tuesday speaking on friendly terms even though she's married now. I don't know if she made the right decision, but at least he's rich - I'm not.

So, should I just GO to the party with respectable folk or to the throw-away party?

I've just got another or two on the back burner that I'd rather be with than the one up front at this party. She may want me but I'm not so sure I want her. Seriously. Either that or I go to it tomorrow and start fawning all over her and acting AFC as much as possible to make her not want me anymore. I should try to impress her and win her approval right? It might backfire.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Poonani Maker said:
I can't decide which one to go to.
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Seriously. Either that or I go to it tomorrow and start fawning all over her and acting AFC as much as possible to make her not want me anymore. I should try to impress her and win her approval right? It might backfire.
This one's easy: keep your options open, go to both. I always have more fun this way. Go with the fun early on and after there move on to the other party.
 

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Crow said:
This one's easy: keep your options open, go to both. I always have more fun this way. Go with the fun early on and after there move on to the other party.
Good idea, Crow, buddy. I will do that. I'll go to the "nice" party first then hit the mean one later. I've done this before 2 years ago. People wonder "Where are you going? Why do you have to leave so soon?" ME: "Because I've go wh0remongering to do. Use your imagination."
 

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It makes for a more fun night and, to boot, adds social value having to leave.
 
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