Guys, how would you deal with being set up to marry someone's daughter?

[Poonani Maker]

I mean, it happened all the time during the middle ages etc. This **** was arranged! I'm currently be coaxed to marry a rather attractive gal 9 years my younger. Would you, AS A GUY, be more receptive to this scenario or do you think that an arranged marriage would be harder for the Girl to cope with, as girls generally think about "fate" and "destiny" and trying to find that perfect "prince charming" for them? I'm an awesome guy and her parents know it, but girls are picky as a mother ****er.

Do you think it could work out in the long run? It's not very American, I know, but she IS attractive, normal, and smart, though a little on the bookworm straight-A nerd side.

 

[wjh]

Attractive isn't good enough. Sexual compatibility is important. YOU KNOW that sexing a girl in this sort of scenario is going to be rather difficult. Breaking down that assumed ASD is going to be a *****.

Other than that, I guess under the circumstances you laid out, it doesn't sound bad.

 

[Jitterbug]

It works in a society that has the structures in place to make it work. I don't think it would work in America.

 

[Poonani Maker]

It works in a society that has the structures in place to make it work. I don't think it would work in America.

Yeah, I wonder if her girlfriends etc would ridicule or look down on her for just going along with the desires of her parents and getting hitched to my genes, my money, my heart they know to be so good and true for their daughter.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Sexual compatibility is important.

I think that I'm sexually compatible with almost every woman, once she gets to know me in that sense.

 

[mintxx]

haha that's a pretty big call man...
seriously though, i reckon most people could work out in a relationship, hell, look at the people that are together that shouldn't be. so who cares, go for it.
i'm against marriage though.. so not the best person to advise..

 

[Warrior74]

My mom is trying to set me up with one of her friends daughters....ummmm thats a big no! its not marriage..but yah...it just seems like I'm so pathetic they have to set me up with someone. Yah. I'm gonna have to pass on that.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Man thanks. We're going on a camping/cookout trip this weekend with her mom and dad and a few other of their and my friends. I still don't know if I want this girl. She's French. I'm Irish, and my oneitis whom I still see (saw her yesterday), is golden-haired Irish sooo cute and really almost everything (except no money ) I've always wanted in a gal, but she's getting married to big money this month so, I won't be seeing her anymore I guess, maybe.

 

[MacAvoy]

Mincing Words

Are her parents actuallying arranging her marriage to you or are they just trying to get her to date you because they like you? Is she a virgin?

I think you need to get your facts straight and learn what an arranged marriage is or fill us in on the scenario.

 

[Warrior74]

Thats how you see it? Odd take man.

I'd see it as a mother simply selecting some one she approves, not speaking against your character.

Plus, you never know, she could be the bomb diggity.

if you knew my family and my mom you would understand. but just because they see me that way...doesn't mean thats the way I am. I never talk about women or girls with my parents, so they think I don't date. I would hate to meet someone who has been tainted with that point of view.

 

[Poonani Maker]

Are her parents actuallying arranging her marriage to you or are they just trying to get her to date you because they like you? Is she a virgin?

I think you need to get your facts straight and learn what an arranged marriage is or fill us in on the scenario.

They are just trying to get her to date me because they don't want to support her anymore. And yes, she IS a virgin. That would be pret-ty nasty on our honeymoon. Should I bring tools or just use my pecker?

More than her parents are trying to bring us together. She'd have to change a little before I'd marry her. She's well grounded, like I said, a nerd, but she doesn't behave very feminine. She's just, I don't know, Puritanic tomboyish, and I'm not so sure that turns me on. She's WELL grounded though and would probably make an excellent wife, not like those floosies wishy-washy gals I meet all the time - the kind that gets bored with you and starts thinking about other guys even while you're married.

I'll see a woman get all giddy with meeting me, but in the back of my mind, I know that it's just temporary. I don't want a woman who's brain spits at targets all over the map with no sense of what's right or wrong just what floats her boat in the moment. I don't want one like that. She's gonna have to love and hold up the idealized ME. The moment she starts criticizing, you know, the way ALL women do, that's the moment I stick an entire loaf of bread in her mouth. A woman should know her place. The man is head of the household.

 

[Poonani Maker]

How would you read this? Her mom rubs my shoulder for about 5 seconds while talking with her and another momma.

 

[thedeparted]

How old are you?