I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
In shape Latin/Italian women in their mid 20s with no kids isn't that hard to find, Dave. I see women who fit that description every time I leave my house.
YOU want more than that, and this is where your problem resides. You want things that require getting to know a woman; things you cannot screen for simply by looking at a woman.
No matter where you go, Dave, if there were 100 women there that fit the physical appearance you desire, most of them will not make the cut based on your list of requirements. Of the handful who might qualify, you're likely to find they may not be looking, may not be ready to settle down, etc. and even if you do find that one, you then have to overcome the most difficult part of all: she has to like you too. You have to fit her desires too.
150k/yr. might not cut it. She may not like your personality. She may not be interested in having kids. There are many things that can end it for her.
The more particular you are, the more women you are going to have to go through to find it. Your list is going to require you to make the effort in getting to know hundreds of women to screen for what you want, if not more.
The suggestions above are great, for men who want to meet attractive women who don't spend all of their time in bars. But for you, it's unlikely to help because you don't understand the numbers game
you're putting yourself into with this list of requirements you developed.
I've never suggested this before, but I think you would have the best odds hiring a matchmaking service. Not OLD. But actually hiring people to find that girl for you and setting up a date.
If you're that serious, if you make the money you say you do, if you have the social charisma you claim to have...meeting a woman this way may be your best bet.
Any woman you match up with this way will not only be close to what you want, but you will also be close to what she may be looking for. And if she is paying for a service like that, you know she's serious about finding someone.
It's a costly path, but I think it's your only shot.
Only other option is to chill, learn to enjoy the company of women in general and hope you get lucky finding that unique gem you dream about.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
when she says you a player? you wont know wtf to say!!!,
you think your posh dont ya dressed like that for the area wel live in!??! youll freeze and look anally shafted!!..
when she says i dont have sex on the first date..!! youll stutter like youve got some speach impediment
I've met all kinds of women like that through OLD, lawyers and the like, but I'm much more care free and less particular with it. But quality attracts quality.
It won't kill you to utilize it, but I would suggest doing an advanced/ detailed search for the kind of girl you're looking for before jumping into it. If only 3 or 4 pop up in your search results, probably isn't worth it. It's still a numbers game.
But as I said, with your requirements, don't expect OLD to lead to a lot of productivity. It's just another poker in the fire.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Think about what will happen to you once you find your unicorn.
Are you going to worship her like a princess since you finally found her after years of searching, put her on a pedestal, cling on to her, give her everything she desires? Because I can tell you it will not last very long before she will be bored of you.
Women are disposable goods. They all leave sooner or later, and usually in a worse shape than how you found her.
You have to have an abundance mindset, meaning not needing a girl, you're cool if she comes, you're cool if she goes.
You always have options, some are 7's but really funny or can sex or cook very good, others are 9's but bad in bed or have ****ty personalities.
I recommend always have a flock of different kinds of women, that abundance will attract more and more women. and then the 9's and 10's come by themselves but you don't care so much anymore, you treat them basically like the 7s and if they get out of line you can walk away without hesitation and don't look back.