"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Guys DONT buy her excuses.

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never buy the IM TO BUSY OR STRESSED EXCUSE.

case in point:


from my personal expiernece.


girl 1: was my HS gf...she loved me...and she would pretty much push her self to limit to sastify me..or be a good GF no matter how stressed she was.

girl 2: I dated for 3 months...she was in colllege....thats it just college...and she ended up playing me for a month about being busy and stressed..and then dumped me.

girl 3: was fulltime worker and 25...and she said I love u to me first..and then she pulls after 2 months she is stressed and was cold to me. then dumped me the next day!..then she wanted me back...I used her for sex while dating someone else..then I fycked her one last time.and busted on her face..and never called her again. she really ****ed with my head and that was when I finally took my balls in my life and made myself repsectable..this was about a yr ago today.

girl 4: ive been with for 11 months..she is my fiance and is pregnant with my son..7 months along now! she is in college about to gradute..she has a internship and a part time job..and she still is there for me..calls me, makes time for me, loves me..apologizes when she is short with me.

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all in all..woman are emotional creatures..if she really loves you...NOTHING, I mean NOTHING Will stand in the way. 2 of the woman that have loved me showed that..and I can see this with other friends who ahve LTR's.

so next time she says one thing and does another..its nearly a 100 percent guarentee she is full OF SHYT
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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frivolousz21 said:
girl 4: ive been with for 11 months..she is my fiance and is pregnant with my son..7 months along now! she is in college about to gradute..she has a internship and a part time job..and she still is there for me..calls me, makes time for me, loves me..apologizes when she is short with me.
Wow, you guys were together four months when she got pregnant and you proposed, eh? That's balls, my friend.
 

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Wow, you guys were together four months when she got pregnant and you proposed, eh? That's balls, my friend.
well..the thing is..we were "friends for 2 yrs before this"

its a long story..I wasnt ever in the friends zone..I just wasnt the right guy to date her at the time.

she was a church type girl..I was a pot smoking bum.

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so I knew her very well before I dated her the 2nd time.

I will be honest though..when i proposed and she got prego I didnt know her fully..over the past 3 or 4 months I have gotten to know her much deeper...and luckily we just have it so far..we both get along and can talk and talk about everything in everyday life.

proly why for 2 yrs I knew she was good for me..but I wasnt ready for that
 

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I agree. A girl will make time for you if she's interested. Right now my GF is very busy studying for exams, she's not spoken to any of her friends during this time, yet she'll always make time to see me and for me to stay the night.

In my past experience, the "I'm too busy" or "I've got a lot going on" and alike always precedes a rejection/end of a relationship.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Desdinova said:
Friv, it's good to see that you're still learning from your experiences while you're in a LTR. :up:

thanks...Oh yea..I honestly think ive learned more now..because I can sit back and see things more objectively for me and for everyone else.


I really believe and I think you do to. That you need 2 or 3 LTR's to have a good relationship.

I take that back...I think its more important for the male to have 2 or 3. because we have to be leaders and oversee the LTR and know its going well..all the woman has to do is love and she is fine.

that might sound sexist but in my expiernces and my friends it seems how it works.
 

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Great post........... here are my expreriences to further strenghten your point.......

1) I had an ex who I know for a fact loved me to death. She had a fulltime job and went to school for four hours a day. She also was in the Air Force Reserves so that tied up alot of her weekends. She still made time for me 3 or 4 times a week. We'd go to the movies and she would literally fall asleep on my shoulder from being so tired. What a sweetheart.

2) I used to work with this girl doing security, what a hottie. After knowing her for a few weeks I decided to ask her out. She gave me this long-winded excuse how she's not looking for anything cause she's busy with school and work and doesn't have time. Well we stopped working together and I found out from a friend six months later that she was knocked up and about to get married. Real busy huh? :rolleyes: Why couldn't she just say that she didn't want to go out with me cause I had the same bullshyt job she had and that she was looking for someone who was paid. I guess she was trying to spare my feelings but please................. guys don't ever listen to what they say, watch what they do and you will see the truth.
 
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