guys, do ur gfs invite you out everywhere?

[HappyHarryHardon]

so i noticed on her facebook today that she said her work was cancelled tomorrow (she's coming over my place tomorrow night) and asked "who wants to go to blah blah festival (need to visit for studies)"

i was going to comment saying "i'll be down that way, i'll come with!" but then i thought ... naaahh. i'm just actually wondering why she didn't invite me? maybe i would of been interested in going (i actually am cause it sounds interesting) but in a way i can't be bothered going all the way there to meet her and hang out all day, then hang out for the rest of the night. she has invited me out a couple times so far to hang out with her and friends in the past.

i guess she didnt invite me because she knows she'll be seeing me later on that night. do you guys get invited out everywhere your girlfriend goes?

 

[AgentIX]

How long have you guys been going out? It's normal behavior to get invited to some but not all events. I wouldn't sweat it. You shouldn't be taking her up on every single invite anyways. Better to have your own **** going on and invite her sometimes, although it's a good indicator if she is inviting you along to all these things. Don't think so much about why she didn't invite you this time or another time.

I will say though that the only time you may want to consider thinking about it is if she has a history of always inviting you and then she suddenly stops inviting you to things.

 

[foomee]

just let her go with her friends. they say the best gift you can give someone is the gift of missing you. and she'll probably invite you anyways tonight. if she does, just say you're busy.

 

[HappyHarryHardon]

hmm, isn't that playing games? if she invites me and i say i am busy even though i'm not? is this one of them necessary rules you have to play in order to not look too available or something? wow that sucks eh. oh and ive only been with her for two months.

 

[AgentIX]

You just don't want to be predictable. Predictable = boring = goodbye. Some games are necessary. Why do people always associate games with negativity? I don't care what woman you find (I have tested this on hundreds of women), if you are up her ass all the time, she WILL get sick of you. That is my personal guarantee. I promise. So really, does that sound like a fun game to play? You get all out of control over a woman who eventually loses all interest and respect for you and then you get left to suffer? I'll take option a over that **** any day.

Hang out with her always, always accept her every invitation, always be available. No. That is not the way, friend. I'm trying to help you avoid the mistakes (many times over) that I made. There's a good reason you keep hearing that advice, not to be too available. It's because a) you don't want to end up chasing her off, b) you'll end up not only appearing to be needy, but you'll actually MAKE YOURSELF more needy, especially after she starts rationing you, and c) she needs room to miss you, that way she can be excited about seeing you again. Make sense?

 

[HappyHarryHardon]

yeah it makes sense. i actually would love to spend more time with her, it just sucks that i have to pretend i don't want to in order to keep her around. *sigh*
we have the best time together when we hang out but, even then i would still want to spend more time. in that case i'm hoping she invites me to this event so i can decline lol. either way, come tomorrow night i'll be seeing her - usually we see each other twice or once a week.

why is it that most guys would love it if the girl was up OUR ass all the time but they don't like that and its boring to them? i mean i would love if a girl text me every day to say hey and want to hang out with me often (not every single day but almost). funny stuff hmm?

i guess that's the way it is eh?

 

[AgentIX]

I think it's because you haven't had a girl do that yet. There's a reason you want a woman so badly, it's usually because she doesn't smother you. It's basic human psychology. If something is limited, it has a higher value. I think you're doing great though, hanging out only 1 or 2 times a week is just enough. If you present yourself as more of a challenge, I think you'll start to see her call/text you a lot more often. Just don't slip up! Takes practice. I'm still working at it. Always something to improve on.

 

[BadNews]

It is a tough balancing act...especially if you're REALLY into the girl. This is where the 'spinning of plates' comes in. If you had other stuff going on you WOULD have a reason to decline her invitation.

IMHO, spinning plates doesnt necessarily have to mean other women. One plate could be your buddies, another plate could be a hobby you enjoy..or work..or family, or going to the gym. w/e. MAKE yourself busy! Gives you way less time to worry about this crap, and makes you a more interesting person. Its also a lot of fun to keep yourself busy all the time, whether with women or other things!

GL man, you'll be fine.

 

[pipe007]

I find myself to be lucky in this sense

my gf invites me everywhere she goes, even if I can't make it, she invites me... if I cancel it because I'm busy, or work, then I tell her to go anyways and have a good time.

I invite her where I go too, if she cant go, thats fine, Ill still go... unless its clubbing.

we have made this relationship rule since day one of our relationship, none of us is allowed to go clubbing without the other, no exceptions.

I told her I would not tolerate her going clubbing alone with her friends if I don't go. I live by this rule and wont break it.. she agreed to it, and she feels the same way about me going clubbing without her, which i can respect.

other than that, she is free to do what she wants as long as its respectful towards me.

and yes, my gf invites me everywhere she goes, she gets sad if I cant go sometimes, but that's ok.

 

[Cherokee]

and yes, my gf invites me everywhere she goes, she gets sad if I cant go sometimes, but that's ok.

Do you go to the salon with her?

 

[cordoncordon]

I'll be honest, my gf of two years and I pretty much do everything together. First girl I have ever been this way with. The thing is, we want to do everything together and the thought of not doing so is kind of odd at this point. I mean if I play cards with the guys or play a sport with them she doesn't participate lol, but other than that......We go on all vacations together, go shopping....dinners, movies, clubs, watch TV, cook, work out, etc etc together, all the time. And ya know, I love it.

You know what is funny though, we have each been on Facebook since we met each other, and I think we have posted on each others walls exactly one time. We don't need to flaunt how we feel about each other....we just do it.