Guys at work bragging about me? Good or Bad?

[DragonBlood]

I met a girl today who was lost she gave me her number and asked me to work for her company within about 10mins. So I decided to tell the story to the guys at work over lunch because I thought it was funny, to my surprise they were amazed and dumb founded, I was actually trying to make a joke about quitting and wasnt excepting this response.

The thing is, one of the girls at the office was also sitting there listening to the conversation and I had taken her on two dates already (guys didnt know). They went on to talk about how I could give dating advice and asking 'when am I going to call her', 'what will I do now' etc.... Needless to say I have a reputation as a player/go-getter now that I dont think is gone to leave, but in a good way. The girls reaction seemed to be more of curiosity and also dumb founded. Maybe ask her if it bothers her that other girls hit on me?


My question is: will this hurt my two girls at work Im already seeing?

A. Should I blow off and dismiss the whole thing

B. Or tell the guys/girls about more of my experiences, dates etc over the new years?


How does this effect the women in your life in general? This seems like preselection to me but this really hasnt happened to me before at work. Im normally very casual and dont bring this stuff into discussion as I just dont know what will happen. Thoughts? I had planned to set up some dates around Vday week with people from work and social circle but not sure what the perception now is?

 

[Mike32ct]

I wouldn't share any more stories at work. Women like a guy that keeps that stuff to himself. She might worry that you'll brag to the guys about boning her.

In the next cubicle from me is a guy who has dated (ie F-ed) about 30 percent of the females in the entire building. He asks about my weekends when I go out, but he never says a word about his interactions with any females. There is something to be learned there.

If other people tell stories about you, fine. But YOU shouldn't be the source that leaked the info. Ideally, if it gets leaked at all, it should come from a female that bragged to her gfs about you.

 

[gravityeyelids]

My question is: will this hurt my two girls at work Im already seeing?

A. Should I blow off and dismiss the whole thing

B. Or tell the guys/girls about more of my experiences, dates etc over the new years?

Being called a player is one of the biggest DHV's you can get. Both men and women celebrate the player figure. Girls will ALWAYS say that they don't like players, but listen to her actions, not her words.

If you choose to continue to talk about your exploits...do it subtly. Never bring it up or seem like you're bragging. Let them ask you about it and have the attitude of "well....i dont know if i should talk about it...but okay. I'll tell you guys a little." Don't be detailed, just hint at things and make them wonder. Cultivate an air of mystery around you. What people will imagine if always going to be more grandiose than fact.

Especially if girls are listening, never let them hear that you mistreat girls or purposely fvck with them or that you hate women (i have no idea of your personal ethics, but some things DJ's do can SEEM mean). Frame it that you simply have options, you are a confident guy that needs to screen many girls to find one who's up to your standards.

 

[DragonBlood]

Yeah I can see both sides of the argument. My thinking at the time that for me numbers is really a trivial and meaningless thing that I looked over this detail and just thought it was funny how easy it is to get a job when people complain so much during a recession.



I certainly dont want to come across as the guy who cant keep his mouth shut, bragging a whole load of BS, but at the same time the DHV was pretty damn obvious and I think Im going to have a much more fun and interesting time at this place if thats how people want to view me.


Sometimes its really hard to check yourself and keep the two worlds apart as you become better and grow at this stuff to the point its just second nature. Especially when just chilling with your friends. I guess the answer is be happy, subtle and deflect direct questions? The two answers are so conflicting so far I would appreciate some other perspectives as well.

I think this is a pretty advanced issue when 'DJs mindset collides with the outside world' kind of thing, nothing I recall or heard about discusses this as far as I know. I mean, it seems pretty inevitable that your friends will notice your 'lady slaying' skills after a while if they are still struggling along. The thing that gets me the most is that guys with the most amazement were the guys who already had girlfriends/wives and look to me like Im the expert?? They dont seem like introverted people? Im glad and all topics besides the weather and work are on the table but at the same time I feel I need to be very careful here.

 

[TheGambino]

Fvck haterz, they gonna hate anyway.

Improve yourself even more, get everything out of life, best way to put them on their place, enjoy your life !