Guy tried to start a fight with me outside of a football game, did I handle it right?

[Kev07]

Well you can't expect to give people the finger and have them ignoring it.

 

[-=Ice-T=-]

You are just seeing it from your point of view. From the other guy's point of view (and from most people's, if you ask me), you were a geek who gave him the finger in order to look cool, but backed up when threatened to a fight.
IMO, his reaction was much more mature than yours.

It's not the end of the world when you do something wrong, but don't try to make other people look like àssholes, when you were the one who started this all, ok?

First of all, he was the one that started talking **** first. Second of all, if he was by himself this would have been a totally different story.

 

[cyp6]

dude forget about it. the more you talk about it here.. the more likely u will get flamed..

 

[DanelMadr]

To win a fight like this it is similar to pick up HB10.....you need lot of courage and control )) When you stay calm, relaxed and funny you can make THEM nervous. I was able to handle 5 thugs (pickpockets) with this attitude.

It is probably different with college guys. I would recommend to make fun of them or ignore them, smile and walk away if you dont want to risk a fight.

This azzhole went after you......OK....you could ask him if he wants your telephone number or what )))
If your enemy is not too dangerous SLAP him...his friends will get the message and chicken out. If he is dangerous kick him under knee and knock him out and....run away.

Next time you ask someone for cigarette make sure they are no azzholes and talk with them for awhile in friendly tone.

After battle everyone is general

 

[Adone]

First of all, he was the one that started talking **** first. Second of all, if he was by himself this would have been a totally different story.

First of all, when you are older than 8 years old and someone talks shìt about you, you go up to him and ask him what's the problem, you do not give him the finger.

Second of all, History is not made through Ifs and Buts.

 

[DarkLight]

I think the issue here, that everyone has overlooked is...

Why do you think this happened to you?

I've been in my fair share of sh!t, but I can tell you... this would prob. never happen to me. Fvck how you handled it. What created it? Why did your life, lead you to a situation that turned into what it did?

Thats the question you need to be curious about.

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Besides that... its always cool to be cool. Should have been cool, when homey was trying to throw sh!t at you. (IE, Hey look, I didn't know the stoge meant that much to you, here you go, alls good.) Then bounce the spot in cool/class. If they tried to spark more sh!t... just wave them off, like your saying a "ya, goodnight." Or if your still within talking distance. Be cool again. "Yo, I was just lookin for a stoge, you all looked chillin/cool... thats all. Enjoy your night, peace."

Then walked away.
Would have been solid, cool, w. class. And the chicks would have respected your suave ability in dealing w. a potentially chaotic situation. Furthermore they would have all gotten on the ****wad in questions case, for being just that... a ****wad. If you ever saw them again, odds are... they'd be interested in you. And beyond that, the other guys, would have had a pound of cool respect, also.

So, learn to be greater, suaver... and that begins with, understanding what unconcious influences in our lives lead us into such situations, in the first place.

Peace'

 

[blinkwatt]

First of all, when you are older than 8 years old and someone talks shìt about you, you go up to him and ask him what's the problem, you do not give him the finger.

Most of the time when someone has enough balls to go up and say "Hey I heard you said (this and that),is this true?" they will shut up and back down from saying anything back about you in the future.

 

[dynamicallyidle]

I think the issue here, that everyone has overlooked is...

Why do you think this happened to you?

I've been in my fair share of sh!t, but I can tell you... this would prob. never happen to me. Fvck how you handled it. What created it? Why did your life, lead you to a situation that turned into what it did?

Thats the question you need to be curious about.

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Besides that... its always cool to be cool. Should have been cool, when homey was trying to throw sh!t at you. (IE, Hey look, I didn't know the stoge meant that much to you, here you go, alls good.) Then bounce the spot in cool/class. If they tried to spark more sh!t... just wave them off, like your saying a "ya, goodnight." Or if your still within talking distance. Be cool again. "Yo, I was just lookin for a stoge, you all looked chillin/cool... thats all. Enjoy your night, peace."

Then walked away.
Would have been solid, cool, w. class. And the chicks would have respected your suave ability in dealing w. a potentially chaotic situation. Furthermore they would have all gotten on the ****wad in questions case, for being just that... a ****wad. If you ever saw them again, odds are... they'd be interested in you. And beyond that, the other guys, would have had a pound of cool respect, also.

So, learn to be greater, suaver... and that begins with, understanding what unconcious influences in our lives lead us into such situations, in the first place.

Peace'

I agree with this.

 

[danielzxc]

It's your own fault dude. You tried to be cool with the finger but it didn't work and the guy put you in your place. Simple.

Look at it from his point of view, you giving him the finger was a challenge. He either shuts up and takes it and HE looks like the bytch, or he calls you, and makes YOU look like the bytch (or you beat him up, but if he fights and loses, that's acceptable.) If he's got a couple of buddies there, he hasn't got much choice but to come after you either.

And you, asking for a cigarette from a stranger. FVCK I used to hate people who would do that do me. Seriously used to pyss me off. It's not surprising at all that this guy said something to you. (You should have fought him back though, because if his friend was a ***** enough to give a cigarette to a stranger, he was prob too ***** to jump into a fight -- not everyone jumps in, even if htey have the numbers, you know.)

 

[Nasman]

First of all to that idiot that says he is a martial artist and could take on 3 guys come on dude. 3 guys have you ever been in an actual street fight with 3 guys trying to hurt You. I know blackbelts in brazilian jiu-jitsu that can't take on 3 guys.

You should of probably not gave him the finger. Just kept walking.

But when the guy pushed you, you should have knocked his teeth out. That is what I would have done. I never back down from anyone. But to tell you the truth you did the right thing. I have been in many streetfights, and sometimes you regret it afterwards. A streetfight is about surviving, and that is what you did/

 

[danielzxc]

First of all to that idiot that says he is a martial artist and could take on 3 guys come on dude. 3 guys have you ever been in an actual street fight with 3 guys trying to hurt You. I know blackbelts in brazilian jiu-jitsu that can't take on 3 guys.

If those three guys can FIGHT, yes, you're in trouble, even if you're a blackbelt (and bjj isn't much good for anything but one on one).

But come on man, most people cant' throw a punch to save themselves. I would have sized these guys up and if I felt like I could take out the biggest, fvck it, I'd risk it. (Yeah, yeah, e-tough guy etc...)

I HAVE had three guys on me. They weren't that bad, and I didn't win, but they didn't do much damage either, and they had PLENTY of time before people came and broke it up. (Had about six guys (that I could see) on me once too. Now those bastards DID do some damage..)

 

[Macca]

There loads of vids on YouTube of 1 guy kicking the **** out of a group of guys! Seem to remember one being a well known skateboarder that went billistic at some University chumps...he kicked their asses!!!

Another one the 3 guys jumping an amateur boxer and his girfriend - fvck me that boxer pummled the **** out of them...he was too fast.

Average chumps jumping an aggressive fighter don't stand a chance...if the chumps have a plan and work as a team i'e. I'll go for the legs, you go for the arms then yeah they'll get the guy no probs!

 

[-=Ice-T=-]

I think the issue here, that everyone has overlooked is...

Why do you think this happened to you?

I've been in my fair share of sh!t, but I can tell you... this would prob. never happen to me. Fvck how you handled it. What created it? Why did your life, lead you to a situation that turned into what it did?

Thats the question you need to be curious about.

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Besides that... its always cool to be cool. Should have been cool, when homey was trying to throw sh!t at you. (IE, Hey look, I didn't know the stoge meant that much to you, here you go, alls good.) Then bounce the spot in cool/class. If they tried to spark more sh!t... just wave them off, like your saying a "ya, goodnight." Or if your still within talking distance. Be cool again. "Yo, I was just lookin for a stoge, you all looked chillin/cool... thats all. Enjoy your night, peace."

Then walked away.
Would have been solid, cool, w. class. And the chicks would have respected your suave ability in dealing w. a potentially chaotic situation. Furthermore they would have all gotten on the ****wad in questions case, for being just that... a ****wad. If you ever saw them again, odds are... they'd be interested in you. And beyond that, the other guys, would have had a pound of cool respect, also.

So, learn to be greater, suaver... and that begins with, understanding what unconcious influences in our lives lead us into such situations, in the first place.

Peace'

Thank you, I needed that.

Puts everything into perspective for me...

 

[DarkLight]

^^^ My pleasure.
... thats what we're here for.

 

[Rata Blanca]

And that's why you shouldn't smoke

 

[thirtyplus]

How about stop smoking?

 

[Desdinova]

Moved to AE

 

[Socialreject]

No i wouldn't have handled it that way.

He didn't back off, he spit you in the face and you appologised for it... basically.

In a situation like this, it's not about your pride or your ego, it's about what's right and standing up for yourself! The guy started talking sh1t about you WHILE you were overhearing it. If that isn't disrespectfull i don't know what is.

Don't walk away, and then flop a finger in some sorry attempt to save face, it wont work! You were already walking away, he already got away with disrespecting you.

Stand your ground, look him dead in the eye. After he pushed you, you should have just turned around, faced him, don't say anything, just stay cool, smoke your sigaret, look him in the eye and just call his bluff. I personally like the line from scent of a woman for those kind of situations... "no time to grow a d1ck son..."

Look, the bottom line is... if you are confident, you already won the fight before it even started. There are only VERY few guys who will actually take it to a real fight with a guy who isn't backing down (save some extreme situation like maybe in combat or prison), and there is a good reason for that. NO ONE is looking to get their asses kicked, no one. But a lot of guys have a lot of ego and they will start sh1t with anyone just to save face... that still don't mean they are prepared to take a beating to save face though!

Most guys when they actually start a fight, they wanna know they can win. Either they will be with some friends, or they will check to see if you show any sign of weakness... like being scared (like you were). And once they spot that, no chance in hell they are backing off! But if the guy is cool and collected, that probably means he's been around the block a couple times and there is a pretty good chance that the fight may turn ugly.. if it comes to that. Trust me, most guys will back off, or try to 'compromise' at that point.

So next time, don't back off, call the guy on his sh1t and if he does pick a fight... hey, what's the WORST thing that can happen? Couple brooses? You'll get over it, it'll heal. The real scars are the ones in your mind when you don't stand up for yourself.

 

[Monster]

Couple brooses? You'll get over it, it'll heal. The real scars are the ones in your mind when you don't stand up for yourself.

Hey that sounds like the quote from The Replacements.