Guy talking about exsclusivity

[tryin 2 play]

OK, so I have been seeing this girl for just over 2 months. It has been going great, get along awesome, always have fun etc. We have been having sex for about 1 month. The topic of "what we are", or "what we are doing with eachother" keeps coming up. When this thign first started, it seemed like it was just going to be sex. However, it has kind of evolved into something more. When it came up a month ago, I didn't really wanta gf and she said she didnt want a bf right then. However, we agreed we wouldnt see or hook up with anyone else.

So basically we act like were together, but were not officially. Last night it came up again, and she said "I like you alot, as more than a friend, you make me happy." Now obviously se likes me as more then a friend, so I dont know how to take this. We were defintely beating around the bush about being bfgf, and she basically said that she would never be the one to ask, because she feels its the guys job. She also doesn't wanan put herself on the line.

Now this girl defintely likes me, I'm just not sure exactly what she wants, if she wants me to be her man. I'm still on the fence, but we do get a long great and are basically together anyway. So, do you think I should tell her we should be together? It seems that she hinted at it a little, but that I like you as more than afriend comment confused me a little. She also said she DOES NOT want the relationship to be just sex. Its kind of hard to let this progress naturally if she wont ever tell me REALLY what she wants.

What should I do???

thanks and sorry for the long ass post.

 

[Sir Juanalot]

What do you want?

 

[omgwtfm8]

When there's talks about exclusivitity, You're basically boyfriend and girlfriend. I'd give it a title to avoid any emotional problems between you two and your relationship.

When she says she doesn't want a boyfriend, that means when someone asks her if she's single, she still wants to be able to say, "Yes, I'm single"

If she likes you enough, she will want to say, "Sorry, I'm taken".

 

[Kings_royalty]

What do you want?

Right, tell her 'exactly' what you want, regardless of what it is. If you don't want to be exclusive, say it. If you do, then great, come out and tell her.

If you are on the fence because you don't know what you want, that's o.k., but I hope you aren't on the fence about 'telling' her because you fear her reaction.

 

[Sir Juanalot]

Thats the reason i asked the question, you seem to have guessed what she wants, but dont really say what you want at all. After thats whats important here.

 

[tryin 2 play]

Yea I may have been hesitant to tell her exactly wha I want infear of her reaction. I'm leaning towards a relationship with her, but still not 100% there yet. It was over a month ago that she said "I dont want a boyfriend right now". It seems that her feelings have changed though, becuse she doesn't want the relationship to stay as it is now. It seems that she does want a bf/gf title, but the words have not yet been said.