Guy putting on a fake persona to try and have sex with my sister.

[SLSAMG]

You guys know how women think, and can possibly help me here.

I personally think he's putting up this front so he can try to have sex with my sister. Shes a virgin at 20 which is fairly rare these days. She wants to wait until shes "in love" to have sex with anybody. And I think this guy is playing his cards right. I know hes not really like what I'm about to explain below, he's putting up a front and my sister cant see through it because she barely knew him prior to them dating so she didn't actually get a chance to see what he is really like. He took advantage of this fact and quickly started acting the exact way my sister wants a guy to act. How does he know the way my sister wants a guy to act? He's been friends with my other sister, and it came out naturally. They met through my other sister as well. Hes a fake, and I don't like my sister getting taken advantage of. I'm simply trying to protect her from making any stupid decisions. I'm protective but I'm not the over the top, and abusive, "I'll kill you if you touch my sister" type of brother.

So anyway, onto their relationship. My sister is the type of girl who loves cutesy, cheesy, lovey dovey stuff. Love notes, flowers, cards, surprises with flowers at work, romantic stuff basically. She's young and doesn't know any better. She thinks all guys are pigs and this guy comes along like price charming and changes her views completely. He talks about how lucky he is to have her in his life, how lucky he is to be dating her, how shes the most amazing girl in the world. This guy is providing this fantasy lifestyle and my sister is absolutely infatuated with him. She honestly wants her love life to be a ****ing Disney movie, or The Notebook. Its just unrealistic.

I know him, he's a horny video game collector. He has every video game under the sun, spends all day in his room watching Spongebob and playing Pokemon/Call of Duty. I've seen his tumblr blog, its FILLED with porn and pictures of naked girls just outright masturbating, with some video game pictures and other random stuff mixed in. Its not even his private blog that only he can see, its his public page that all his friends can view and he links this page through his Facebook/Twitter, everybody can see it. He's just putting up a fake persona is order to win my sister over and have sex with her. I know men, I've dealt with this ****, men do not do this type of stuff. Flowers and love notes are cool in the beginning a few times during that "getting to know each other" stage but this guy just piles it on and my sister is just sitting there and accepting it like her life is a ****ing romantic movie. He's "putting the ***** on the pedestal"

They're planning their "future" together and whatever. Their relationship is cheesy and fake and its cringe worthy the way they act together. They call each other up and talk about how perfect they both are. "You're perfect babe", "No, you'reeeeee perfect babe!"

Anyway, what do I do here? This guy is obviously just trying to **** my sister by playing the love story/movie card and I don't want her to be tricked into thinking this guy is perfect and amazing when in reality hes just some basement dwelling 20 year old. I know I should just leave my sister alone and let her do her thing but I just cant. She's young and stupid, shes blinded by this "love" and this ****ing guy is just pretending to act like prince charming because he knows that's what my sister likes. I would feel guilty not doing anything about it. I've spoken to her, and simply told her to be careful and while it might not seem like all he wants is *****, he's definitely on his way there.
Thoughts?

 

[The Gambler]

I've seen his tumblr blog, its FILLED with porn and pictures of naked girls just outright masturbating, with some video game pictures and other random stuff mixed in. Its not even his private blog that only he can see, its his public page that all his friends can view and he links this page through his Facebook/Twitter, everybody can see it.

Everybody but your sister, apparently.

 

[SLSAMG]

Everybody but your sister, apparently.

By everybody I mean my friends who have noticed exactly what I've noticed. Like I said, shes blinded by "love" or whatever you'd call their little fairy ass relationship.

Yes im kinda mad too

 

[Aristippus]

"I've seen his tumblr blog, its FILLED with porn and pictures of naked girls just outright masturbating, with some video game pictures and other random stuff mixed in. Its not even his private blog that only he can see, its his public page that all his friends can view and he links this page through his Facebook/Twitter, everybody can see it."


Normally I wouldn't try to sabotage a guy, but in this case he's pretending to be something he's not and is taking advantage of your sister's naivety. Simply show her his Facebook page and the link to his Tumblr blog. And then click the link so she can see for herself. Maybe that will lift the wool from her eyes.

When you do it just tell her that you hesitated to even do this but that you feel you have to let her know something about the guy she's dating. That he's pretending to be something he's not and that you're sorry to have to show her this. Tell her you contemplated not even showing it to her but that you felt you had no choice. Don't take an "I told you so" attitude.".

That's about the best you can do as her brother. If she still ignores it after you've shown her, then she has no one to blame but herself if she chooses to be stupid. There's nothing wrong with enjoying pictures of naked women but there's something wrong with pretending to be something you're not just to trick a girl into being with you. If the porn sends the message that he's pretending, then she can make a better-informed decision.

 

[SLSAMG]

Aristippus, sorry, I forgot to mention. She's seen the blog, and asked a mutual friend for advice, claiming she was "scared" at the thought of him being a total creep yet hiding it with his prince charming persona. She got over it real quick and apparently isnt bothered by it. She hasnt brought it up since and doesnt seem to care anymore

 

[Aristippus]

Well, there's nothing you can do. She will have to do her own thing. She might have to learn lessons the hard way like the rest of us.

 

[Asterisk]

tell her to ask all the girls on his friends list about him, if he even has any.
girls got their own social network, bro, i bet she'll use it
judging from his life, he sounds really AFC tho, so he might screw up....

 

[oxford comma]

tell her never to see him again. girls usually respond fairly to stern warnings.

 

[azrael]

tell her never to see him again. girls usually respond fairly to stern warnings.

if by fairly you mean she will do the exact opposite of what OP told her, you are absolutely right.

 

[zekko]

I'm afraid you're mistaken. SoSuave clearly teaches that you can't attract a woman by being romantic, sending notes and flowers, telling her how much you appreciate her, and "putting the pvssy on a pedestal". So I guess you're mistaken about your sister being attracted to him.

As for the blog, she probably figures boys will be boys.

 

[oxford comma]

if by fairly you mean she will do the exact opposite of what OP told her, you are absolutely right.

that's the joke

 

[Renegade357]

Tell him "Look dude, back off. If anyone is going to have sex with my sister it's going to be me!!" That will make him go away.

 

[Stagger Lee]

Probably reverse psychology would work best. By emphasizing he is such a nice guy and he finally found a girl for him (your sister), she might begin to go the opposite way.

Other than that, if you know any guys that are really good guys, you could try to introduce them to your sister. But that probably won't work. She's probably already rejecting plenty of better suitors.

It would be funny to set up a sting with a fake girl's profile on facebook and get him cybering and sexting it, and use it as evidence against him.

 

[sylvester the cat]

You guys know how women think, and can possibly help me here.


He talks about how lucky he is to have her in his life, how lucky he is to be dating her, how shes the most amazing girl in the world. This guy is providing this fantasy lifestyle and my sister is absolutely infatuated with him. She honestly wants her love life to be a ****ing Disney movie, or The Notebook. Its just unrealistic.

and he won her heart with this?????

so much for pua theory...lol

my thoughts? mind your business and let her lead her life the way she sees fit.

 

[SLSAMG]

and he won her heart with this?????

so much for pua theory...lol

my thoughts? mind your business and let her lead her life the way she sees fit.

I've been wondering this for the longest time haha. How did he manage to find a girl while being this sappy "prince charming" kind of guy. I guess things like this, the exact things we are taught not to do, do work on some girls

 

[sylvester the cat]

I've been wondering this for the longest time haha. How did he manage to find a girl while being this sappy "prince charming" kind of guy. I guess things like this, the exact things we are taught not to do, do work on some girls

girls have a remarkable intuition for sniffing out bull****.

is it possible that he is genuine?

the porn stuff (which a lot of guys do) could just be a front to mask his sensitive side. might not be but i'm just putting it out there.

 

[sighsigh]

Are you kidding? Leave your sister and this guy alone. Your sister's love life is none of your business. There's nothing you can do about it anyways.

 

[SLSAMG]

girls have a remarkable intuition for sniffing out bull****.

is it possible that he is genuine?

the porn stuff (which a lot of guys do) could just be a front to mask his sensitive side. might not be but i'm just putting it out there.

Its definitely possible. I want to believe he's really like this but I just have a hard time doing so. Maybe she hasnt caught on to him because this is literally the first guy to treat her the way shes being treated. Shes being opened up to this new world of romance shes never experienced before

 

[TonyBaloney]

"I've seen his tumblr blog, its FILLED with porn and pictures of naked girls just outright masturbating, with some video game pictures and other random stuff mixed in. Its not even his private blog that only he can see, its his public page that all his friends can view and he links this page through his Facebook/Twitter, everybody can see it."


Normally I wouldn't try to sabotage a guy, but in this case he's pretending to be something he's not and is taking advantage of your sister's naivety. Simply show her his Facebook page and the link to his Tumblr blog. And then click the link so she can see for herself. Maybe that will lift the wool from her eyes.

When you do it just tell her that you hesitated to even do this but that you feel you have to let her know something about the guy she's dating. That he's pretending to be something he's not and that you're sorry to have to show her this. Tell her you contemplated not even showing it to her but that you felt you had no choice. Don't take an "I told you so" attitude.".

That's about the best you can do as her brother. If she still ignores it after you've shown her, then she has no one to blame but herself if she chooses to be stupid. There's nothing wrong with enjoying pictures of naked women but there's something wrong with pretending to be something you're not just to trick a girl into being with you. If the porn sends the message that he's pretending, then she can make a better-informed decision.

OP, if you wanna listen to any poster, listen to Aristippus; a very wise man, and I would agree with all that hes saying. Your sister could be mentally scared by a jerk like this, do everything (sublimely) in your power to prevent it........else......... you could be faced with a situation like i got...... My youngest sister got with a jerk, and got quickly reeled into his world and downright owned. She has always been a loving, good woman, and this jerk has played the cruellest tricks on her, all kinds of mental subterfuge. To boot, hes a male BPD..... Once they get their hooks in, they wont let go. After 12 years they have 2 kids and hes even worse than before......once upon a time i liked this guy and went to school with him BEWARE!!!!!!!

 

[SLSAMG]

OP, if you wanna listen to any poster, listen to Aristippus; a very wise man, and I would agree with all that hes saying. Your sister could be mentally scared by a jerk like this, do everything (sublimely) in your power to prevent it........else......... you could be faced with a situation like i got...... My youngest sister got with a jerk, and got quickly reeled into his world and downright owned. She has always been a loving, good woman, and this jerk has played the cruellest tricks on her, all kinds of mental subterfuge. To boot, hes a male BPD..... Once they get their hooks in, they wont let go. After 12 years they have 2 kids and hes even worse than before......once upon a time i liked this guy and went to school with him BEWARE!!!!!!!

Thanks, she has already seen the blog on her own and doesnt care about it anymore. Not much I can do now I guess without being a complete @sshole