Guy in university, need some life advice here.

[Suaveeh]

Hello! I'm 19 and I'm in university. In high school I used to be the shy guy. I'm in sales part-time in university and I've changed quite a bit since my teens. But I still get confused a lot.

Last year I had a massive crush on this one girl who wasn't interested. We were really close friends. This year I recognized my mistake and I'm trying to be interested in a lot of girls at the same time, so I don't have any really strong feelings for 1 particular girl. I've been trying to go downtown with different groups of friends, too.

Here's my main issue right now:
There's one girl I've been interested in for a while, who's now the best friend of the girl I liked last year. She likes playing mind games though (it looks like that to me), and today I was telling her funny stories about the weekend. I mentioned that the girl I met looked like someone I knew, and she thought I meant her. So we had this conversation that made me blush like crazy (I hate getting put on the spot) where she was trying to see how much I liked her. There's a long story of drama with us I guess, but I'm still sort of interested in her I think. But I'm confused, and I bet she's wondering how much I like her. I'm just trying not to fall into the trap of apologizing for things and acting like a doormat, I always do that eventually. And I'm getting really bad mixed signals from her. :/


Another point, related:
I met a girl downtown that I thought was pretty cute. There was her and her best friend. I was talking to them with a buddy of mine. They wanted to go dancing, we went and split from our regular group. We were with them from about 10:30-3:30am? My girl seemed shy but she liked me when I was dancing, and eventually we ended up making out for a bit and then went back to dancing. I did some awkward things but she was pretty awkward too. It was a fun night. When I asked for her number, she took my phone and sent herself a friend request on Facebook. But she hasn't accepted yet? Lol, why would she give me her full name and FR on facebook then? I said some turn-off things I guess to her (like bringing up other girl's names, I know I'm stupid) but she was still sorta interested? My friend's girl accepted his FR when she did the same thing, and they weren't doing much (he's shy).

EDIT: Oh, and there's a lot more. It's annoying that I'm talking to easily over 10 girls, but not actually talking to them.

 

[El Suave]

Welcome to the forum.

Teach yourself to not be so outcome dependent when talking to them. Talk to them the same way you would with another person. Act normal, not everything you say has to be funny (don't believe the BS they all say that they want a funny guy, they have no idea what they want).

Stop apologizing, women hate that. It makes you look weak. If you hit her with the door by accident, you say sorry. If you say something and she says "I'm offended" you say "awww" or "I'm sure what I said will keep you up at night" smiling.

Good job on working on improving with women and actually talking, dancing, and making out with them. You will only get better from now on.

 

[Suaveeh]

Welcome to the forum.

Teach yourself to not be so outcome dependent when talking to them. Talk to them the same way you would with another person. Act normal, not everything you say has to be funny (don't believe the BS they all say that they want a funny guy, they have no idea what they want).

Okay, I've been getting better with that but it's always good to have something extra to improve on.

Stop apologizing, women hate that. It makes you look weak. If you hit her with the door by accident, you say sorry. If you say something and she says "I'm offended" you say "awww" or "I'm sure what I said will keep you up at night" smiling.

This is my big problem. Does it ruin something completely if you apologize? Because I'm trying to stop doing that, but my dad is sort of a pushover and likes to make me feel bad if he hears about anything.

Some of my friends are like that, too.

I had went with this girl downtown, she messed around with this guy in front of me while smiling at me. And I basically cut her off after, she apologized twice to me over 2 weeks and I was pretty mean and made her feel horrible about it. Then I thought it was enough time to make her think about it, so I sort of apologized and sent her a nice little apology text after.

She was begging me to forgive her, it was getting weird. But maybe I should've kept it up.

Good job on working on improving with women and actually talking, dancing, and making out with them. You will only get better from now on.

I can talk no problem normally. I'm a bad dancer but I try haha. This girl told me before that I overanalyze a lot, and "there's probably some girls you've turned off because of it". I have to work on that.