I thought this was interesting. It immediately made me think how guys obsess over this whole alpha/beta who is dominant thing that you read about so much online nowadays.
First off, i am not a door holding type of person unless it's for an eldery person or in a required circumstance.
Today as i was entering my building here in Panama through the glass swing door that security has to press a button to open, this took place.
As they pressed the button to open the door i began to pull it open before i saw this young American couple coming through at the same time. With the timing of it, i felt obligated to let the girl walk through first otherwise i would have had to kind of cut in front of them so to speak because their momentumn was already headed through which swing open on my side towards me.
The girl who was actually somewhat attractive thanked me but her boyfriend held back with a very pissed off look in his eyes and angrily kind of yelled come on! While rudely waving me toward him defiantly not walking through himself.
During all of this, i was thinking about something completely different than the situation at hand that had happened to me earlier today so his angry reaction took me completely off guard. I awkwardly walked through as not wanting to get into some pissing contest of no you come thorough as others were behind me.
But it got me thinking that he was very threatened by the fact that i had held the door open for his gf and his reaction was a desperate attempt to show dominance but for me i just wanted to get back up to my room in a hurry in the least inconvenienced way possible.
Anyways, it made him look incredibly weak and insecure in my eyes. A man with actual frame and self control would have simply walked through or even politely thanked me. The first thing i thought of was PUA and male masculinity forums. This guy seemed terrified of not looking "alpha" in front of his girl.
So don't get obsessed with this whole alpha / dominant crap. Someone who is really this way shouldn't have to try and prove it at every turn and corner. I could completely imagine a few posters on here pulling this type of stunt haha.
First off, i am not a door holding type of person unless it's for an eldery person or in a required circumstance.
Today as i was entering my building here in Panama through the glass swing door that security has to press a button to open, this took place.
As they pressed the button to open the door i began to pull it open before i saw this young American couple coming through at the same time. With the timing of it, i felt obligated to let the girl walk through first otherwise i would have had to kind of cut in front of them so to speak because their momentumn was already headed through which swing open on my side towards me.
The girl who was actually somewhat attractive thanked me but her boyfriend held back with a very pissed off look in his eyes and angrily kind of yelled come on! While rudely waving me toward him defiantly not walking through himself.
During all of this, i was thinking about something completely different than the situation at hand that had happened to me earlier today so his angry reaction took me completely off guard. I awkwardly walked through as not wanting to get into some pissing contest of no you come thorough as others were behind me.
But it got me thinking that he was very threatened by the fact that i had held the door open for his gf and his reaction was a desperate attempt to show dominance but for me i just wanted to get back up to my room in a hurry in the least inconvenienced way possible.
Anyways, it made him look incredibly weak and insecure in my eyes. A man with actual frame and self control would have simply walked through or even politely thanked me. The first thing i thought of was PUA and male masculinity forums. This guy seemed terrified of not looking "alpha" in front of his girl.
So don't get obsessed with this whole alpha / dominant crap. Someone who is really this way shouldn't have to try and prove it at every turn and corner. I could completely imagine a few posters on here pulling this type of stunt haha.
