"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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gut feeling has gone awol

1utfan1

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Hello mature forum.

I've been a lurker and poster here for a few years now. I find myself in an odd situation. I won't go into detail on this post. Basically, i've date this girl for about 2 years. broke up twice. When we broke up recently my gut told me it was the right thing. fast forward 2 months. She calls me...wants me back blah blah blah. now i've read the bible, and have no one-itis. My question is this. she calls after 2 months wanting me back. I tell her that at this point all i want is friends (and she needs a real friend..but that is beside the point) and i don't see us together as a couple. we end up talking for 2 hours and it's probably the best convo we had in a long time. My issue is my gut is silent at this point. before i was sure that it was right to not be with her. but my gut is literally silent. before i get flamed, has anyone else ever found themselves in this situation? Thanks mature dj's.
Jim
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Ricky

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That means you are ready to accept what happens with her, no matter what it is. Most likely you don't want back with her ever.

One of my exes (not the one I still want back of course), still calls me.

She wants me back, we dated for 3 years. I do still love her but I don't think it will work out.

It's actually nice though to still be friends with someone you have alot of history with.
 

Evangenlion

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One, your gut doesn't have to tell u anything now. ride with it. be friends, and when u gut tells u something some time soon, take its advice and do it.
 

1utfan1

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Thanks guys, that helps. Yes, ride with it being friends is great advice. Thanks.
 
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