"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Guitar Players: What song(s) are you currently learning?

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I thought it would be cool to talk about what we're working on these days.

Right now I'm learning Samba Pa Ti, which I've always known how to play sloppily but now I'm learning it note for note and nuance for nuance.

Also working on a live looping performance of Clapton's "Let it Grow". It has great potential with a looper in the arsenal.

I guess I'm in '70s mode right now. I've developed quite a following by throwing in old songs that people haven't listened to in decades. I'm becoming that guy about whom they say, "You've got to see this guy. You never know what he's going to play next." People come to gigs just for the element of surprise.

What about you guys?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I've been looking for new songs to learn. Well, more like deciding which to learn next. I've been focusing on songs in Spanish mostly as I become more fluent in the language. Also, been practicing playing and singing at the same time even though I sing horribly :p
 
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When it comes to voice, it's all about style, my man. You can have a classically "bad" voice but if you find your style that is congruent with your personality you're golden.

Of course chicks love a guy who has the balls to sing and play guitar, even if he isn't perfect. I always had terrible misgivings about my own singing voice because I have a natural "Clint Eastwood-y" speaking voice which doesn't make for strong singing. I've found my singing voice though and people like it so I don't worry about it anymore.
 

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I'm a much better singer than guitar player which has paid me handsomely with some lovely women :D

The songs I usually play on guitar are the ones I've written, but occasionally I'll try and learn something else. I've been practising this one on and off:


My biggest handicap with playing guitar is all my fingers are double jointed. They bend in the goofiest ways that render it quite difficult to play some chords.
 

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Some romantic imagery there. ;)

You remind me of when I was around 12 years old, just starting guitar and trying to play a D chord. One of the joints in a finger kept on popping back and forth for years. Now it won't even go in both directions anymore. I'm always amazed at how malleable and adaptable the human body is. There are certain stretches that I find difficult but I always get there in the end. Must be tough to be double-jointed on guitar.

What's one or two of your more difficult chords, just out of curiosity?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Some romantic imagery there. ;)

You remind me of when I was around 12 years old, just starting guitar and trying to play a D chord. One of the joints in a finger kept on popping back and forth for years. Now it won't even go in both directions anymore. I'm always amazed at how malleable and adaptable the human body is. There are certain stretches that I find difficult but I always get there in the end. Must be tough to be double-jointed on guitar.

What's one or two of your more difficult chords, just out of curiosity?
Basically anything involving my pinky. Unless I'm laying it across 2 or 3 of the bottom strings, it's totally Fvcking useless as it buckles at a 45 degree angle. The joints are practically pivots. The other fingers aren't as bad since they're stronger.
 

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Can you splint it in some way in order to limit its movement in one direction? I'm wondering if that would aid in training your finger.
 
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