"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Guitar for a beginner?
- Thread starter Zero Hero
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
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it's called guitar hero. who needs the real thing when you can do it the virtual way?
Mandiblard
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People who actually want to play music and not masturbate along with pre-determined button combos.sparky0000 said:
There's plenty of cheap guitars out there, and honestly when you are a beginner the exact type of guitar doesn't really matter, just go for anything cheap and reliable.
Anything. You'll regret it no matter what. :crackup:Zero Hero said:
It's the natural progression. As you learn, you'll find flaws in it. And if you get really interested you'll research more and ifnd another one which fits you. That will be your second guitar.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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opinions?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I know I'm not gonna start playing some Satriani right off the bat, but what are some good easy songs?
There are plenty of good books out there that deal with the basics but the quickest way to learn is opposite someone. Try to find someone you know who plays and get them to teach you chords. Then it's just a case of practice, practice, practice.TheNewGuy said:
Huh. Fancy that. I'm playing mine right now!! Yeah you can't go wrong with Washburn's. Mine was £200 down to £170 in sale (that's like $320) but it sounds great. Good vibrant sound. I'm not surprised your son's still playing it. Good choice!Wyldfire said:
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.