Great topic. I play guitar ( non-professional, hobby only) and do it for my own pleasure. Like they say, "You can't dance mad," and so you can't play mad either. Great daily stress reliver to turn up the amp and rock out or do an acoustic jam. Actually I'm gearing up to jam with a couple bands and explore the fun side of that avenue.
Back on topic, it, just like any other single method or "routine" will not get you laid, it is just a layer of your personality along with any other skill you have competence in.....great job, great friends/family, etc. You don't sarge a chick ( in a room with friends or on the "street,") run an opener and **** your game by TRYING to play her a song. If she notices the instrument in the room or if a wing mentions you play, ever so slightly acknowledge it and move on like it's no big deal. She ( in my experience,) will want you to play her a song ( for her to gain control, supplicate you, etc.) and any AFC would go "okay, do you know this "I Worship You" ballad, I'll play it for you. Use it to your advantage, where later on you end up playing, or she comes to your place and again requests you to play, but don't play to her. Learn an easy popular song currently on the radio ( boy band songs are great,) that she would know ( learned during her qualifing session,) and have her sing it to you. Unless she is drunk or an accomplished singer ( or anything along those lines,) she won't want to sing it, so you take guitar away and freeze her/move on. She then still wants you to jump through her hoop which is not going to happen, but only if she jumps through yours first/with you. To me, a guy who can't sing, vocal singing is harder to do than plucking some strings. She is lower value, you are higher value......etc.
Example, my bud was having a party at his place ( where I also currently reside,) and I've got my guitars setup in the "finished" basement, where we were watching movies, playing pool etc. A couple people ( guys, married chyks) and I blew it off just cause the situation wasn't right, it would have felt forced. So later that night, the party thinned out, only my buddy and his "girl" were there. They were upstairs foolin' around, whatever so I went downstairs and started playing some songs real low key as to not draw attention, I really was just playing to relax and go to sleep. So a couple minutes later, they come down and my bud is talking me up like I'm SRV ( I'm nowhere near that,) and she wants me to play. So I say, what do you know ( I know...suplication, working on it.) She says the usual.."I don't know," so I said " Well, I'm gonna play what I like and if you're cool enough, you might know them, ( I should start with something like that.) So I played ( no singing,) some non-sexual rock stuff STP, Black Crowes, etc. My buddy cuts in with "System, you've gotta play that Kiss song, she loves Kiss. You know, that one you were playing the other night, but like the acoustic version." Blah, blah, she says, "play me that song." I said," I can play it, but you have to sing it," to which she playfully declined. So I played something else I know and moved on. she interrupted, begging me to play that song.....and okay, she will sing it. So I played, she sang ( awful,) everybody laughed, enjoyed the moment. Since it's my bud's girl, it was just another experiment, I would have gone for some touching/kiss etc if she were my target and the situation was right. The Kiss song was " LICK IT UP." Would of been great for some push-pull where I could say..."whoah, you're coming on strong with that song, we need to slow down and get some space, etc."
I didn't force the situation, it just developed and I was experimenting with the correct control for the set. Did not do everything right, but learned alot. Great night.
I'm no DJpro, recovering AFC, please inform me if i'm mistaken.
System
Back on topic, it, just like any other single method or "routine" will not get you laid, it is just a layer of your personality along with any other skill you have competence in.....great job, great friends/family, etc. You don't sarge a chick ( in a room with friends or on the "street,") run an opener and **** your game by TRYING to play her a song. If she notices the instrument in the room or if a wing mentions you play, ever so slightly acknowledge it and move on like it's no big deal. She ( in my experience,) will want you to play her a song ( for her to gain control, supplicate you, etc.) and any AFC would go "okay, do you know this "I Worship You" ballad, I'll play it for you. Use it to your advantage, where later on you end up playing, or she comes to your place and again requests you to play, but don't play to her. Learn an easy popular song currently on the radio ( boy band songs are great,) that she would know ( learned during her qualifing session,) and have her sing it to you. Unless she is drunk or an accomplished singer ( or anything along those lines,) she won't want to sing it, so you take guitar away and freeze her/move on. She then still wants you to jump through her hoop which is not going to happen, but only if she jumps through yours first/with you. To me, a guy who can't sing, vocal singing is harder to do than plucking some strings. She is lower value, you are higher value......etc.
Example, my bud was having a party at his place ( where I also currently reside,) and I've got my guitars setup in the "finished" basement, where we were watching movies, playing pool etc. A couple people ( guys, married chyks) and I blew it off just cause the situation wasn't right, it would have felt forced. So later that night, the party thinned out, only my buddy and his "girl" were there. They were upstairs foolin' around, whatever so I went downstairs and started playing some songs real low key as to not draw attention, I really was just playing to relax and go to sleep. So a couple minutes later, they come down and my bud is talking me up like I'm SRV ( I'm nowhere near that,) and she wants me to play. So I say, what do you know ( I know...suplication, working on it.) She says the usual.."I don't know," so I said " Well, I'm gonna play what I like and if you're cool enough, you might know them, ( I should start with something like that.) So I played ( no singing,) some non-sexual rock stuff STP, Black Crowes, etc. My buddy cuts in with "System, you've gotta play that Kiss song, she loves Kiss. You know, that one you were playing the other night, but like the acoustic version." Blah, blah, she says, "play me that song." I said," I can play it, but you have to sing it," to which she playfully declined. So I played something else I know and moved on. she interrupted, begging me to play that song.....and okay, she will sing it. So I played, she sang ( awful,) everybody laughed, enjoyed the moment. Since it's my bud's girl, it was just another experiment, I would have gone for some touching/kiss etc if she were my target and the situation was right. The Kiss song was " LICK IT UP." Would of been great for some push-pull where I could say..."whoah, you're coming on strong with that song, we need to slow down and get some space, etc."
I didn't force the situation, it just developed and I was experimenting with the correct control for the set. Did not do everything right, but learned alot. Great night.
I'm no DJpro, recovering AFC, please inform me if i'm mistaken.
System
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