"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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This is more for me to write things out, and put things into prospective.

I know what i have to do. I have to break up with her. She shows no promise of any kind of LTR (even though we are in on ~1.5 years). She is fvcked up in the head, with more problems then i can count. She's been in and out of rehab, and is in one right now. And even though we get along good, i don't love her, and she is costing me money. So why do i keep thinking twice about dumping her?

GUILT!!!!
SAVE-A-HOE MENTALITY maybe!!!!
COMFORATABLE IN THAT RELATIONSHIP, FEAR OF BEING ALONE AGAIN?????

I've been trying to help her. Paying her bills, drving her places.... supporting her in any way i can..... Why?

Well she was my first relationship. She showed me what's it like to be with a girl who isn't paid to lay there and count seconds while you get your nut off..... Desperation maybe? Not much outhere for a 25yo guy who lives with his parents and probably will till hi's 40 (or maybe that's my state of mind right now)

...but just as much important....I feel like i'm giving up on somebody. I feel like i'm the reason why she's getting clean, and if i leave, i'll send her back to hell.... That's a lot to take.

I'm amazed at some guys who dump the damaged wemen with no second thought. Doesn't that F... her up even further???? No gult about it???


I need a smack in the head (....shows you what you get when your raised buy single mother.)
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Warrior74

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spider_007 said:
This is more for me to write things out, and put things into prospective.

I know what i have to do. I have to break up with her. She shows no promise of any kind of LTR (even though we are in on ~1.5 years). She is fvcked up in the head, with more problems then i can count. She's been in and out of rehab, and is in one right now. And even though we get along good, i don't love her, and she is costing me money. So why do i keep thinking twice about dumping her?

GUILT!!!!
SAVE-A-HOE MENTALITY maybe!!!!

I've been trying to help her. Paying her bills, drving her places.... supporting her in any way i can..... Why?

Well she was my first relationship. She showed me what's it like to be with a girl who isn't paid to lay there and count seconds while you get your nut off..... Desperation maybe? Not much outhere for a 25yo guy who lives with his parents and probably will till hi's 40 (or maybe that's my state of mind right now)

...but just as much important....I feel like i'm giving up on somebody. I feel like i'm the reason why she's getting clean, and if i leave, i'll send her back to hell.... That's a lot to take.

I'm amazed at some guys who dump the damaged wemen with no second thought. Doesn't that F... her up even further???? No gult about it???
You know what it is....you said it yourself.

Captain Save a Hoe + Desperation = Guilt

You cannot fix other people.

You cannot fix other people.

You cannot fix other people.

You can only try to find the people who will work in your life. She has friends and family who can are are supposed to take care of her in tough times, you are not her family. You are not her friend. You are her lover. Lovers are not obligated to save their hoes. If you see NO FUTURE in this relationship then you are only doing it for the easy ***** of a messed up woman. You don't love her, you want her. You can want someone else.

Guilt should be for when you have done something wrong. What have you done wrong here? Nothing. Think of all the women who leave men because they lost their job, or they can't get it up anymore, or because they met someone better? Do you think they feel guilty? Maybe. Does that stop them...nope. Learn from the best or suffer like the rest. Good luck.
 

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Whenever you are feeling guilty about doing anything to a girl ask yourself:

"If the roles were reversed, how would the girl act?"

In this particular situation, suppose you were the messed up one with issues, do you think a girl would consider your feelings and stick with you out of guilt to help save you?
 

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spider_007 said:
This is more for me to write things out, and put things into prospective.

I know what i have to do. I have to break up with her. She shows no promise of any kind of LTR (even though we are in on ~1.5 years). She is fvcked up in the head, with more problems then i can count. She's been in and out of rehab, and is in one right now. And even though we get along good, i don't love her, and she is costing me money. So why do i keep thinking twice about dumping her?

GUILT!!!!
SAVE-A-HOE MENTALITY maybe!!!!
COMFORATABLE IN THAT RELATIONSHIP, FEAR OF BEING ALONE AGAIN?????

I've been trying to help her. Paying her bills, drving her places.... supporting her in any way i can..... Why?

Well she was my first relationship. She showed me what's it like to be with a girl who isn't paid to lay there and count seconds while you get your nut off..... Desperation maybe? Not much outhere for a 25yo guy who lives with his parents and probably will till hi's 40 (or maybe that's my state of mind right now)

...but just as much important....I feel like i'm giving up on somebody. I feel like i'm the reason why she's getting clean, and if i leave, i'll send her back to hell.... That's a lot to take.

I'm amazed at some guys who dump the damaged wemen with no second thought. Doesn't that F... her up even further???? No gult about it???


I need a smack in the head (....shows you what you get when your raised buy single mother.)


I wouldn't say that. Its not being raised by a single mother but the environment that you were raised in, or the type of person your mother is.

My mother is a tough cookie, she will beat people down if she needs to. I have learned to be strong in times of need. I learned my motivation from her, the importance of drive, success, and failure.

Its not from your mother that you feel sorry for the girl, its from yourself. You are feeling bad about yourself and by helping a girl "in need" you help yourself. It raises your self esteem in your mind.
 

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well, i just did it.....not much crying on her side....she was a little upset. I didn't feel like fighting, so what ever she yelled out i just took it. No way to prove a girl wrong. Just make this sh1t worse.

I fill a little sad right now......i'll pass (i hope)

On the bright side. This was my first brakeup:up:
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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