Guess i'm not understanding this article...

[Omen]

I just read an article on MSN, and tried to figure it out, but cant seem to.

Dear Margot:
I am in love with a man who I am not sexually attracted to. We are both good Christians, and I believe that the foundation of a good relationship is shared values. We both love children, our Bible study group and baseball. The scary part is that whenever I see him, I get weak in the knees and can’t wait to feel his arms around me… but no more than that. It stops with hugs, kisses and talking. I don’t want to end the relationship because I can’t stand not being with him. But I worry that in the future if we get married it will be a loveless marriage. How important is sexual attraction in a marriage if everything else feels “right”?
– Lovelorn Laura

I guess the part that boggles me is...

The scary part is that whenever I see him, I get weak in the knees and can’t wait to feel his arms around me… but no more than that. It stops with hugs, kisses and talking. I don’t want to end the relationship because I can’t stand not being with him.

I dont understand a woman that can say she gets weak in the knees when she sees a guy, cant wait to feel his arms around her, yet feels no sexual attraction.

Most the time you would think its the opposite. Girl sees guy, she gets weak in the knees, cant wait to feel his body on hers, and wants to do him here and now. lol

I guess as a guy, I cant see being with a woman who made me feel like that, who I couldn't wait to have her arm around mine, or what ever, and then think... Ah.. I'm not sexually attracted to her.

Just seems messed up. But again, i'm a guy and not a woman, so for me, if I see a woman or am with one who makes me feel like that, she must be sexually attractive.

There are times a woman will touch my arm or something who I like, or grab my hand for some reason, and MAN DO I WANT TO JUMP ON TOP OF HER

 

[Alkali]

If we could completely understand women then we wouldn't be on this site.

 

[Omen]

If we could completely understand women then we wouldn't be on this site.

Amen

 

[Interceptor]

Dude, she spelled it right out there.

"Christian Values."

Simply put, she is sexually repressed. She has severe psychological issues regardng her perspective on sexuality.
She doesn't want to acknowledge her sexuality, so she tries to blank it our of her mind. If she does go with her sexual urges, she will be incongruent to the vision, self image, she has of herself as a "good girl."

She says "loveless" marriage, but what she means is "sexless marriage".
This immature, and sexually repressed little girl is too bogged down with dogmatic programming, and visions of Hell for feeling sexual and acting on it.
She's complaining about not being able to act on it.

Bascially, this woman is in conflict because she feels sexual attraction, but she blocks it out so she can stay safe in her imagined virtuous, virginal state.

Again, it's the same ol' "Sex is BAD and Naughty." programming garbage.
It's unhealthy brainwashing.
What you're seeing is the effects of this.

Social pressure, and religous conventions do put a strain on many women's expression of their sexuality. This lady has her ironfisted religious upbringing to thank for that.