GRr...she said she's busy whne i called for a date!!

[ScrewIt]

ok ok, i called her...at first i asked if she knew who i was, then she said yea. apparently she mistakened me for another dude...grr, she said "i tried calling you before, blah blah, but you probably saw it was me on the cell phone and didnt pick up." "i go uh...i dont think i gave you my #."
i go..."uh hm...are you sure u know who i am, then she goes oh it's you (name)"

sed, "you busy tomorrow, answered yea, 4 sec silence... then i said what about monday? then she said i got class on monday." well duh! i was gonna ask her to go out and eat at night! but she probably thought i meant non-night hours. then i go "ok i call you back some other time then." hung up.

it's possible that guy is her bf, or maybe a friend? i dont know!!
what does this mean!!?? im s tarting to bet she's uninterested.

btw, me, her and 2 other ppl went out to eat and catch a movie the night of valentines day...so unless her bf is outta state, she's gotta be single right?

you guys think she's interested or no?
should i have checked when her schedule was free before i hung up?? and what should i say next time i call? did i sound desperate?

 

[ScrewIt]

ok can someone move this, i posted in the wrong section!

 

[DJ_Dork]

You messed up.

You asked the wrong questions. You sounded desperate to her.

Read DJ Bible, Call her back in about 2 weeks after your last phone call with her.

 

[ScrewIt]

Which section of the bible, i read most of the bible alredy

yes i screwed up i know it. i was nervrous before icalled and during. i tried to keep my confidence up at its best.
im planning to call back in a week and a half.
but sigh it sucks in having to wait for time to pass when you want something NOW.

 

[Walking Anomaly]

Originally posted by ScrewIt
but sigh it sucks in having to wait for time to pass when you want something NOW.

I know exactly how you feel, sometimes finding yourself sitting around contemplating the"what ifs."

Don't dwell on it man, it doesn't pay to do that. Who cares what she thinks. Your best bet is to just move on, you'll have a lot more fun getting out there meetin more women than just sitting around worrying about this one girl. Shes one of billions of women out there.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

you should always have a 3-6 minute convo with a girl b4 asking her out. Get a vibe of her interest. Humor her. Talk about your last time togetrher - the movie.

Don't restrict yourself1 Ask her what nights is she available. If she says "none" then hang up. Or if she says "I'll br busy for a few weeks" then hang up!

You were nervous, and this blocked your thinking. Write things down if you have to.

 

[RandomGuy]

Hey

Good job on calling her man...I know some guys on here are really nervous about that, but you did it!

now...onto the conversation...you should always build rapport before asking her out...unless you've already built rapport in person before she gave you your number...you should always ask a few questions to get a connection going.

It doesn't have to be anything fancy or funny...but funny is a bonus, but make sure you ask something that shows that you want to know more about her. Then after 3-4 mins of fluff talking...say "i gotta go (do something unusual, like make some ice cubes), but you seem cool to talk to...we should continue this sometimes."

of course if the conversation went well....90% of the time she will say yes. She accepted to talk again, but you didn't really tell her exactly how you two are going to talk again.

Now just say..."I'll pick you up for coffee and we can continue this...is tommorow at 4 good or is tuesday at 3 better?"

Give her two choices...usually they just pick one...if she catches the BS you're giving her and say she's busy w/o counter offering...just say: "it was nice to talk to you...you have my number...call me when you're free" hang up and delete her number...if she calls back great...if not...next!

If you still have problems talking on the phone...write down what you want to say to her in advance on a peice of paper so you don't get stuck. Some of you guys will argue that this is too much effort and that you're trying too hard...but I think that as long as she doesn't know and more importantly you don't show her that you're trying too hard then its fine. After all...are we trying too hard visiting this site and learn stuff?

As for what to do now...because you've already fvked up...I say you have two choices:
Either increase your chance of runing into her again...(this works well if you two go to the same school) but dont stalk her!

Or call her back in two weeks...but be prepared for a greater b!tch sheild...so you better go read some stuff on how to work around that...