Craig Reeves
Master Don Juan
Hello gentlemen....
Just in case you've never seen me on these forums, or have never met me, my name is Craig and I'm going to begin my little series for you all entitled "Grow Some Balls". By the time you finish reading this series there may be quite a few things that you may disagree with, but that's only because more people on this damn forum than you think are really abunch of posers who call themselves "DJ's". This thread is mainly DAMAGE CONTROL - I'm trying to save young DJ's from the bullshyt that their likely going to run into from some of these so called "DJ's" who get a hard on for throwing their weight around. Annnnnnywayz.....
In the first part of this series, I'm going to discuss some stupid notions that even "master DJ's" around here often state, and that way too many guys live by....again, especially on this forum....
So the first part of this series is entitled.....
Hottie Worship and the Wuss-bags That Participate In It...
Yeah, cruel name? I know...but c'mon guys, I think we all know this is true. Let us start with the dumb notions that too many people have around here....
DUMB NOTION #1: THE HOTTIE'S OPINION IS ALWAYS RIGHT
C'mon guys, we learned in flippin' KINDERGARTEN that women, in general are almost NEVER right....especially about what THEY want! Women say they want this, say they want that, say they DON'T want this, say they DON'T want that, but then end up going after it anyways. Haven't we ALL seen this about a million times already?
I was reading this thread about some guy who, at first had no problem with his appearance. Then, after trying to talk to this cheerleader girl (who I'm assuming MIGHT be hot), felt like crap because she called him a "fat loser". He told his story on the forum and about half the people that replied told him that she just HAD to be right and that he needs to "hit the gym" to be able to impress her, even though HE had no problem with the way he looked. If this girl was skinney and acne faced, I can guarrantee you that these very same guys would have been like, "Dude, she's ugly, her opinion isn't valid".....but because she's PRETTY, she's just got to have IMPECCABLE TASTE, too.
Don't get me wrong, I'm all for self improvement, but only for the approval of YOU, not for some bimbo that you'd be better off without.
The guy this happened to goes by Trent423, and I talked to him recently on AIM and he updated me on the fact that this very same girl that dissed him that day is now going to be a single mother because her deadbeat boyfriend left her he basically got arrested for drug use overnight without notice.....but she's PRETTY so she's just got to have good taste.....
How many PRETTY girls do you know date guys that ARE NOT good for them at all? Just look at the celebrity bimbos that keep dating these Motley Crue members....I rest my case...
This is just one example of what I'm talking about. Just because a woman is attractive does not at all make her opinion about you correct. For some funny reason we just act as if the approval of an ATTRACTIVE woman is more valuable than the approval of an INTELLEGENT one. Maybe she's doesn't like you because SHE'S a MORON. This is how DJ's think!
Think about it, some of the greatest minds in history were also the most stubborn. Mozart was one of the greatest composers of all time and he literally said that anybody who dislikes his music must be deaf.
DUMB NOTION #2: IF A HOTTIE BULLSHYTS YOU AROUND, IT'S ALWAYS YOUR FAULT.
Y'know, I see tons of dating coaches even follow this dumb notion. For some reason, we assume that if a woman blows us off, treats us like crap, cheats on us, or whatever, it just HAS to be OUR fault. We never assume it's something that's going on with HER. We always think it's something we did or something we just didn't have or that we just couldn't live up to her "superior and god-like" standards (even thoush she HERSELF probably hasn't lived up to her OWN standards).
And what's even worse that we're then told this by these so-called "DJ's" who go around acting as if women never treat THEM like crap when I can tell ya right now...they do.
On top of that, we think the guys that they cheat on us with, or blow us off for, etc. MUST have something that we don't have, as if these guys are superior to us just cuz she happens to prefer them over us. Let me tell you this - Britney Spears sold more albums in her first year as an artist than Kanye West did...but we all know who's REALLY the better artist.
Anyway, if a woman starts on that bullshyt, just NEXT her. Stop trying to find reasons to beat yourself up about it and just find another girl. There's no point in trying to please every single woman you meet 'cause no matter how much you "bulk up", or "chisel up" and "spike your hair up", there's going to be at least one woman who just doesn't think you're "good enough for her". These women are usually single for the rest of their lives, anyway. We have got to stop trying so hard to impress these women and start expecting THEM to impress US.
DUMB NOTION #3: HOT WOMEN JUST HAVE LOT'S OF CHOICES AND CAN GET IT WHENEVER THEY WANT IT....
This is probably the stupidest notion I have ever come across. OK, let's get one thing straight here....
WOMEN ARE JUST AS HORNY AS MEN ARE! There! I've said it, and it's true. Don't believe me? Just do your homework and hang around a group of girls for an afternoon and you'll see what I mean.
If hot women could REALLY get it whenever they wanted it, there would virtually be NO single women who are attractive. NONE.
I'd like to you go out tommorrow, find the most attractive woman you can find, and ask her to tell you (HONESTLY) she has gotten EVERY guy that she has ever liked. The answer may surprise you.
Look, I'm going to tell you this. Attractive women do NOT always have options. This notion can put these types of women on a pedistal so be careful. Thinking in the mindset that she's got options and you don't is not only untrue, but it will make you feel as if she's doing YOU a favor by giving you her attention.
DUMB NOTION #4: HOT WOMEN ALWAYS HAVE THEIR LIVES TOGETHER AND ARE ALWAYS SECURE AND CONFIDENT....
Again, another dumb notion that makes me laugh. For some reason, to many of us make the assumption that just because is girl is attractive, she's confident, knows what she wants in life, and is wise in her decisions and always knows exactly what she wants or what she's looking for.
We just CAN'T assume that women very often don't KNOW what they want (especially ATTRACTIVE ones). We assume that every attractive woman feels attractive all the time and is just so confident that she can just walk into a room and feel like a goddess. This is really a bunch of crap that you really don't need to be believing.
If these hot women were really THAT comfortable with their looks and whatnot, then tell me why they're CONSTANTLY primping themselves, looking in the mirror all the time, getting jealous of each other, worrying about if other prettier chicks they might be a threat to their "game", etc. Let's face it, not every attractive woman is secure, or smart.
If you don't remember anything else from this thread, please remember this: We have GOT to stop acting as if women that are attractive are so much better than we are, and that we've got to go through so much hell just to be "worthy" of their attention, or "live up" to her standards. Like I said earlier, you should improve yourself, but not to please some girl....because if you go in with that mindset, not matter how many pushups you do, you're still not going to get anywhere...
Just in case you've never seen me on these forums, or have never met me, my name is Craig and I'm going to begin my little series for you all entitled "Grow Some Balls". By the time you finish reading this series there may be quite a few things that you may disagree with, but that's only because more people on this damn forum than you think are really abunch of posers who call themselves "DJ's". This thread is mainly DAMAGE CONTROL - I'm trying to save young DJ's from the bullshyt that their likely going to run into from some of these so called "DJ's" who get a hard on for throwing their weight around. Annnnnnywayz.....
In the first part of this series, I'm going to discuss some stupid notions that even "master DJ's" around here often state, and that way too many guys live by....again, especially on this forum....
So the first part of this series is entitled.....
Hottie Worship and the Wuss-bags That Participate In It...
Yeah, cruel name? I know...but c'mon guys, I think we all know this is true. Let us start with the dumb notions that too many people have around here....
DUMB NOTION #1: THE HOTTIE'S OPINION IS ALWAYS RIGHT
C'mon guys, we learned in flippin' KINDERGARTEN that women, in general are almost NEVER right....especially about what THEY want! Women say they want this, say they want that, say they DON'T want this, say they DON'T want that, but then end up going after it anyways. Haven't we ALL seen this about a million times already?
I was reading this thread about some guy who, at first had no problem with his appearance. Then, after trying to talk to this cheerleader girl (who I'm assuming MIGHT be hot), felt like crap because she called him a "fat loser". He told his story on the forum and about half the people that replied told him that she just HAD to be right and that he needs to "hit the gym" to be able to impress her, even though HE had no problem with the way he looked. If this girl was skinney and acne faced, I can guarrantee you that these very same guys would have been like, "Dude, she's ugly, her opinion isn't valid".....but because she's PRETTY, she's just got to have IMPECCABLE TASTE, too.
Don't get me wrong, I'm all for self improvement, but only for the approval of YOU, not for some bimbo that you'd be better off without.
The guy this happened to goes by Trent423, and I talked to him recently on AIM and he updated me on the fact that this very same girl that dissed him that day is now going to be a single mother because her deadbeat boyfriend left her he basically got arrested for drug use overnight without notice.....but she's PRETTY so she's just got to have good taste.....
How many PRETTY girls do you know date guys that ARE NOT good for them at all? Just look at the celebrity bimbos that keep dating these Motley Crue members....I rest my case...
This is just one example of what I'm talking about. Just because a woman is attractive does not at all make her opinion about you correct. For some funny reason we just act as if the approval of an ATTRACTIVE woman is more valuable than the approval of an INTELLEGENT one. Maybe she's doesn't like you because SHE'S a MORON. This is how DJ's think!
Think about it, some of the greatest minds in history were also the most stubborn. Mozart was one of the greatest composers of all time and he literally said that anybody who dislikes his music must be deaf.
DUMB NOTION #2: IF A HOTTIE BULLSHYTS YOU AROUND, IT'S ALWAYS YOUR FAULT.
Y'know, I see tons of dating coaches even follow this dumb notion. For some reason, we assume that if a woman blows us off, treats us like crap, cheats on us, or whatever, it just HAS to be OUR fault. We never assume it's something that's going on with HER. We always think it's something we did or something we just didn't have or that we just couldn't live up to her "superior and god-like" standards (even thoush she HERSELF probably hasn't lived up to her OWN standards).
And what's even worse that we're then told this by these so-called "DJ's" who go around acting as if women never treat THEM like crap when I can tell ya right now...they do.
On top of that, we think the guys that they cheat on us with, or blow us off for, etc. MUST have something that we don't have, as if these guys are superior to us just cuz she happens to prefer them over us. Let me tell you this - Britney Spears sold more albums in her first year as an artist than Kanye West did...but we all know who's REALLY the better artist.
Anyway, if a woman starts on that bullshyt, just NEXT her. Stop trying to find reasons to beat yourself up about it and just find another girl. There's no point in trying to please every single woman you meet 'cause no matter how much you "bulk up", or "chisel up" and "spike your hair up", there's going to be at least one woman who just doesn't think you're "good enough for her". These women are usually single for the rest of their lives, anyway. We have got to stop trying so hard to impress these women and start expecting THEM to impress US.
DUMB NOTION #3: HOT WOMEN JUST HAVE LOT'S OF CHOICES AND CAN GET IT WHENEVER THEY WANT IT....
This is probably the stupidest notion I have ever come across. OK, let's get one thing straight here....
WOMEN ARE JUST AS HORNY AS MEN ARE! There! I've said it, and it's true. Don't believe me? Just do your homework and hang around a group of girls for an afternoon and you'll see what I mean.
If hot women could REALLY get it whenever they wanted it, there would virtually be NO single women who are attractive. NONE.
I'd like to you go out tommorrow, find the most attractive woman you can find, and ask her to tell you (HONESTLY) she has gotten EVERY guy that she has ever liked. The answer may surprise you.
Look, I'm going to tell you this. Attractive women do NOT always have options. This notion can put these types of women on a pedistal so be careful. Thinking in the mindset that she's got options and you don't is not only untrue, but it will make you feel as if she's doing YOU a favor by giving you her attention.
DUMB NOTION #4: HOT WOMEN ALWAYS HAVE THEIR LIVES TOGETHER AND ARE ALWAYS SECURE AND CONFIDENT....
Again, another dumb notion that makes me laugh. For some reason, to many of us make the assumption that just because is girl is attractive, she's confident, knows what she wants in life, and is wise in her decisions and always knows exactly what she wants or what she's looking for.
We just CAN'T assume that women very often don't KNOW what they want (especially ATTRACTIVE ones). We assume that every attractive woman feels attractive all the time and is just so confident that she can just walk into a room and feel like a goddess. This is really a bunch of crap that you really don't need to be believing.
If these hot women were really THAT comfortable with their looks and whatnot, then tell me why they're CONSTANTLY primping themselves, looking in the mirror all the time, getting jealous of each other, worrying about if other prettier chicks they might be a threat to their "game", etc. Let's face it, not every attractive woman is secure, or smart.
If you don't remember anything else from this thread, please remember this: We have GOT to stop acting as if women that are attractive are so much better than we are, and that we've got to go through so much hell just to be "worthy" of their attention, or "live up" to her standards. Like I said earlier, you should improve yourself, but not to please some girl....because if you go in with that mindset, not matter how many pushups you do, you're still not going to get anywhere...
