"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

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I think its great we have a forum like this in helping each other. Here's where I need some help. I have no problems meeting girls through my social circle of friends then chat with them at some party or whatever I can even pull day 2's and makeout's on the spot.

My problem is night game doing cold approaches around 10pm-3am pertaining to a college town/bar environment where all the girls are in packs of 3-5 walking on the street and just blowing off guys left and right that try to come up and talk to them. I've seen happen to other guys too. It's like these girls don't care how good looking the guy is they just give 1 word answers and keep walking to where ever they're going or are just really mean. It's like they are just wanting to blow off guys left and right on Friday and Saturday nights? I'm in New Jersey and I went to Rutgers on Friday night with a wing. What do you guys do at night like this? We approached like 12 sets and not one hooked. I just wasn't use to that.

I really have no idea its like the ***** shields are up x10000 at night in a college town.
 

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I know man *hugs you*, I felt like crap last night. It's like I chase girls away in groups like that it doesn't make sense??

Why do they feel the need to group up and then just blow guys off that just wanna converse with them?

These girls were just 5's and 6's too average b!@#$%^ not even hot...
 

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women haze said:
I know man *hugs you*, I felt like crap last night. It's like I chase girls away in groups like that it doesn't make sense??

Why do they feel the need to group up and then just blow guys off that just wanna converse with them?

These girls were just 5's and 6's too average b!@#$%^ not even hot...
same thing happens to you too bro? *hugs you too* no homo
 

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same here *hug* lol i've got into a fight before at times with groups of girls.

personally this is why i need to approach in the day around town less ***** sheilds and i presume they will have more time to listen to you. rather than getting a drunken f.off
 

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jj123 said:
Group Hug Bros...Feeling kinda down with pickup
:( *Hug*

I think its great we have a forum like this in helping each other. Here's where I need some help. I have no problems meeting girls through my social circle of friends then chat with them at some party or whatever I can even pull day 2's and makeout's on the spot.
Thats pretty awesome.

My problem is night game doing cold approaches around 10pm-3am pertaining to a college town/bar environment where all the girls are in packs of 3-5 walking on the street and just blowing off guys left and right that try to come up and talk to them. I've seen happen to other guys too. It's like these girls don't care how good looking the guy is they just give 1 word answers and keep walking to where ever they're going or are just really mean. It's like they are just wanting to blow off guys left and right on Friday and Saturday nights?
Thats because they do. They have every right to anyway, those guys who go up to them are dumb for doing it in the first place. You should not go up to random girls who show no interest in you first. This is not about rejection, insecurity, or anything like that, but why do you want any random girl??

I'm in New Jersey and I went to Rutgers on Friday night with a wing. What do you guys do at night like this? We approached like 12 sets and not one hooked. I just wasn't use to that.
There is a reason for this, and it has something to do with you, not them. But its nothing negative or anything that has to do with your looks, its about your approach. (Not in the way you think though)

I really have no idea its like the ***** shields are up x10000 at night in a college town.
Bleh eff those girls anyway, what do they matter? eff their ***** shields. They are prolly lesbians anyway lol :)
 

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Keep your chin up man. I live in a college town in California and I have found it really easy to approach sets of women. Just introduce yourself.

"Hi, my name is Sofomore. Whats yours?"

Bam, conversation has started. Maybe people on the east coast just dont like random people approaching. Its definitely different here.
 

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Sofomore said:
Keep your chin up man. I live in a college town in California and I have found it really easy to approach sets of women. Just introduce yourself.

"Hi, my name is Sofomore. Whats yours?"

Bam, conversation has started. Maybe people on the east coast just dont like random people approaching. Its definitely different here.
Yea I'd like to live in California if I could. Everyone's sooooooo chill there. Here its rushy rushy goey goey. The Jersey girls are straight up *****es too. Mean and loud.
 

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Hidden-Hand said:
:( *Hug*


Thats pretty awesome.


Thats because they do. They have every right to anyway, those guys who go up to them are dumb for doing it in the first place. You should not go up to random girls who show no interest in you first. This is not about rejection, insecurity, or anything like that, but why do you want any random girl??


There is a reason for this, and it has something to do with you, not them. But its nothing negative or anything that has to do with your looks, its about your approach. (Not in the way you think though)


Bleh eff those girls anyway, what do they matter? eff their ***** shields. They are prolly lesbians anyway lol :)

Yea I know its not about looks. I guessing the girls are just out flaunting and ready to blow off any guy because I'm probably like number 100 that came up to her even before the night has begun and she probably heard every opener in the world by now.
 

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Yeah man that's how the b1tches are here in the Dirty Brunz.
 

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Hey man I live near Rutgers, and actually used to be a student there. We should go try to bang some freshman sometime.

i've had good responses using other girls as pivots because it takes the girls guard down.

Gotta remember NB girls get raped so its a protective measure.
 

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judoguy said:
Hey man I live near Rutgers, and actually used to be a student there. We should go try to bang some freshman sometime.

i've had good responses using other girls as pivots because it takes the girls guard down.

Gotta remember NB girls get raped so its a protective measure.
Ya know.... No lie but I thought of this is one of the reasons because there is just something about the feel in NB on a late night if they wander off past George Street and you don't really know the area it can get really ghetto all of a sudden. When I first went there about 5 months ago driving through to meet this girl in piscataway just before the sun went down. I went through NB and I actually had this weird feeling of something telling me I shouldn't be there. I know it's nothing like Camden and Trenton but NB has this weird feel to it in some places.
 
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