Grounds for dismissal! Feel free to add yours!

[nismo-4]

All rise!

I've noticed how scared a lot of men are to let a woman go, let alone drop her. With my one chance-zero tolerance policy, I've learned to be able to drop a woman with no letup. My time is too precious and valuable to put up with female bullsh*t.

Here are some of my reasons that get a girl deleted INSTANTLY. Especially if this happens in the initial interaction. It's my third half deck of cards with one joker! Here's the deal.

1. She flakes, especially by text
2. She just wants to be friends
3. She wants to take it slow
4. She plays games
5. She gives mixed signals
6. She gives negative signals
7. She rejects my advances
8. She wants to control the frame
9. She shows little interest, or none at all
10. She stops answering my phone calls
11. She tries to get me as a beta orbiter
12. She makes me wait for sex
13. She wants to be friends first
14. She gives gold digger vibes
15. She wants to have a relationship before sex
16. She disrespects me
17. She pulls any lame excuse
18. She's a tease
19. She says she has a boyfriend/ seeing someone
20. She's distant toward me
21. She gives me bad vibes
22. We don't click
23. She tries to hurt me
24. She pulls out a load of entitlement issues
25. She treats me like sh*t
26. We want 2 different things, and it's not in my favor.

that joker: SHE CARES NOTHING ABOUT ME (ONE-SIDED IN HER FAVOR).

Add yours here! It's time we stop tolerating female bullsh*t.

 

[:-)]

Interesting thread because i just dismissed my colleague largely on the grounds that she showed blatant interest and was not a challenge. Because of this I was more interested in another, less good-looking colleague until she proceeded to show interest. I'm starting to think I may have issues.

"I DON'T WANT TO BELONG TO ANY CLUB THAT WILL ACCEPT PEOPLE LIKE ME AS A MEMBER". Groucho Marx

 

[skinnyguy]

Well, the problem is that if I did all of this, there would be no women left for me...

 

[TheGambino]

We need to calm down more and enjoy women instead of trying to find out every single thing a girl does.

Have fun, connect with her, tease, play and most important be positive.
If she's giving you a hard time by any means just withdraw your attention and look for a girl who shows interest in you. Easy as that, best way to find out interest level is to ask her out for a drink, if she doesnt show up for any reason just delete her number.

If she shows up, go with the flow, ask questions, listen to her, kino-escalate and have fun, enjoy the time, and be yourself.

It's bullsh1t that we keep thinking about every single aspect when it comes to women, chase your dreams instead. Get educated, work, get your finance together and live healthy.

Keep yourself at number 1 and live your life happy and free.

 

[El Payaso]

We need to calm down more and enjoy women instead of trying to find out every single thing a girl does.

Have fun, connect with her, tease, play and most important be positive.
If she's giving you a hard time by any means just withdraw your attention and look for a girl who shows interest in you. Easy as that, best way to find out interest level is to ask her out for a drink, if she doesnt show up for any reason just delete her number.

If she shows up, go with the flow, ask questions, listen to her, kino-escalate and have fun, enjoy the time, and be yourself.

It's bullsh1t that we keep thinking about every single aspect when it comes to women, chase your dreams instead. Get educated, work, get your finance together and live healthy.

Keep yourself at number 1 and live your life happy and free.

I like the sentiments behind your post but advice like that isn't very good. While the boys in grade school were playing with their toy trucks and action figures, the girls were busy reading Cosmopolitan and Vogue "10 things to say to find out he's the one" or "5 techniques to make him do what you want". They were in bathroom stalls sharing trade secrets about how Boy X is a weakling and Boy Y is a stud.

It sucks that we have to think about every aspect when it comes to interacting with women but its a necessary evil and it comes with the territory.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

Great thread, but a few comments. I will add my own criteria once I have slept on it!

1. She flakes, especially by text
I see the logic here, but I also personally see it as a challenge to tweak my game further. Though investment/initiation from my end plummets to almost zero, save maybe the odd round of drinks/offer of coming to my place. The fact that this chick is effort-worthy (to a greater or lesser extent) in the first instance enthuses me not to give up at the first hurdle; just not to the point of handing over frame.

Obviously she's not the only option anyway.

2. She just wants to be friends
See point 1.

3. She wants to take it slow
See point 1.

4. She plays games
We're all playing the game my friend. And wouldn't life be boring without. See point 1.

5. She gives mixed signals
See point 1.

6. She gives negative signals
See point 1.

7. She rejects my advances
See point 1. Obviously pursue up to, but not beyond, the point of harassment/relinquishing frame.

8. She wants to control the frame
Go NC/push-pull, until she learns who's wearing the trousers.

9. She shows little interest, or none at all
See point 1. Or point 8 NEXT.

10. She stops answering my phone calls
I never call women (or talk to them on the phone in general) for more than 3 minutes, and that's usually when they get lost in transit to meeting me.

In fact, I have a mind to start a thread about the very concept of chatting on the phone to women. Chatting on the phone is what women do. I like to save convo for face to face socials, even with my pals. Phone calls = expensive and anti-social.

11. She tries to get me as a beta orbiter
Personally, this would never happen to me. I have been dumped before, no doubt. But I can honestly say I have never been 'friend-zoned' by an object of my desire.

12. She makes me wait for sex
Some are worth the wait. I have read that you shouldn't wait more than six dates (or six hours total contact); but higher quality chicks don't have to put out immediately, because they know they can whenever they want. So some just take time. As long as you get your fingers wet within three dates (and consistently there after), I'd say good things c*m to those who can wait.

13. She wants to be friends first
See points 1, 8, 11. Again, I have little or no experience of this.

14. She gives gold digger vibes
Pfft. Seconded.

15. She wants to have a relationship before sex
See point 14.

16. She disrespects me
Disrespect right back. See what happens. Some people have off days, sometimes. It's not cool to be quite so reactionary to everything. Risk coming off as butthurt.

17. She pulls any lame excuse
Lame excuse may be valid, but laming out twice in a row, she's getting some soft no contact. See point 1.

18. She's a tease
See points 1 and 16.

19. She says she has a boyfriend/ seeing someone
I'd kind of agree. But I tend to find chicks with bfs generally avoid me like the plague; I can only assume because they can't trust themselves in my presence.

20. She's distant toward me
Pfft. Try point one. But also, NEXT.

21. She gives me bad vibes
Not sure what this means. But if they're too dumb/too masculine in their outlook/too boring, those are bad signs.

22. We don't click
Can't be friends with everyone. But also, point 1.

23. She tries to hurt me
I've been hurt three times by women. And the last time is exactly that; the last.

24. She pulls out a load of entitlement issues
See point 8. But kind of agree with this one.

25. She treats me like sh*t
See points 16 and 23. **** tests do exactly what they say on the tin. They're tests; of the size of your balls.

26. We want 2 different things, and it's not in my favor.
If we're really that different, NEXT.


Basically a bird has to work pretty hard for me to dismiss her completely; at the moment, all she has to be is one of my ex-GFs!

Though the entitlement is a biggie, really. If she expects more than me, feels she's a better person than anyone else, well scratch that. NEXT.

It's important not to carry previous bad experience forward. We might miss a golden opportunity for reacting to something kind of minor and end up kicking ourselves in future.

 

[RagingBalls]

Let me add:

She's too clingy
She has little/no trust

 

[Mr Wright]

The problem with this is that it will only filter in really high interest girls who exhibit no undesirable behaviour. In theory, this is what we want but in reality, if you meet a girl for the first time the chances of her doing none of these things is rare. How often do you really meet a chick who doesn't reject your first advance? Most girls are programmed like that, it's nothing personal, just how they are. It's no problem for me because I usually make my first move within the first two minutes to gauge where she is, so her rejecting me just lets me know where she is.


My criteria is simple and relates to myself not to her behaviour. I look at her behaviour and think about how it makes me feel. I know at this stage in my life, I don't want to have strong feelings for anyone and I know that as long as she can't stir an emotional reaction out of me, I will be fine. I'm here to f*ck her and have fun. If a girl is playing games but at the end of the night she's still on her back moaning, I couldn't give two craps about the previous game playing. So my criteria is this:

1) Does she put a smile on my face?

In other words, do I like being in her company? I've spoken to enough girls now to get to the point where if they're boring, I can't really be bothered to engage in the interaction for too much longer.

2) Would I be embarrassed to be seen with her in public due to her behaviour/demeanor?

Obviously I'm English and I was brought up in a certain way, I expect women to act like a lady. Any woman who acts like a guy just turns me off, so if she's turning me off. Girls that are too drunk are not attractive to me, so I can advance no further.

3) Do I feel negative emotions?

Is she making me jealous? Angry? Sad? Or whatever else. At this point, I introspect, smile to myself and admit she's got the better of me and just walk away. Jealously is the fastest way to realise how much you want something, so if a girl is making you feel that, just walk away.

4) Does she annoy me?

I like my free time, I don't like it when a girl calls me drunk at 3 in the morning or when they get all clingy. I find this sort of stuff annoying and it makes me want to tell them to f*ck off and get a grip.



There are probably more but I can't think of them right now. But my point is that my list is a lot shorter because I don't have the time to be reading into everything that she does. I've been doing this long enough to naturally pick up on bad behaviour so I just let my body do the judging and act accordingly.

 

[Turuwal]

These suggestions are excellent for weeding out low interest girls in the short term. In the longer term, one crucial part is to TELL the girl which things are unacceptable and the rules she must follow. In my experience, girls absolutely LOVE having clear boundaries because it means they are dealing with a MAN.

 

[Redwood]

It's pretty clear from Nismo and all the other responses here.

Just treat relationships with females like "at-will" employment.

 

[mike465]

Messaged a girl today telling her to come for drinks with me later in the week

Pretty confident she likes me/I like her etc so...

She responded saying how nice it was that I asked her blah blah blah but that she will 'let me know'

Never know how to feel about a response like that because it's never really changed anything on occasions in the past but do you guys think that's a bad sign or just her trying to keep some leverage over me.

*my friends and her friends have said they think she likes me so what is it, just games or what?

Also to add to the thread, I had a girl call me after I was out and she was out (different cities) and I woke up with 28 missed calls. Instantly blocked and deleted the number, facebook, snapchat, everything

 

[Don-Kong]

TheMonkeyKing is bang on. I'll add some info later when I get time

 

[Don-Kong]

Nismo. Respect. I love that attitude!

1. She is emotionally unstable
(tells you that she has trouble with lots of people in her life)

2. She tells you her ex boyfriends are all psychos
(There is a definite pattern of weaker man, but perhaps she plays way too many games or destroys men)

3. She accepts no responsibility for her actions
(she certainly wont care about your feelings)

4. She is High maintenance
(she'll find fault with everything you do and you will be always trying to prove yourself or please her)

5. She is an insecure 10
(everyone wants to nail her, she knows it and will use it against you if you don't play her game, she will use it as an excuse and call you the one with the problem)

6. She treats your time as disposable
(this shows lack of respect and can make you wait for ever. If you fall for this trap, you'll get sucked in to her antics about everything)

7. She tells you she's never had a bad sexual experience
(she's testing your metal. Can you perform, are you up for it etc. This could be a good thing but mostly she wants you to know how good she is, not neccessarily nexting worthy but defo to watch out)

8. She moans about everything
(how long do you think it will be until it's your turn? and you trying to behave?)

9. She doesn't have a job, lives with her parents
(she's a loser or has just had a bad break up, beware, why would you want someone like this?)

10. She has no female friends
(this is just weird, maybe she's a tomboy? Why do other girls not like her? This also means she may have lots of guy friends or worse, none at all)

11. She has low social skills or is really shy
(You end up doing all the work to keep things going, its draining and boring and you feel she is distant)