"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Groundhog's Day. Bill Murray is a Don Juan.

ThunderMaverick

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So it's February 2nd; Groundhog's day. I always try to make it a habit every year to watch this movie on Groundhog's day. I love it. A man who has been a snob and cynic all of his life unlearns so many things and ends up actually getting the girl without trying.

Ok, so it goes like this. The man Bill Murray played name was Phil. He was a local weather man in the big city. He was well to do and very popular. All of this gave him a swelled head and he treated people lower than him. Basically he was all that and a six pack in his mind. But there was that something in Phil that made Rita (Andie McDowell's character) attracted to him. He was already ****y and funny, but it was boderlined with vanity. THAT vanity eventually turned her off.

So Phil starts to relive everyday over and over. He finds many ways to cheat, steal and lie to perfection over the repeating days. He kills himself many times. It's fun. But like the day before, nothing changes for the better....not even inside him. Even though Phil is living in the same day over and over, he changes the way he lives. He starts to study things and help people. He even learns how to play the piano! Pretty soon, his good deeds and skills become effortless, because he has learned how to become a better person
than he was the day before. Each day he made an effort to change what was wrong inside of him. In the end, he gets the girl without even trying.

After watching this movie more than 100 times, on the 101st I finally figured out that it was never about the girl. It was about HIM making himself out to what HE wanted to be! I feel that once you know yourself truly, things become more clear in life. I think he realized that too.


I've been stuck in my Groundhog day for years. I'll repeat the same thing over and over until I finally decide that I need a change. Change dosen't just happen. It's a slow process. You can't force it. Positive change in yourself only happens with self realization. Find yourself and you'll change for the better.

At least that's my opinion.


Anyone else stuck in a Groundhog day? =D
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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ImmortalDragon

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I love that movie, and yes I've been stuck for years but I haven't tried to change.
 

00Kevin

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I saw that movie the other day on tv. I thought the same thing. Yes in the end he got the girl because he became who he wanted to be.

The problem was that she was very responsive to everything he did. She was always happy and easy going.

Most women are just not like her and they are very negative and depresive.
 

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Originally posted by 00Kevin
Most women are just not like her and they are very negative and depresive.
Maybe that's why he liked her so much?

And yeah, Groundhog Day is a fantastic movie. Really one of my favorite movies of all time. And to think, technically it could be classified as a *gulp* romantic comedy. :eek:
 

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Bill Murray is a genius! the point to the movie is that Bill Murray tried being the sweet, nice guy but couldn't get her to bed. Even with the timewarp and he learning everything about her he couldn't get her to bed!

Then he started improving his life by learning to play the piano, helping people and many other things. He started doing what he wanted to do, he forgot about the girl. He became an exciting, dynamic guy full of life. The girl saw this and this is what attracted her.

You could say the DJ Bible and the ways of the DJ has that effect. Not just about getting girls, but improving your life, your confidence, your self steem.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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