"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Grinding in the club! Does it lead to anything? How?

Mr. Cardio

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I go out to bars and clubs all the time, and all I can conclude is that in a dance club type scenrio or even in a bar scenrio, unless you have build some type of attraction or rapport large enough with the female, then her friends will **** block you, happened to me a lot. So the best thing to do, is when you get done dancing, tell her you got to tell her something, try to find somewhere, if its possible, in the club so you can kino her and stuff, then get her to agree to come back to your place, and if you build the attraction big enough, she will tell her friends to back off.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Broham

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How do you escalate the situation from just grinding? Simple, you must be more fun to her than the club itself. This has been discussed many times. Instead of her viewing the club as the party, you must be the party!!! This is obviously easier said than done, but if she's really into you, you've got a good shot. You need to isolate her though and the best way of doing so is to make sure her friends aren't around. We all know that girls want sex just as much as guys; however, social programming typically wins at a venue like a club since girls don't want to be viewed as sluts. For girls its: Risk of tainted social image > Possible Great Sex. This is where 2-3 wingmen come in handy. If you can isolate this chick and get her mind strictly on you she won't even think twice about leaving her friends and bounce with you. And one more thing, don't even bother getting #s at clubs.
 

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Amen broham, getting a number in a club and expecting some success, if like eating fast food everyday and expecting to lose weight.
 

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Originally posted by Mr. Cardio
Amen broham, getting a number in a club and expecting some success, if like eating fast food everyday and expecting to lose weight.
Unless your name is Tracy Gold.
 

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I guess sometimes you can transition into a make-out session and sometimes you can't. Just try to progress slowly and watch the response.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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