"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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In the manosphere, the emphasis is usually on "not screwing up" therefore we forget about the positives and what we actually come here to seek....happiness. When we are dating a plate, common advice is to screen..."look out for the red flags". However we seldom forget that there is another side to that coin...the green flags. Those things no matter how big or how small that impress you.

I went on a date 3 with a recently added plate(had sex night we met(date1?), and on date 2) so the "pressure" was off of me to make the big impression. Instead I was allowed to sit back and enjoy myself.

GREEN FLAG 1-Cooking
Went to a mini golf course and kicked her a$$ and joked around. Went back to her place where she cooked this amazing fvckin meal for me. Literally like an hour prep time...veggies everywhere, sautee this, sautee that....literally impressed. A woman that can make a good a$$ meal from essentially raw ingredients and puts that kind of effort, all for the sake of pleasing me, gets a thumbs up in my book.

GREEN FLAG 2-Massage
As we are laying in her bed, I mentioned how I have low back pain and she immediately volunteers to do something about it.

HB: Hows your back? I know you said it hurt the other day.
Me: Ya its tight as sh1t right now.
HB: Oh, well get on your stomach. Ill give you a massage.

Pretty damn good at it too. Put pressure on the right knots and practically made me bust in my pants.

GREEN FLAG 3- Sex
Obvious...but nonetheless deserves a mention. Shes forward about it and we even joked about doing it in public at the golf course. We throw a movie on and she can barely keep her hands off me. You can tell she wants it, and as soon as I give her a little action she goes off like a raving animal and essentially attacks me until I get on top and plow her to orgasm. Win-Win for the both of us.

GREEN FLAG 4- Taking Care Of My Early Morning
I had to be up early for something the next morning so she volunteered and set her alarm to wake me up...and even had 2 sleep timers so I could get a "snooze button"....awesome. Then she gets up and sets up the coffee pot, times it so it automatically turns on and gets me a travel mug so all I have to do it pour the coffee. Literally took care of me.

So you guys see...when screening, also be aware of all the awesome things she does for you. It allows you to see her true interest level and how much she really is into you. THIS IS HOW IT SHOULD BE!!!! The man living his life and conquering his dreams, with a woman there SUPPORTING HIM. Whenever you have a night like I just had...it really makes you think...especially about all the sh1tty women youve dated and how some of them barely lifted a finger for you, while this one literally would do anything.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Sequence of events that led your back to her place the first date?
 

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PairPlusRoyalFlush said:
I wouldn't put too much stock into them, but yea we should enjoy these while they last. My last gf did all of these, cheated .

Agreed. Don't BPDs act like this? Make it sweet and makes you feel like a king? And then dogs your sh1t? So that should mean the red flags trumps over the green flags in deciding what kind of material the woman is
 

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C'mon fella's let's not analyse this here, just be happy for the guy that he's found someone that can do this for him and who he enjoys spending time with.
Don't get spouting BPD or dredge up why you think it's all BS because of something that happened to you in a previous relationship (I'm looking at you flush ;) ) just be happy for him :rock:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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TheException said:
In the manosphere, the emphasis is usually on "not screwing up" therefore we forget about the positives and what we actually come here to seek....happiness. When we are dating a plate, common advice is to screen..."look out for the red flags". However we seldom forget that there is another side to that coin...the green flags. Those things no matter how big or how small that impress you.

I went on a date 3 with a recently added plate(had sex night we met(date1?), and on date 2) so the "pressure" was off of me to make the big impression. Instead I was allowed to sit back and enjoy myself.

GREEN FLAG 1-Cooking
Went to a mini golf course and kicked her a$$ and joked around. Went back to her place where she cooked this amazing fvckin meal for me. Literally like an hour prep time...veggies everywhere, sautee this, sautee that....literally impressed. A woman that can make a good a$$ meal from essentially raw ingredients and puts that kind of effort, all for the sake of pleasing me, gets a thumbs up in my book.

GREEN FLAG 2-Massage
As we are laying in her bed, I mentioned how I have low back pain and she immediately volunteers to do something about it.

HB: Hows your back? I know you said it hurt the other day.
Me: Ya its tight as sh1t right now.
HB: Oh, well get on your stomach. Ill give you a massage.

Pretty damn good at it too. Put pressure on the right knots and practically made me bust in my pants.

GREEN FLAG 3- Sex
Obvious...but nonetheless deserves a mention. Shes forward about it and we even joked about doing it in public at the golf course. We throw a movie on and she can barely keep her hands off me. You can tell she wants it, and as soon as I give her a little action she goes off like a raving animal and essentially attacks me until I get on top and plow her to orgasm. Win-Win for the both of us.

GREEN FLAG 4- Taking Care Of My Early Morning
I had to be up early for something the next morning so she volunteered and set her alarm to wake me up...and even had 2 sleep timers so I could get a "snooze button"....awesome. Then she gets up and sets up the coffee pot, times it so it automatically turns on and gets me a travel mug so all I have to do it pour the coffee. Literally took care of me.

So you guys see...when screening, also be aware of all the awesome things she does for you. It allows you to see her true interest level and how much she really is into you. THIS IS HOW IT SHOULD BE!!!! The man living his life and conquering his dreams, with a woman there SUPPORTING HIM. Whenever you have a night like I just had...it really makes you think...especially about all the sh1tty women youve dated and how some of them barely lifted a finger for you, while this one literally would do anything.
Sounds like a fantastic woman. QUESTION. If you don't mind answering, how old are you? How old is this woman? If this is a female in her 20's I would fall out of my chair in shock....
 

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So much bitterness on this forum.
My thoughts exactly
 

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Dont forget - comes over and volunteers doing dishes / cleaning :)
 

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Maybe alittle bit of bitterness but common lets be realistic here. These GREEN flags are great no doubt! Thumbs up OP! Great post...

But NOBODY is perfect, there's got to be at least 1 red flag! Sex is great on the first date don't get me wrong but I usually don't put to much stock in these type of woman and I usually lose attraction pretty quick. I'm not saying she's on the rebound and looking to forget about someone.

If she's emotionally unstable he will see the signs pretty quickly.

Ride the way wave while you can brother!
 

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Sequence of events that led your back to her place the first date?

Met at bar and she invited me back to her place same night.

QUESTION. If you don't mind answering, how old are you? How old is this woman? If this is a female in her 20's I would fall out of my chair in shock....

Both college aged. Im older...she just turned 21. Usually a lot of girls here on campus are on the "stuck up" end of things...but shes recently gone from a HB5 to HB7. Shes been working out and eating healthy as sh1t the last few months and shes never looked as good as she does now. So possibly, shes new to attention from a decent guy instead of having to settle for chumps in the past. Shes just trying to impress.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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