great way to stand up a girl

[yodoso]

This may cause some controvery but I believe standing up women is a great way to give them that drama that they love, it also can be used to rekindle the flame

A great example of this can be seen on the classic movie "Goodfellas"


Henry Hill went out on a double blind date with his friend to make his friends girl feel more comfortable. The group planned another date and he basically had no input, so he decided to stand his girl up.

That very night the group drove around the whole city looking for henry. When they found him, his girl just let loose(e.g. YOU'VE GOT SOME NERVE STANDING ME UP, WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE)

Henry kept his cool and did NOT APOLOGIZE

here is the dialogue

[KAREN]
YOU GOT SOME NERVE STANDING ME UP, NOBODY DOES THAT TO ME. WHO DO YOU THINK YOU ARE FRANKY VALLY OR SOME KIND OF BIG SHOT

[HENRY HILL]
slow down, slow down.......I forgot......I thought it was next week

[KAREN]
It wasn't next friday it was this friday and you agreed so you're a lier

She starts walking off
He Grabs her hand------This turn her to face him

[HENRY HILL]
take it easy we can talk about this

[KAREN]
talk to you after what you just did to me, forget it I'm not talking to you about anything

[HENRY HILL]
Wait a second I thought you were gonna stand me up you looked bored you didn't say anything(referring to their first date) what did you expect?

.....................
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......................
Hmmmmmm

She walks off
He turns her around again

[HENRY HILL]
let me make it up to you

She walks off
He turns her around again

[HENRY HILL]
let me make it up to you (says again)

[KAREN]
I'll think about it

She walks off
He turns her around again

[HENRY HILL]
let me make it up to you (says again)

She walks backwards to her car

[KAREN]
It's gonna cost you Hill
[KAREN]
It's gonna cost you alot(with big smile on her face)

after some time they got married

on the first date henry basically said nothing to her and was rushing the other couple on the double date to finish so he could do some thing else. After the date he was rushing his date so much be basically pushed her into the car and yanked her out when he took her home.

After she confronted him Henry said
she looked good.......she had these great eyes like lizz taylor

i'm guessing Henry was interested in the beginning but acted like he wasn't

What do you guys think is this man a DJ or what?

 

[Pancho84]

if you find that you have to stand someone in order to increase their interest, you are not a DJ, you are immature. If a girl is loosing interest it's HER LOSS not yours, a DJ would move on.... by the way, that sounds more like you have ONEITIS ... go read the Bible.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Pancho84
if you find that you have to stand someone in order to increase their interest, you are not a DJ, you are immature. If a girl is loosing interest it's HER LOSS not yours, a DJ would move on.... by the way, that sounds more like you have ONEITIS ... go read the Bible.

*** Golf clap from the gallery ***
Bravo...

 

[Interpol]

Originally posted by Pancho84
if you find that you have to stand someone in order to increase their interest, you are not a DJ, you are immature. If a girl is loosing interest it's HER LOSS not yours, a DJ would move on.... by the way, that sounds more like you have ONEITIS ... go read the Bible.

Blah blah blah blah blah. I'm really getting tired of this self-righteous bullsh*t from people who think that a DJ follows one perfect set of rules.

And what the fvck does oneitis have to do with anything he posted?

 

[ego]

All i hear is "go read the Bible."


Very creative!
Thanks for the advice!
Bravo!

 

[thejuice]

You shouldnt purposefully stand up a girl...its gay. Instead, show her the time of her life

Juice

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

Remember, in movies there ar happy endings to make the audience feel good - in real life there is no audience to appease - expect a different outcome!!


Here is a real life scenario..

Yodoso "stands up" girl

Girl sees yodoso walking while driving by

girl doesn't say anything and keeps driving

yodoso doesn't hear from girl again!!!!

20 years later yodoso becomes a lonely fool and regrets playing games!!!!!

 

[squirrels]

Posts: 9

'nuff said.

 

[Tha Realnezz]

Originally posted by thejuice
You shouldnt purposefully stand up a girl...its gay. Instead, show her the time of her life

Juice

^^I agree 100%.

 

[yodoso]

hey, it's been field tested

you either like it or you don't
plain and simple

everyone is entitled to their own opinon

you guy's know mine

 

[AverageFC]

so what about say canceling the third date(because youre "busy with other plans") vs standing her up the third date?

 

[diablo]

Originally posted by yodoso
What do you guys think is this man a DJ or what?

It's Hollywood. The lines are scripted, and she reacts exactly how the director wants her to. Nothing more, nothing less. Get over it.

Originally posted by yodoso
hey, it's been field tested

Yes. In a movie.

 

[Pancho84]

I think it comes down to a misconception as to what a DJ does - a DJ doesnt attract girls to blow them off, girls are attracted to DJs because they are unique in their ways. Now if you are a girl and here's John A. and he is cool and stands you up on your date. And then here's John B and he's cool, courteous, professional - and actually has the face and the maturity level to discuss issues. If both Johns walk away from a woman, which is the bigger loss?

It doesnt take a rocket scientist.

What does it have to do with Oneitis?????? He's obviously spending valuable energy and thought (oh boy I need to blow her off so she doesnt think she has be wrapped around her finger, so she can realize she might loose me, so her interest level possibly goes up so .... bladibladibla because shes the only girl left on earth blaaaaaaaa) in that ammount of time you could have met a new gal that is worth your time and gotten her number.... Date more than one woman at once and you'll never have to stand one up because her interest goes down.. when you date more than one at once, so what if one goes down, you already have your next week worth of dates mapped out....
A DJ is not a player or someone that plays mind games. A DJ is a MAN with balls to stand up for himself, what he believes and has the maturity and manners to do so.

 

[Interpol]

Originally posted by Pancho84
I think it comes down to a misconception as to what a DJ does - a DJ doesnt attract girls to blow them off, girls are attracted to DJs because they are unique in their ways. Now if you are a girl and here's John A. and he is cool and stands you up on your date. And then here's John B and he's cool, courteous, professional - and actually has the face and the maturity level to discuss issues. If both Johns walk away from a woman, which is the bigger loss?

Once again, where is this grand official definition of a DJ written down exactly? Whether or not you want to admit it, mind games play a large apart in attraction. Neg hits, being a challenge, being mysterious, these are all mind games in one form or another.

Originally posted by Pancho84
What does it have to do with Oneitis?????? He's obviously spending valuable energy and thought (oh boy I need to blow her off so she doesnt think she has be wrapped around her finger, so she can realize she might loose me, so her interest level possibly goes up so .... bladibladibla because shes the only girl left on earth blaaaaaaaa) in that ammount of time you could have met a new gal that is worth your time and gotten her number.... [/B]

So let me get this straight - you're saying it takes effort to NOT show up to a date? Think about that for a second.

Originally posted by Pancho84
Date more than one woman at once and you'll never have to stand one up because her interest goes down.. when you date more than one at once, so what if one goes down, you already have your next week worth of dates mapped out....
[/B]

I agree you should be dating more than one woman...but that has nothing to do with the tip he gave, or overzealous NEXTing. Women are fickle by nature; if you next a girl anytime she shows a slight decline in interest, then you're missing out on lots of potential pvssy.

Originally posted by Pancho84
A DJ is not a player or someone that plays mind games. A DJ is a MAN with balls to stand up for himself, what he believes and has the maturity and manners to do so. [/B]

Again you go back to your mysterious official definition of a DJ. Would you care to enlighten us exactly WHERE this definition exists?

And also, you claim a DJ is not a player, yet you strongly advocate dating multiple women at once...Make up your mind!

 

[Pancho84]

By dating I dont mean boyfriend/girlfriend. I mean dating. A player is someone that makes more than one woman think she's the only one in his life - There's a difference between dating and a relationship. In other words a player is someone that holds more than one "commited" relationship. Let a woman know that she's basically "trying out" to win you while you are dating. The reward the lucky one that makes the final cut will get, will be being in a relationship with YOU.

You are the prize here buddy. A woman that knows what she wants is going to date multiple guys - Shes going to weight her options and see how each one makes her feel. And the alpha is going to make the final cut. That alpha should undoubtedly be you, without second thoughts in her head. Charm her, respect her and challenge her in such a manner that she won't even think twice about picking you. Leave her no room for second thoughts every time and you won't need to cancel any dates or play any self defeating mind games.

Being in a relationship with a DJ is a privilege - there are plenty of douche bags out there. Being in a relationship with a high quality, smart, beautiful, one of a kind woman is also a privilege - one reserved for DJs. If you can both respect each other in that manner, you hit a jackpot.

There's no reason to play mind games if you are serious and have some integrity. If you can't be comfortable enough with yourself(in this case the woman I would be seeing), comfortable enough to tell me things like adults do instead of expecting mind reading, then I wouldnt have to try to "cheat you" or make you think certain things so that you end up liking me. The less mind games you play now, the less mind games you will play later. And when you finally find a woman that is worth marrying or going long term with, do you really want to be with someone that is dependent upon mind games to keep liking you? Sounds pretty stressful to me.... and it is NOT necessary. You are setting yourself up for disaster if you go long term or marry a woman you have to keep doing that kind of string pulling with. She's not a puppet for crying out loud.... unless of course her insecurities let her be a puppet. Granted most people in our society are that way however... most people can't stand up for themselves.

In my opinion, the essence of the DJ is someone that women feel attracted to for their whole package(and I dont mean that in a sexual manner LOL) Because of his unique "blend" of qualities such as NOT playing mind games, being clear in communication and being suave in his thought process, being pro-active instead of re-active, being original instead of "cookie-cutter". In other words his ability to truly keep his posture and not just knowing how to fake keeping his posture.... Playing mind games only cheats you out of finding a woman worth your time. Well at least my time. Think about that.

 

[Pancho84]

Oh yeah, and the definition I guess you could say is not written in stone but it is written however in what worthwhile women want... And no woman with high self esteem and conviction of self worth, and at least in my case worth my time, wants to or would even allow you to play mind games with her. A "DJ woman" expects a "DJ man"

All in all however, I guess it is afterall a subjective definition that varies based on expectations you hold of yourself - which in turn, deep down, dictates expectations you hold of others and consequently of worthwhile mates. If you tell yourself you have to play mindgames so they will end up diggin you because that's the way most women are, then you are simply settling for that - most women. It's not necessary to settle for most women, unless that's what you have told yourself.
If that's what you want, then be my guest. The 5 star women with 5 star standards are going to end up with 5 star men with 5 star standards - men like me. Most women however, will settle for most men... think about that.