originally by bpm2cpm, good post
Hooking up with any woman, regardless of number, is about showing to her you can provide her with the resources she is looking for. To hook up and get a woman long term you need:
1) A woman seeking resources from a man
2) Ability to provide practically the EXACT resources the woman is looking for
3) Ability to show the woman you can provide these resources
These resources ARE NOT looks. Don't even worry what your number is!
Resources include kindness, money, time, communication, ability to make the feel woman safe (e.g., fend off competition), social skills, career. The list goes on and every woman puts a different priority on each resource at any given time at her life. It's impossible to be everything to every woman. So don't even try and don't worry about it.
To get any woman, 1 through 10, you have to be there at the right place, the right time, and be aware enough to identify her signals, and move in.
Get out there, have fun, and pick up, on each woman's signal. Work on your ability to provide resources too, grow as a person, work on career, work on social skills. Your ability to provide resources only gets better every year.
For every 100 women you meet, there may be only one or two where resources are a perfect match and she is throwing herself at you. So get out there, meet lot's of women, and find the match. A perfect match makes the whole process almost effortless.
The better your resource skill set, the higher number you can get. It's as simple as that.
Oxide add: So why dont you get confident in the things you are capable in and use that when you see what she is looking for.
Hooking up with any woman, regardless of number, is about showing to her you can provide her with the resources she is looking for. To hook up and get a woman long term you need:
1) A woman seeking resources from a man
2) Ability to provide practically the EXACT resources the woman is looking for
3) Ability to show the woman you can provide these resources
These resources ARE NOT looks. Don't even worry what your number is!
Resources include kindness, money, time, communication, ability to make the feel woman safe (e.g., fend off competition), social skills, career. The list goes on and every woman puts a different priority on each resource at any given time at her life. It's impossible to be everything to every woman. So don't even try and don't worry about it.
To get any woman, 1 through 10, you have to be there at the right place, the right time, and be aware enough to identify her signals, and move in.
Get out there, have fun, and pick up, on each woman's signal. Work on your ability to provide resources too, grow as a person, work on career, work on social skills. Your ability to provide resources only gets better every year.
For every 100 women you meet, there may be only one or two where resources are a perfect match and she is throwing herself at you. So get out there, meet lot's of women, and find the match. A perfect match makes the whole process almost effortless.
The better your resource skill set, the higher number you can get. It's as simple as that.
Oxide add: So why dont you get confident in the things you are capable in and use that when you see what she is looking for.