Great Tip-BEING HAPPY

[suaveplayer]

got this through the newsletter, its so good i thought i needed to share. tried it today and it worked like crazy!


THE MOST POWERFUL GIRL-GETTIN TECHNIQUE OF ALL TIME
by Allen Thompson


I'm browsing through a Pier 1 Imports store, checking out the many
cool and unique items.

I'm feeling good -- very good, in fact. It's hot, the sun is
shining, and there's some hip reggae on the sound system. (Nothing
like the combination of heat, sun, and reggae to bring out my
not-so-deeply-hidden parrothead side.)

I'm bouncing through the store, a big smile on my face, practically
dancing through the isles, and finding all kinds of interesting
stuff for the "bachelor pad."

I look up, and what do I spy, but a major cutie (a store employee)
in the tightest, most form-fittingest jeans I've ever seen. She's
been watching me it appears, checking me out. As I catch her eye,
she startles, and immediately looks the other way, getting back to
her work -- putting things on shelves and such.

I smile to myself.

Then I just laugh.

I knew this one was going to be easy. My "work" was already done.

She hadn't just noticed me, she had seen me HAPPY. She had
witnessed me bouncing around with a big smile on my face, dancing
through the isles, feeling great, almost like a kid in a candy
store. I knew, assuming she wasn't married, the outcome of our
imminent interaction was pretty much assured.

I continued my browsing, and about 3 minutes later she comes over
to see if I need any "help." Conversation, flirting, and laughter
ensued, numbers were exchanged, and we both went on our merry
little ways... just a little bit happier than we were before.

It really doesn't get any easier.

It really doesn't have to be all that hard.

In this newsletter and at the site we talk about a lot of cool and
unusual ways of attracting and intriguing women. And these are
cool, interesting, and great to read, no doubt about it.

But we often ignore and overlook some of the most basic
"techniques." And that, unfortunately, includes the most basic,
most important, most powerful, and EASIEST WAY to capture a woman's
heart, mind, and imagination -- and that's simply the power of
happiness.

Happiness attracts!

Happiness will get you women!

And nothing is easier or more powerful!

NO, not even the "confidence" that we so frequently discuss.

A happy man with low confidence will have little trouble with
women, while an unhappy man with high confidence may find himself
struggling. Of course, that being said, happiness and confidence
almost always go together. Happy guys are generally pretty
confident guys, and confident guys are generally pretty happy guys.

There's not a perfect correlation, but they're related enough that
it's reasonable to assume that if we can increase our level of
happiness, then we'd most likely also increase our level of
confidence. And vice versa.

So rather than focus so much on building confidence, which most
guys seem to have quite a problem achieving, maybe a better
strategy might be to focus on building happiness.

You have to remember that most people in this world are not all
that happy. Most are just getting by, often bored, frequently
depressed, rarely excited. So when they meet someone who is happy
and who seems to be happy most of the time, they're intrigued,
fascinated, and drawn to that person.

They want to try to get some of that happiness for themselves!

And this is especially true for women.

Remember, women are highly emotional critters. They don't think
logically like you and me. They like, want, NEED to feel things. So
if you can capture a woman's emotions, make her think that you
bring, spread, and exude "happiness" wherever you go, she'll do
just about anything to get you, and just about anything to keep you.

So YOU, my future Dons, are going to be Mr. Happiness, Mr.
Positivity, Mr. I'm Doing Great! You are going to be her happiness
drug, her "fix." And friends, when you are not around, she's going
to have FREAKIN WITHDRAWAL PAINS!

You are NOT going to be like everyone else... one of the many,

lonely, pathetic individuals looking for happiness, excitement, and
personal fulfillment in OTHERS. You are not going to be that
unhappy, bored, lethargic individual desperately searching for your
"soul mate" to make your life wonderful and complete...

...like 98% of the people in this world!!

You are going to be the one doing the attracting, not the one doing
the chasing. Attracting because you have, or seem to have, what
women, and everyone else, wants. You are going to be what they are
looking for. You are going to be a Don Juan.

I can hear some of you: "I understand what you're saying, and
you're right. But I'm not really all that happy. I'm lonely. My
life is dull. I'm tired of watching television. I'm tired of
staying home all the time. But I know if I had that one special
girl in my life, to do things with, then I'd be happy. Heck, that's
why I subscribed to this newsletter."

And you're right. You probably would be happier if you had a
special girl in your life, especially one that really rocks your
world. Girls is good stuff to have around, no doubt about it.

And, by the way, that's one of the reasons for the "feast or
famine" dating phenomenon that most every guy is familiar with.

It seems that when it comes to attracting and dating women, you're
either surrounded by women who are all shamelessly throwing
themselves at you... or you're surrounded by women who are all
doing their best to completely ignore you (and doing a great job at
it). There doesn't really seem to be much of a middle ground.

You either have more women than you can handle, or you have no
women that you can handle.

Of course one of the primary reasons for this is the "happiness"
factor. When you're seeing that special girl that really gets your
griddle sizzlin, you're happy, much happier than your usual self...
and other girls notice, other girls are intrigued, other girls want
to find out more, and other girls want to try to get a little bit
of that happiness for themselves.

At this point, it's easy. You don't even really have to try. You're
on the verge of Don Juanism... at least temporarily.

On the other hand, when you're lonely, depressed, bored,
desperate... you "show it" -- with your body language, your facial
expressions, the tone in your voice, etc. -- and girls want nothing
to do with you. They've got enough unhappiness and misery of their
own. They don't need to be worrying about you as well.

So yes I can understand you wanting to find someone special in
order to be happy. That is what most guys (and girls) do.
Unfortunately, this is putting the Don Juan Cart Before the Horse
so to speak.

If you're looking for someone else to make you happy, to give your
life meaning, to make you "complete", then you're doing things, as
the French would say, bass ackwards. Yes, you're doing things like
98% of the people in the world, but it's still wrong.

So wrong.

Just wrong.

Don Juans don't pursue women in a desperate, pathetic attempt at
happiness, or to complete themselves, or any of the other hogwash
that Hollywood likes to dish out. Don Juans make themselves happy,
deliriously happy, FIRST. And then "pick and choose" amongst all
the incredible women who are now interested, attracted, and
intrigued. This is the goal.

This is the Holy Grail of dating.

The goal is not simply to pursue so many women that eventually you
wind up catching one or two. Well, maybe at first, but not
ultimately.

The goal is to develop that "aura" that attracts, intrigues,
fascinates... and gets them pursuing you. (Note: You may still have
to make most of the "moves." But the women will do their best to
make it extremely easy for you.)

 

[suaveplayer]

Okay, if we can accept the fact that happiness attracts women like
nothing else, let's talk just briefly about HOW TO GET HAPPY.

In the future we'll talk more extensively about ways to temporarily
"fake" happiness, especially when you're not really feeling all
that great. But let us here, first of all, talk about some ways to
actually make ourselves a little happier, really.

I'm not going to try to distill the wisdom of the ages into just a
few paragraphs. Heck, there are probably hundreds of books at your
local bookstore dealing with this very subject. But I would like to
give you an easy exercise that just might get you jump-started in
the right direction.

First, remember that happiness and unhappiness work a little
something like this:

We are happy when we're thinking good things and unhappy when
thinking bad things. In other words, our thoughts, or what we
CHOOSE to think about, determine whether we are happy or not.
(Nothing really mind-boggling here, folks.)

If we're thinking about ourselves in a negative way (what we lack,
our particular faults, things we don't like about ourselves) and/or
comparing ourselves to others who are seemingly more blessed than
us (guys who are rich, famous, handsome, surrounded by women), then
we're not going to be very happy... and others will notice.

However, if we're thinking about ourselves in a positive way (what
we have, all our good points, about things that we really like
about ourselves) and/or comparing ourselves to others who seem to
be less fortunate than us, then we're going to be much happier...
and people will notice.

In other words, happiness is not something that "happens" to you;
it's not something that's objectively determined and out of your
control. Happiness is determined entirely by what you think, and
what you think is up to you.

You can be destitute, alone, living in a cardboard box, and still
be deliriously happy if you choose to be. (Maybe focusing your
mental energy on your good health and feeling bad for the fellow
living in the box next to you who can hardly walk.)

You can also be the richest, best-looking, most famous and
well-liked guy in the world, and still be miserable, if you choose
to focus on "bad" things. (Maybe the love of your life divorced you
two years ago, your nephew died recently, you don't think you have
any "real" friends, or whatever.)

Again, this is not mind-boggling stuff here. I hope you all realize
this already.

So what we need to do in order to make ourselves happier, and start
attracting the chickies, is to train ourselves in the HABIT of
happiness thinking. Happiness is a habit of thought, it's a
learned, conditioned behavior.

Most people, unfortunately, have developed the habit of unhappiness
thinking. Always obsessing over what they don't have, what they
hate about themselves, constantly comparing themselves to others
who are better off, etc.

In order to become Don Juans, we need to retrain our minds. We need
to train our minds to habitually think happy thoughts rather than
unhappy ones.

The following is very simple, very commonsensical, but will
definitely work, if you give it a try.

Take out a piece of paper and begin writing down happiness thoughts
-- things which when you read or think about them trigger states of
happiness, or confidence, or pleasure in your mind.

For example, write down all the things you like about yourself, all
the things you've accomplished, all the things that make you a
great human being to be around. Include things such as:

- personality characteristics (your great sense of humor)
- physical characteristics (your killer hair)
- accomplishments (your MS in electrical engineering)
- specific memories that put a smile on your face and make you feel good
- possessions (maybe a great car that any woman would be lucky to even sit in)
- friends, family, associates
- etc.

Anything and everything you can think of. Anything that makes you
realize that you're not a loser, that you're actually a heck of a
guy, and any woman would be LUCKY to have a shot at you.

Write down as many things as you can think of now -- you may need
several sheets of paper -- then put the paper on your dresser or on
your kitchen table or someplace conspicuous and continually add to
it over the next couple weeks, every time you think of something new.

Heck, write down that smiling little girl that you saw on the news
the other day, the one who's 6 years old and already has had 15
operations because of a birth defect. How could anyone watch or
think about something like that and not feel extremely fortunate
that they themselves were born healthy and normal.

Once you have all your lists, you need to start training your mind
to focus more on the great things about you and your life, rather
than focusing on the things you don't like.

To break the bad habit of negative, unhappiness thinking, we need
to repeatedly, over a period of time, maybe a few weeks, force
ourselves to think about, remember, and focus on things that
generate a positive, confident, and happy emotional state.

We're not going to get rid of our negative thoughts by not thinking
about our faults and failures. (In order to consciously not think
about something, you have to think about it.) We're going to get
rid of our negative thoughts by replacing them with positive ones.

Once we have our sheets of paper, all we have to do is schedule
time to review.

Spend 5 or 10 minutes before going to sleep reviewing your lists.
Spend another 5 or 10 minutes in the morning doing the same. 5
minutes during lunch. Another 5 in the afternoon.

Don't make this hard. Don't make it a chore. It should actually be
fun and something that you look forward to. (Who doesn't like to
feel good?)

Spend a few weeks doing this, a few weeks reviewing your lists and
retraining your mind. It WILL work. Your thinking will change. Your
manner will change. Your walk will change. Your body language will
change. Your confidence will change.

And women will notice!

 

[Bonafide]

Much props man... I definetly agree

 

[Bluesteak]

Word on that

 

[CTApprentice]

I did something similar to this..and let me tell you...it works!! my confidence has greatly peaked.

 

[SinJester]

Brilliant.

 

[CarbonFX]

Agreed, but have a slight disagreement with

Happiness attracts!

Happiness will get you women!

And nothing is easier or more powerful!

NO, not even the "confidence" that we so frequently discuss.

I think that happiness is an after effect or a result of being a confident person. I haven't really seen any confident person really happy. Well unless he's an AFC and he got a HB but that only temporary twisted sort of happiness not natural.

 

[gonnamakeit]

awesome tip gonna do this

 

[Cassanova_Child]

Agreed, but have a slight disagreement with



I think that happiness is an after effect or a result of being a confident person. I haven't really seen any confident person really happy. Well unless he's an AFC and he got a HB but that only temporary twisted sort of happiness not natural.

i think that confidence is a result of being happy. think about it, if you're happy with who you are, etc... people can't tell you **** that you're wrong, etc.... and that makes you confident.

 

[SinJester]

Confidence is an illusion. If you are walking around happy you will come accross as confident. If you are walking around 'confident' then you aren't thing 'damn I feel so confident!'. Confidence is basically internal validation as apposed to external.