Looking for some guidance here...
So I was down at Preakness (the all-day drinking event/horse race) last month with a bunch of my friends and met a girl (through another friend) that has the following traits:
-age 23 9/10 looks and she knows it
-very flirty on the flirtiness scale
-she seemed like the attention-type (some may view this as a negative, but I have pulled some of these before) that gets attention from a lot of guys
-very heavy kino coming from her - touching me, multiple hugs, grabbing my hand to hold, acted very happy to see me throughout the day and again at night at bars, got a kiss on cheek and lips (no tounge)
-found out I work in NYC, she told me she just got a job there and suggested "oh we should hang out!"
*during my interactions with her I played it very cool and laid back - this style usually works for me.*
I end up going home the next day. Next afternoon I get back to NYC where I live (I am 25 years old btw). I log onto my computer and see this girl has asked me to be her friend over facebook (similiar to myspace, but better imho). she sent me a msg saying "i had a great time meeting you" i accept her as a friend which gives her access to each other's profiles.
i reply to her msg and say "hey, i had fun meeting you too [name]. lets hang out again... would you like to meet me out for drinks one day in the city?' <--- i remember her telling me she just got a new job in NYC and wanted to hang out, however she lives at home in NJ and does not yet live in the city) I pretty much knew she was going to say yes.
she replys, "i would love to" etc.
i reply back ask for her number and tell her I will call her in a couple weeks (after she starts her new job)
So at this point, I think I am working this girl by the DJ book pretty well and this looks like a great prospect, right?
I call her 2 weeks later and leave a voicemail - "hey [name] its barbillus just giving you a call so we figure out what day we can meet up for drinks, call me back at [number]"
3 days later I finally get a response from her via text message - 'hey got your message, sorry i havent called you back yet but i've had a week of late nights, im still at work but i will call you next week and hopefully we can meet up soon, have a fun weekend"
I'm thinking whatever, she has a new job maybe she has been there late all week or whatever and she'll call me back next week like she said.
(I am aware the ball is in her court now, but alas, this is how this particular girl's situation unfolded w/ me)
It has been almost 1.5 weeks now since her txt and she has yet to call me back.
1) WHY!!!? I had IMMENSLY positive signs from her.. hahha yea I know none of you can answer the why question haha.
2) Should I just NEXT this one or make another attempt? I could send her another email or text message.. but what do you suggest I say/phrase it? I dont want to come across as desperate/needy by asking her why she hasn't called me back yet like she said.
I want the chance to try and lay this girl, but I need to hang out with her one on one first and see what happens. I just dont understand why this one hasn't materialized to a one on one meeting, I probably had some of the highest LOIs ever!! haha it baffles me!!
So I was down at Preakness (the all-day drinking event/horse race) last month with a bunch of my friends and met a girl (through another friend) that has the following traits:
-age 23 9/10 looks and she knows it
-very flirty on the flirtiness scale
-she seemed like the attention-type (some may view this as a negative, but I have pulled some of these before) that gets attention from a lot of guys
-very heavy kino coming from her - touching me, multiple hugs, grabbing my hand to hold, acted very happy to see me throughout the day and again at night at bars, got a kiss on cheek and lips (no tounge)
-found out I work in NYC, she told me she just got a job there and suggested "oh we should hang out!"
*during my interactions with her I played it very cool and laid back - this style usually works for me.*
I end up going home the next day. Next afternoon I get back to NYC where I live (I am 25 years old btw). I log onto my computer and see this girl has asked me to be her friend over facebook (similiar to myspace, but better imho). she sent me a msg saying "i had a great time meeting you" i accept her as a friend which gives her access to each other's profiles.
i reply to her msg and say "hey, i had fun meeting you too [name]. lets hang out again... would you like to meet me out for drinks one day in the city?' <--- i remember her telling me she just got a new job in NYC and wanted to hang out, however she lives at home in NJ and does not yet live in the city) I pretty much knew she was going to say yes.
she replys, "i would love to" etc.
i reply back ask for her number and tell her I will call her in a couple weeks (after she starts her new job)
So at this point, I think I am working this girl by the DJ book pretty well and this looks like a great prospect, right?
I call her 2 weeks later and leave a voicemail - "hey [name] its barbillus just giving you a call so we figure out what day we can meet up for drinks, call me back at [number]"
3 days later I finally get a response from her via text message - 'hey got your message, sorry i havent called you back yet but i've had a week of late nights, im still at work but i will call you next week and hopefully we can meet up soon, have a fun weekend"
I'm thinking whatever, she has a new job maybe she has been there late all week or whatever and she'll call me back next week like she said.
(I am aware the ball is in her court now, but alas, this is how this particular girl's situation unfolded w/ me)
It has been almost 1.5 weeks now since her txt and she has yet to call me back.
1) WHY!!!? I had IMMENSLY positive signs from her.. hahha yea I know none of you can answer the why question haha.
2) Should I just NEXT this one or make another attempt? I could send her another email or text message.. but what do you suggest I say/phrase it? I dont want to come across as desperate/needy by asking her why she hasn't called me back yet like she said.
I want the chance to try and lay this girl, but I need to hang out with her one on one first and see what happens. I just dont understand why this one hasn't materialized to a one on one meeting, I probably had some of the highest LOIs ever!! haha it baffles me!!